Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast

Our guest is none other than Bill Eddy, a leading expert in managing high-conflict personalities. As the pioneer in understanding and navigating the tumultuous waters of relationships with individuals exhibiting narcissistic or borderline traits, Bill brings a wealth of knowledge and practical wisdom. In this episode, we'll unravel the intricacies of his acclaimed book, "SPLITTING: Protecting Your...

High Conflict Divorce is hard and in the beginning you may struggle with self doubt and uncertainty.  I found this mind hack a while ago and was fascinated by the concept.  So here goes.  Activating your alter ego engages a mind hack that can support you in creating the change you desire. The Alter Ego Effect , written by Todd Herman teaches you how to adopt a different mindset and get motivated b...

If you feel like you are losing your mind as you enter divorce, I want you to know that it's totally normal.  Today I share what happens when you begin the journey through divorce and how your mental and emotional overload show up in your life.  I discuss the changes you begin to see in yourself and why things like brain fog, ADD tendencies, short triggers, and memory problems arise in the short t...

Geri was the primary parent for the entirety of her children's lives. During the four years of their court battle, dad never took the boys for an overnight...not even once. Yet she lost custody in an expensive, drawn out court battle. Listen as one woman tells her journey of heartbreak and healing, her court ruling on custody and the grief, personal growth and gifts that followed. Journey Beyond D...

Telling the children about your impending divorce is always a fragile, emotional conversation. The general rule is both parents tell the children together, refer to the decision as mutual and assure them that they are loved and their lives with continue with limited change. However, when facing a high conflict divorce, such advice may be unwise and even dangerous. If you are expecting your high co...

Ah, Valentine's Day! That time of year when love is in the air, and heart-shaped chocolates seem to pop up everywhere. For some, it's a day of romance and roses. For others, it's more like a scene from a tragicomedy – minus the comedy. But fear not!  If Valentine's Day feels like just another blip on the calendar, that's great.  Carry on!! However, if you find yourself feeling a bit blue as heart-...

Ann Margaret shares her struggles around faith and family when deciding whether or not to seek a divorce from her spouse of 19 years. As a devout Catholic, she needed to be 'right with God' and sought to understand if and how her desire to leave her marriage was aligned with her deep faith. She goes on to share her concerns for the impact the divorce would have on her children, the challenges of l...

Deciding whether to mend or end your marriage is a tender and complex decision.  Today we speak with Brian Burns about Discernment Counseling and how it is a safe and gentle process that brings immense value to the couple during this difficult time. Brian walks us through how Discernment Counseling works, the reason it is a short term process, under 2 months and how it differs in many ways from Ma...

Join me as I speak to a christian man about his journey through a high conflict marriage where he owns his part in the dissolution and shares the challenges of parallel parenting post divorce. Chris Espinoza of Men's Divorce Recovery speaks deeply about his recovery and healing journey and the vital role his faith played in keeping him tracking true to his desires to be the best dad and the best e...

Parental alienation is a deeply complex and emotionally charged issue, where one parent, influences the child to reject or fear the other parent. This process distresses the alienated parent, who experiences profound loss and heartache. It also inflicts psychological harm on the child. The child, caught in the crossfire of adult conflicts, might develop issues with trust, guilt, and self-esteem, o...

In the turbulent waters of high-conflict divorce, finding your anchor is essential for staying afloat. In this episode of "The Power Tria," we dive deep into how valuing your values, honoring your habits, and breaking down your behaviors can be the lifebuoy you need during this challenging journey. Discover the profound impact of aligning your actions with your core values. Today's guest will disc...

Living in a toxic intimate relationship can feel like being caught in an emotional maze—depleting your energy, disorienting your sense of self, and clouding your judgment. The journey to disentangle from harmful behaviors and limiting beliefs, deeply ingrained in such relationships, often appears daunting, terrifying, and isolating. Today, I'm thrilled to have Stephanie on the show, a beacon of li...

