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Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio! In this eye-opening episode, we explore the profound impact of polygraphs in the journey of healing from sexual infidelity and betrayal trauma. Our special guest, Stephen Cabler, a renowned polygraph examiner, shares his extensive expertise and real-life experiences in polygraph testing for sex addiction recovery. Listen in as Stephen discusses the process, benefits,...

Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio! In this episode, we dive deep into the world of polygraphs for betrayal recovery with polygraph expert Stephen Cabler. Discover essential insights on preparing for full disclosures, uncovering the truth, and utilizing polygraphs as a tool for healing and rebuilding trust. Stephen shares his extensive experience, success stories, and personal anecdotes that provide ho...

Join us for another episode of Joy Recovery Radio, where we dive into traveling post-betrayal and infidelity. Hosts Roy and Jacqueline discuss the challenges and strategies for safe traveling, sharing six essential lessons learned and a five-step process they use. Whether you're planning a beach vacation or navigating local events, this episode offers valuable insights into maintaining safety and...

Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio. In this episode, we explore seven different types of love according to the ancient Greeks and discuss which ones are vital for creating a new, intimate relationship after betrayal. We delve into the characteristics and roles of Eros, Phileo, Storge, Ludus, Mania, Pragma, and Agape, and how they each contribute to healing and rebuilding trust. We also provide practica...

Welcome to this episode of Joy Recovery Radio! Today, we delve into groundbreaking research comparing five interventions for sex addiction recovery: willpower, mindfulness, awe, life meaning and purpose, and distraction. Discover which intervention proved most effective in reducing desire and increasing self-agency among addicts. Learn about meaning-centered recovery, the concept of existential va...

In this emotionally charged episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the controversial topic of whether sex is a need. Our host, drawing from expertise in behavior science, theology, and personal experience with sexual integrity issues, argues that sex is a desire rather than a necessity. This discussion is primarily geared towards men struggling with sex addiction, but it is not intended for...

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we continue exploring the Minwalla model by diving into Deceptive Compartmentalized Sexual Relational Reality (DCSR) and its impacts. Building on part one, we discuss the secret sexual basement analogy, deceptive sexuality, trauma on victims, and the next steps for both betrayers and victims. Join us as we delve into the unique form of trauma caused by decept...

Understanding the Minwalla Model: Deceptive Sexuality and Integrity Abuse Disorder - Joy Recovery Radio Welcome to Joy Recovery Radio's new multi-part series exploring the Minwalla Model. In this episode, we delve into the concepts of deceptive sexuality and integrity abuse disorder, explaining how these issues result in unique forms of trauma for all involved. This educational content is designed...

In this compelling episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we dive deep into myths and misconceptions surrounding addiction and recovery. Focusing on the concept of powerlessness, we emphasize the importance of free will and mental autonomy in overcoming addictive behaviors. Challenging the belief that addiction is an involuntary condition, we explore how personal choice and perspective shifts play a criti...

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the complex topic of emotional distance by exploring the mindset of a sex addict. Share in a personal journey to understand why intimacy is often avoided and emotions suppressed. Learn about Dr. Minwalla's concept of Integrity Abuse Disorder (IAD) behaviors and the fight, flight, and freeze responses. The episode also discusses how deeply embedd...

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the crucial topic of relapse in addiction recovery. The discussion includes differentiating between relapse and slip, and the importance of recognizing and discarding the term 'slip' from recovery vocabulary. The episode introduces a 'threat detection tool,' comprising three concentric circles representing 'acting out,' 'acting in,' and various...

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the insidious and often overlooked issue of invalidation in relationships. Host [Host Name] provides a comprehensive look at what invalidation is, how it manifests, and its devastating effects on both individuals and their relationships. Through research and expert insights, you’ll learn about the long-term emotional damage caused by invalidatio...

Welcome to the final episode of our three-part series on intimacy! In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we delve into the Imago Dialogue, an effective communication tool created by Harville Hendricks and Helen Hunt to bridge communication gaps in relationships. Learn about the history and principles of the Imago Dialogue, how to practice it, and its major benefits, including psychological safety...

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, we dive into the importance and practice of daily check-ins for building emotional intimacy in relationships. Continuing our three-part series on intimacy, we discuss why intimacy with God and self is foundational before one can achieve true intimacy with others. We introduce and break down the FANOS method (Feelings, Appreciation, Needs, Ownership, Struggles...

Welcome to another episode of Joy Recovery Radio! We're diving into a three-part series on intimacy, starting with self intimacy. Discover how understanding and connecting with yourself can transform your relationship and help overcome shame and addiction. Learn the importance of self intimacy, the framework of shame, and how intimacy with God, self, and others paves the path to true recovery. We'...

Welcome to another episode of Joy Recovery Radio, where we delve into the concept of 'acting in' as opposed to 'acting out.' Using insights from psychologist Donald Nathanson's work on shame, we explore the core wounds of insignificance, incompetence, and impotence that often drive shame-based belief systems. Learn about Nathanson's 'compass of shame' and the four poles of shame responses: avoidin...

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, hosts Roy and Jacqueline delve into the complex topic of triggers, particularly emotional and trauma triggers experienced by both men and women. They discuss the impact of broken trust and how it can generate intense emotional and trauma responses. The couple shares personal stories and practical approaches to manage and reduce triggers, while emphasizing the...

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, join us as we delve deep into the topic of resentment and its critical role in addiction and recovery. Coaches Roy and Jacqueline explore their unique framework called S-ABCD, illustrating how shame, addiction, bitterness, control, and deceptive beliefs interlink to create a complex system of living and thinking. This episode specifically focuses on resentmen...

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, Roy delves into the complex topics of lust and objectification, exploring whether they are morally wrong and why. Drawing on both scripture and behavioral science, Roy illustrates how these two fields often converge in their understanding of human behavior. He explains Jesus's teachings on lust from the Gospel of Matthew and parallels them with findings from...

Welcome to another episode of Joy Recovery Radio with Jacqueline and Roy. Today, they dive into a sensitive and significant topic — overcoming lust, also known as objectification. Sharing their personal journey, they introduce their unique approach and the four phases they went through: defining the line, detecting the line, defending the line, and devoting the line. They discuss tools like Dr. Ca...

In this episode of Joy Recovery Radio, Roy discusses the critical distinction between addiction and abuse, particularly in the context of compulsive sexual behavior. He emphasizes the importance of terminology, arguing that focusing solely on addiction can overshadow the reality of abuse and its impact on victims. Roy introduces the Minwalla model, which addresses both compulsive behavior and abus...

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