John de Ruiter Podcast

Rishikesh, India Event - February 10, 2018 Morning What is true love? Do we meet our loved ones again after we die? In this talk John explains what love really is, what happens after death and how we reconcile our lives, our selves and our relationships with our eternal nature.  Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your being, where the meaning of life op...

Vienna, Austria Retreat - November 13, 2002   The experience of losing her wallet invites this questioner to explore her relationship with money. In his reply to her, John uncovers the real purpose of money, true self-esteem, innocence and creativity. The exchange of money is to be an exchange of beingness, giving and receiving. Then money becomes a warm flow instead of being cold hard cash.   Dia...

Netanya, Tuval Retreat - November 15, 2013 Evening   How does one deal with the emotional trauma of sexual abuse? What is the value of our past and its memories? In this deep and intricate dialogue, John shows us how opening in the present can heal the past, reconfiguring our body and our self.   Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your being, where the...

Tiruvannamalai India Retreat - January 24, 2018 Evening   Cosmic love that calls you: higher than all of this world, most intimate and clean. This is how John concludes his response to this young man asking the fundamental question: What is Truth? Listen in to the rest of his answer.   Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your being, where the meaning of...

Edmonton, Canada Meeting - February 17, 2000   This is a question about sex and intimacy. The questioner feels she resists intimacy and doesn't understand why, when love-making is full of sweetness, she still seems to avoid it. John shows her how to look for what she trusts. Where there is trust, love moves.   Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your bei...

Copenhagen Denmark Retreat - June 6, 2010 When you awaken to what is deeper than your self, you find that your self isn't at the centre of everything, it's not the main focus. When you believe this awakening, you go through a profound shift, and your self begins to match your deeper levels. As you continue to awaken, your self turns into a deeper and a higher self. A beautiful and elaborate teachi...

Tiruvannamalai, India Retreat - January 31, 2018 Morning   We are all connected to others, and form bonds with them in our lives. What are these bonds for? Why are some bonds deeper than others, or carry more meaning for us? What is it that moves in a bond and what is the chemistry? All of this and more is discussed in this dialogue.   Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and i...

Tiruvannamalai, India Retreat - January 31, 2018 Morning   A woman is feeling a lack of love towards her husband, often being annoyed by his behaviour and feeling superior to him. John shows her how to find the touch of dearness, the real connectivity, where surface annoyances becomes terms of endearment.   Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your being,...

Byron Bay, Australia Event - March 2, 2014 Afternoon   Despite her awakenings, this questioner feels lonely and tired on her spiritual path and asks for help to find greater connection with the people around her. John explains how to do that, by completely being what you know in your heart.   Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your being, where the mean...

Byron Bay, Australia Event - March 2, 2014 Afternoon   Many of us love responding to and being in our hearts; and yet we find it challenging to sustain a love filled heart in in your daily life, in the midst of circumstances, in the midst of feelings and emotions in our selves. In this dialogue, John speaks of and explains how to sweep the self out of the heart, develop a deeper and a higher self,...

Totnes, United Kingdom Meeting - June 14, 2013 Afternoon A question about the self, how to be free of it, free of being selfish. How to stay in the peace that isn’t of the self, and what is the distinction between the heart and the self. Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your being, where the meaning of life opens up in awareness. More information abou...

Findhorn, Scotland Retreat  - March 12, 2012 Morning How to be free of past hurts and conditioning? Is there a method that can help, a spiritual practice? Can meditation help? John explains why methods and spiritual practices ultimately don’t work. Spiritual practices can help bring you to the door of your being, but they can’t take you through the door. It is only a shift of orientation that can...

Edmonton, Canada Meeting - April 24, 2016 Evening The questioner is noticing a subtle uncomfortable movement of his sexuality, and is asking if it is best to stay in it as still as a lake. John explains that our conscious self is only the tip of the iceberg. When you deeply open, this allows for your subconscious to come up into your conscious self. It is like a deep lake doing a flip: the deep co...

Netanya, Israel Retreat - October 26, 2017 Even ing   What is the calling? How does the knowing of a depth way beyond our selves influence our lives and specifically our choice of partner? Listen to this talk and find out what it means to be in a relationship that is fair to your awakening and magnifies it.   Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your bein...

Neve Shalom, Israel Event - December 1, 2012 Afternoon   What is our life for? What happens after we die? The questioner feels that he is making compromises in his life in order to function, work and make money. John explains that everything we do in life influences our life after death. Using practical examples,  John guides us in how not to miss the wondrous opportunity of this life.   Dialogues...

Totnes, United Kingdom Meetings - June 14, 2013 Eve   How to truly nurture your child? What happens when your child is discovering their power and testing yours, causing reaction? In this conversation John gives direction and guidance on how to sustain direct connection with your child and give them ground, stability and clarity in what is deeper, enabling them to know about what they really are a...

Netanya, Israel Retreat - September 17, 2015 Eve   What is true individuality? How are we different and what is it that makes us the same? How would we change, as humanity, if we connect as beings rather than selves? John explains the shift of connectivity that happens when we awaken to the calling. In allowing our awakening to manifest through our heart, self and person, we manifest the beginning...

Edmonton, Canada Autumn Seminar - October 10, 2017 Afternoon   The brain is mostly still a mystery to us. Science research is attempting to discover and unlock the brain's full potential, yet answers are scarce. In this dialogue, John delves deep into the true role of the brain. When we are being the deepest level that we know, we unleash the brain’s greatest power. In being direct knowledge, our...

Edmonton, Canada Meeting - March 4, 2001 What is happening in male orgasm and ejaculation? A sincere, frank and at times humorous conversation in which John and the questioner explore the subtleties of male orgasm, how to integrate the embarrassing wild man within and make real love – with or without having sex.  Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your...

Pardes Hana, Israel Meeting - May 2, 2012 Evening.    The questioner had an experience where the structure of herself dissolved and everything was love. But when the experience dissipated, old structures returned. John explains that the experience is a beloved messenger. Instead of wanting the messenger to return, we can abide in the message it brings. When the knowing in the experience is enough,...

Pardes Hana, Israel Retreat - May 2, 2012 Even ing   What to do when wonderful awakening experiences fade away, and resistance, fear and suffering return to our experience? John reminds us that we know something much deeper within, which is different than our self. Suffering is in the self, it comes from what is familiar. There is no suffering in knowing, in being in what knowing is in our heart a...

Edmonton, Canada Meeting - October 1, 2017 Afternoon   How do you heal and fulfill your sexuality? What is human sexuality for? In this talk John explains how to connect your sexuality to your being, building a new self in place of what was old, a self that is free to move just like your being. Your sexuality is your greatest human power; you integrating that power transforms your sexuality, self...

Moen, Denmark Retreat - June 4, 2016 Aft   The questioner experienced an awakening but finds it difficult to stay in it because of stress and pain. John explains that this is because she is relating to her awakening from her self instead of relating directly without “keeping an eye” on her self. John speaks of the stream of what we know; when we merge with what we know in our heart we are in the s...

Cologne, Germany Event - January 24, 2013 Eve ning The questioner describes having been awakened to a deep energy of pure love within, and yet suffering still continues. John explains that the suffering is in the self, while the love is not. The love is your home. Your self suffers because it is not complete. You are complete. You do not need to suffer. That puts your self in your care. Then, ever...

Moen, Denmark Retreat - June 4, 2016 Aft When you awaken to more than this mundane existence, how can you make that real in your life? How can you let it have more form in your life? How to get out of the matrix? The answer, John says, is in letting the roots of your awakening go to your being. Then, like a tree, you become planted in what you really are, planted in your source.  Dialogues with Jo...