Thoughts on Attitude, Gratitude and Intentionality as we Wrap Up 2023 If you're in any stage of divorce, it can feel especially lonely, unfair, tender, confronting…today I want to talk about the gift of Attitude and Gratitude! Charles Swindoll Quote: The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.  Attitude, to me, is more important than facts.  It is more important than the...

Married couples over 50 are the fastest growing segment of the population divorcing.  There are numerous unique challenges with Grey Divorce.  Your children are older, which means you may need boundaries around their opinions and your desire to lean on them emotionally or financially.   You most likely have more life behind you than you have ahead of you. This limits your ability to recoup funds l...

Most men and women who live in dysfunctional marriages are challenged to find the strength and courage to leave, navigate what may very well be a high conflict divorce and figure out how to reinvent themselves post divorce. Today's guest walks us through her journey of using the pain of childhood challenges and an oppressive marriage to fuel personal growth and a better next chapter. Kate was a mo...

Custody battles are typical in high conflict divorce. The problem is the fight is often between two disregulated parents who love their kids but put them in the middle, causing unnecessary pain and suffering. Today's episode is meant to spotlight the confusion, suffering and trauma your children experience in the process of you fighting for what is 'best for your kids'. There is a better way, one...

I have a very special guest today. She is a deeply respected colleague of mine, a fervent advocate for women and has dedicated her life to helping them get clear on who they are, what they want and if their marriage is enhancing or diminishing them and the life they desire. Should I mend or should I end is one of the most excruciating decision to make. Living in a high conflict marriage means you...

A Parent Coordinator (PC) helps mediate and resolve disputes between parents in high conflict divorces. A PC is often a vital support both during and post divorce. If you find it impossible to make joint decisions with your STBX and virtually every interaction turns into a struggle or a power play, this podcast is for you!! Parent Coordinators can be mental health experts, attorneys or mediators....

Today's powerful episode gives you the strategies and tools needed to communicate more effectively with your spouse's high conflict personality. You have been struggling with criticism, deflection, blaming and black and white thinking. You have doubted your own version of reality, lost your self esteem and tried time and again to reason with your spouse to no end. What you didn't know was that com...

While navigating divorce, fear of the unknown often drives us to replace our uncertainty with a catastrophic worst case scenario about our future. However, our greatest fears rarely come true. Today's session is designed to provide you with hope and encouragement as you hear one woman's journey from fear and overwhelm to a post divorce life that is very different from what she feared. Tune in as s...

We are looking at how to Reboot Your Mind and Heal Your Heart with a uniquely painless and rapid trauma recovery modality called Rapid Resolution Therapy (RTT). In this modality, the mind is cleared of negative beliefs, reorganized to see new possibilities, and stops regretting the past and dreading the future. Negative habits and painful emotions are replaced by positive feelings and actions. Fre...

Corinthians 13: 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.8 Love never fails. Love and divorce, what's the connect...

While forgiveness seems to be for the HCP, it is actually for you, the spouse. Forgiveness is not condoning, accepting, excusing or denying the abuse. Our guest takes us through a 4 phase process that helps you to uncover the impact of unforgiveness, examine the benefits of choosing forgiveness, begin the journey to forgive and the healing that journey invites and ultimately, how forgiveness, heal...

Whatever else life promises, it pretty much guarantees that we will face stormy times. The question is not IF, but HOW you traverse them and what your toolbox of skills and strategies includes. Even High Conflict Divorce - which is more like a tsunami - can be experienced with greater ease with the right, healthy set of tools. Today we're speaking with Lynne about a spiritual practice that has bee...

Entering the legal process of any divorce feels frightening and overwhelming. For those entering high conflict divorce, the fear and confusion is escalated due to years of living in a dysfunctional marriage and the complexities involved when divorcing a high conflict personality. There is often a greater need to be in the court system due to the power imbalance in the relationship, the lack of tra...