Jollof and Kompa

In this episode, we answer a series of tough marriage questions—and let's just say my Nigerian husband and I didn't agree on as many as we thought we would. From money and family to conflict, loyalty, and life's biggest "what if" scenarios, these questions sparked some surprisingly honest conversations.

After 4 years of marriage, we know everything about each other… or do we? 😅 In this episode, we talk about the things we still don’t do in front of each other as a married couple. From farting and bathroom boundaries to keeping a little mystery alive, we explore the question every couple eventually faces: Can you be too comfortable in marriage? Are there things you and your spouse still keep priv...

I always thought I was showing love in the right ways. My wife disagreed. In this episode, we unpack why Alexis thinks I'm not romantic, how we define romance completely differently, and why couples can unintentionally miss each other's efforts. From flowers and date nights to food, quality time, and feeling truly seen, this conversation challenged a lot of my assumptions about marriage. Have you...

In this episode of we’re diving into some big life updates and a concept that completely changed how Alexis views postpartum care: the Japanese "Birth House." 🇯🇵👶 After researching the culture of postpartum support in Japan—where mothers can stay in a dedicated "birth house" for around $800/night to focus entirely on recovery—Alexis is ready to pack her bags! We discuss the importance of mother-c...

In this episode, we talk about crying during arguments and why we see it so differently in our marriage. My Nigerian husband believes crying during conflict can feel manipulative because it shifts the focus away from the conversation, while I see tears as a natural expression of vulnerability and emotion. We unpack how culture, upbringing, and communication styles shape the way we handle conflict...

This episode turned into a much deeper conversation than we expected. We talked about emotional vulnerability, growing up in different households, why some men struggle to express emotions, and how those experiences show up in marriage. From family dynamics to painful personal moments, this was one of the most honest conversations we’ve had on the podcast.

In this episode of Jollof & Kompa, we talk about what “Head of the House” actually means in a modern marriage — and why we don’t completely see it the same way. From chores and leadership to gender roles and expectations, this conversation started small… and turned into something much deeper. We unpack the cultural ideas we grew up with, the roles men and women are expected to play, and how ma...

What do you actually tell your friends about your marriage? In this episode of Jollof & Kompa, we get real about friendships, boundaries, and what should (and shouldn’t) be shared outside your relationship. From cultural differences to personal comfort levels, we unpack how we each view privacy, respect, and oversharing—especially when it comes to sensitive topics.

In this episode, we unpack how one small moment revealed a bigger difference in how we think and show up for each other. If you’ve ever felt like your effort wasn’t seen—or like someone’s intentions didn’t match their actions—this one will hit home. 00:00 Is Food Really That Deep? 04:40 We Bought Bikes (Life Update) 10:00 Trying New Things in Our 30s 14:20 The Argument: What Happened 18:30 Expecta...

Sending money back home is an expectation in Nigerian culture — but not everyone sees it that way. Augustus and Alexis get into one of the most sensitive financial conversations in their marriage. Where do you draw the line between family obligation and protecting your own household? Drop your experience in the comments.

I took my American wife to Nigeria for the first time… and I was nervous the whole time. From the moment we landed, I didn’t know what to expect. Seeing Nigeria through her eyes was eye-opening — some moments were exciting, some overwhelming, and some I definitely wasn’t ready for. This is our real experience.

Most people say that when you get married, you “become one.” But what does that actually mean… and does it mean losing yourself? In this episode, we talk about individuality in marriage—how to stay true to who you are while building a life with someone else. We get into: Why personal space still matters in marriage How to balance “your space, my space, and our space” Navigating boundaries without...

Is "Never go to bed angry" actually the secret to a happy marriage, or is it just a recipe for resentment? 🛌💢 In this episode of the Jollof and Kompa Podcast, we’re tearing down one of the biggest marriage myths ever told. After a solo trip to Spain led to some unexpected "nightclub interrogation" vibes at home, we found ourselves diving deep into how we actually handle conflict. Why do we feel...

Marriage & Money is a big topic. We talked about our finances in this episode and how we split money in our marriage. The things we have successfully figured out, and the things we still struggle with. Follow us on Instagram & Facebook: Instagram: @jollofandkompa Facebook: Jollof and Kompa - By Alexis & Augustus

Can your spouse really be your everything? Your best friend, your therapist, your lover, your hype person? In this episode, we had an honest conversation about dependency in marriage, why putting that kind of pressure on your partner can quietly damage your relationship, and what it actually looks like to build a healthier dynamic together. Spoiler: he had thoughts. A lot of them. Pull up a chair...

We had a huge fight over a fun activity that Alexis was trying to plan. In this episode we talked about our most recent fight and how we usually find our way back to baseline after arguments. Follow us on Instagram & Facebook: Instagram: @jollofandkompa Facebook: Jollof and Kompa - By Alexis & Augustus

In this episode, we talked about surviving as a couple in extreme situations. Working out as a way to stay attractive to your spouse and where Augustus allegience lies in stressful times.

We talked about emotional affairs vs physical affairs, hosting our first house party, and how Alexis failed her first driving test.

Is this a typical behavior for Nigerian men, or is my husband just different? We've been together for 6 years, and he still doesn't celebrate Valentine's Day.

You deserve to treat yourself to nice things every day, not just on special days or occasions. In this episode, we talked about our experience treating ourselves to a spa day and how worried we are about raising kids in this internet era.

We've been married for over four (4) years, but we've known each other for way longer. This episode is about our love story. How we met, dating, proposing, and getting married.

What is the barest minimum in relationships? In this episode, we talked about expectations for men/women when dating. We also discussed our most recent experience of hosting the family, and Alexis did not hold back from expressing her frustration with nail salons.

From Alexis thanking God that she did not test positive for STD, to talking about the fear of starting a family and becoming a parent, this episode is a little bit chaotic, as we wrap up the episode with why friendship with the opposite gender never works.

Is checking your partner’s phone a red flag… or just due diligence? When we first started dating, Augustus checked Alexis’s phone and didn’t see it as a privacy violation — to him, it was a necessary background check. Alexis strongly disagreed. In this episode, we unpack phone privacy, trust, cultural expectations, and where boundaries should exist in relationships. This isn’t about right vs wrong...

Should spouses rely on each other for simple, basic things, or should they be able to handle themself? A conversation about independence, expectations in relationships.