Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

If you've found yourself avoiding conversations with your spouse after being blamed or attacked for insignificant events, accused of things you haven't even thought of doing, ignored, or had the topic changed before anything you said/asked was addressed, you are living with someone who uses "deflection" and the blaming and shaming that goes along with it to protect their fragile ego from having to...

In this enchanting episode, we unlock the secrets of using "magic words" to navigate interactions with narcissists. Join us as we explore the fascinating world of communication techniques that can help you get what you want from a narcissistic personality. Today's episode offers a unique and powerful approach to communicating with a narcissist that enables you to protect your interests without con...

When you have been living with addiction, alcoholism, and trauma, divorce is bound to feel and be high conflict. There have likely been many toxic episodes if not seasons. You may know your soon-to-be-ex needs help. So do you. Today we look at the journey from 'dis-ease' to wholistic health - physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Our guest has journeyed from addiciton to recovery and...

Co-parenting in after the standard, 'garden variety' divorce can be difficult. When you add high conflict divorce where communicating, collaborating, showing respect, kindness and grace is often absent, co-parenting takes on a new level of complexity. Today my friend, Lesa Koski, and I explore those challenges and the solutions available for parents who are willing to always put the kids first…eve...

Today we are looking at an alternative to therapy that may sound quite new to many of you. We're exploring the use of psychedelic medicines, such as ketamine, MDMA, cannabis, and psilocybin (mushrooms), to engage the subconscious. When used in this therapeutic safe 'container', they express meaningful manifestations of your mind. The non-rational sensations, emotions, thoughts, and images that are...

It is natural to experience strong emotions such as grief, anger, resentment, fear, and anxiety during and after divorce. Resisting those painful feelings will not make them go away, it will make them grow and fester inside of you. Conversely, ongoing, repetitive thoughts that focus on blame, shame, past hurts and disappointments, and worries about the future will leave you feeling exhausted, stre...

If your marriage has felt chaotic and confusing and over the years you have become unhinged, shut down and felt a loss of self, you need to hear this podcast! A lightbulb goes on when you understand what narcissistic personality disorder looks and feels like. You have been gaslit, diminished and belittled for so long you have begun to believe their narrative about you and probably deeply dislike t...

When going through the divorce process, it is easy to be in an unconscious state of living regarding your well-being as you are focused on so many other things...at least until something happens and you are forced to address it. Our encouragement is to begin now and don't wait for the crisis. JBD Coach, Tammy Oswald, suggests living more consciously and focusing on wellness bringing awareness and...

Journeying into and through divorce has. at best, many moments of 'normal' anxiety. Then there are individuals who have an anxiety disorder or who are married to someone who does. What is the difference? What happens when your normal or disordered anxiety is triggers? And most important, what can be done to calm these triggered reactions. Today we take a look at how to manage normal and disordered...

With High Conflict Divorce comes significant challenges; legally, emotionally and financially. When wealth is added to this mix, the complexities can feel astronomical. These complexities can come in the form of financial control and withholding, complicated high risk or international investments, multiple real estate holdings, etc. Education is vital in these cases and today we have one of the be...

This entire series is designed to speak with practitioners in modalities that cut through months or years of therapy, helping clients rapidly regulate so they can engage in and benefit from divorce coaching. Today we look at Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) which is a combination of ancient Chinese wisdom and modern psychology that relieves energetic blockages and regulates the nervous system. T...

If you are going through a divorce - or contemplating taking this step - and you have children, this podcast is for you. There are many who hold the position that divorce harms children. There is also a lot of information out there that claims this is not necessarily true. Under the best circumstances, children can emerge from "broken" families without being damaged in the process. Today we will t...

When living with and divorcing a dysfunctional high conflict personality is fraught with triggering experiences and reactive engagements. And this dynamic didn't start with your marriage, it began earlier in life with trauma that 'set you up' to be in a high conflict relationship. So how do you regulate your nervous system so that you can be more effective and confident entering and negotiating th...

While navigating divorce, fear of the unknown often drives us to replace our uncertainty with a catastrophic worst case scenario about our future. However, our greatest fears rarely come true. Today's session is designed to provide you with hope and encouragement as you hear one woman's journey from fear and overwhelm to a post divorce life that is very different from what she feared. Tune in as s...

The way we communicate will make or break our divorce. It will move us closer to what we desire or farther away. It will invite curiosity and compromise or judgement and destruction. In order to be able to communicate with mastery, we need to first be aware of our triggers and ways of behaving under stress. We also need to be able to read other people, their mood, body language and tone. When we c...

Entering the legal process of any divorce feels frightening and overwhelming. For those entering high conflict divorce, the fear and confusion is escalated due to years of living in a dysfunctional marriage and the complexities involved when divorcing a high conflict personality. There is often a greater need to be in the court system due to the power imbalance in the relationship, the lack of tra...

As you enter divorce negotiations it is imperative that you have a good handle on your financial picture and the value each asset represents. The fear and uncertainty of what your financial reality will be post-divorce can be paralyzing. Getting educated and enlisting professionals to support you in negotiating a win-win settlement is vital. can be paralyzing Today's guest Jaime Goodman, a CDFA (C...

Today's conversation highlights both the unique differences one faces when coparenting with a high conflict ex and the common challenges that we all face coparenting no matter when level of conflict we've experienced with our ex. Jess and TH are the founder of Exexperts. They were friends in marriage and besties post divorce. Tune in the hear the real life stories of fear, upset and overwhelm foll...

This episode is being shared from the Divorced People podcast which Karen McMahon was recently interviewed on. Divorced People is a podcast about divorce, marriage, and relationships. The host, Nicole Quallen, a divorced person and collaborative divorce lawyer, speaks with story-tellers who have been through the difficult, beautiful, complicated, super-stigmatized institution and are brave and rea...

Distance parenting was a new term to me when I found today's guest and given that I have been in the divorce field for over a dozen years, that surprised me. So today we are discussing "Long Distance Parenting: The challenges, rewards and best practices." The term Distance Parenting refers to those who are parenting from afar…another state, region or country….physically very far away from their ch...

Part 3 of our series focuses on how to appreciate and benefit from the different voices in your head and their unique perspectives by using "The Brain Huddle" , a practice author Jill Bolte Taylor, PhD refers to as a "Power Tool for Peace". The four voices or characters generated by four different types of neural tissue in our brains are somewhat stereotypical in their behavioral patterns which me...

Welcome to another episode of All Things Parenting. You're post divorce and survived the chaotic, complex, often times hostile and overwhelming divorce process. You thought you would be free, feel better, be less triggered and engaged with your ex. But you have kids together and somedays it feels like nothing has changed except you're living under separate roofs! How can you successfully co parent...

The neurons in our brains are not all alike. Our brains think and feel in four different ways, every one of us. We may be more aware of certain ways than others, and define ourselves by the ways of thinking that are habitual...which does not always serve us well, especially when navigating divorce and post divorce life. In today's show, Part 2 of You're Not Crazy: Exploring the Voices in Your Head...

As if divorce is not overwhelming enough, those facing 'international divorce' complexities encounter an entirely unique and complex set of challenges which are even further intensified if there are children involved. Join us as we speak to matrimonial attorneys Nicole Centracchio and Bryan Reed who specialize in international divorce. They talk about the importance of strategically deciding when...

Clare was beaming when we began talking, so excited about her new lease on life. She had a marriage that had been dead for a while, with little communication or emotional support. She found herself more anxious and depressed, even praying for a way out of life...until one day, she got really sick and found herself facing death which ironically gave her a desire to live again! The journey to health...