John de Ruiter Podcast

Lage Vuursche, The Netherlands Event - April 25, 2012 Evening This questioner feels frustrated in her wish to be of help to the world, to address the environmental problems and human suffering. John explains to her that frustration only makes matters worse – that the planet will thrive when we live and relate to it instead from our innermost being. Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your...

Cologne, Germany Event - January 30, 2012 Afternoon   Becoming a parent is a joyous experience, but for many it can be quite overwhelming. Anxiety can quickly replace joy as we struggle with our own uncertainty and reactivity. How do we set boundaries and say no in ways that do not trigger a power struggle with our child? In this talk, John gives practical advice about how to give your child what...

Rishikesh, India Event - February 9, 2018 Afternoon   Deeply loving someone and being in love... you start a relationship and then you wonder why, after familiarity has set in, the in-loveness is gone and there is difficulty and pain. If you start from wanting and needing a relationship, you are already relating in a way that is not like your being. So how to have a meaningful, pain-free relations...

Munich, Germany Event - October 31, 2011 Afternoon    This questioner had an awakening which he hoped his Buddhist spiritual practice would open further. He feels stuck and wants to know how he can move forward. John explains that his awakening caused a shift in orientation that does not yet match the self that he has, the result being an ache felt deeply in his heart. John shows him the shift tha...

Findhorn, Scotland Event - March 11, 2012 Morning  

November 19, 2015, Bad Meinberg, Germany   We are here for just a short time, our bodies are temporary. So what happens after death? Is Karma real? How to have only good karma? Can meditation help? Listen to this talk to find out.   Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your being, where the meaning of life opens up in awareness.    More information about...

June 14, 2002, Amsterdam, The Netherlands  

February 22, 2015 Afternoon, Poleg Beach, Netanya, Israel   The questioner speaks of comparing herself to others and the pain, depression and inability to move forward that this causes. John explains the way to go beyond comparison, and into clarity and freedom.   Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your being, where the meaning of life opens up in aware...

April 05, 2014 Yehiam, Israel Retreat   What is the connection between opening the heart and love-making? When you open and soften in your heart, you discover the deeper levels. The woman pours her mystery and the man reads her and receives. Together, you get to know what you really are. Together, you are making what love is.   Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the...

June 14, 2013 Totnes, United Kingdom   The questioner in this dialogue expresses concern regarding the world situation: poverty, war, disease and debt. He is asking: how can we help to heal this planet? John explains: first heal your self. First, change your self by being in your heart and deeper, and then the world can be healed. The health of this planet needs to come from the innermost outwards...

April 13, 2017 Edmonton, Canada Spring Seminar

September 21 Aft, 2012, Amsterdam, The Netherlands

September 16, 2011 Evening, Cologne, Germany   I dread going to work: should I leave my job? This questioner is wondering how to deal with a difficult boss. John shows how, when there isn't a tightening within, an unpleasant experience can actually open deeper love, making it possible to flourish even in difficulty   Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of y...

Rishikesh, India Event - February 10, 2018 Morning What is true love? Do we meet our loved ones again after we die? In this talk John explains what love really is, what happens after death and how we reconcile our lives, our selves and our relationships with our eternal nature.  Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your being, where the meaning of life op...

Vienna, Austria Retreat - November 13, 2002   The experience of losing her wallet invites this questioner to explore her relationship with money. In his reply to her, John uncovers the real purpose of money, true self-esteem, innocence and creativity. The exchange of money is to be an exchange of beingness, giving and receiving. Then money becomes a warm flow instead of being cold hard cash.   Dia...

Netanya, Tuval Retreat - November 15, 2013 Evening   How does one deal with the emotional trauma of sexual abuse? What is the value of our past and its memories? In this deep and intricate dialogue, John shows us how opening in the present can heal the past, reconfiguring our body and our self.   Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your being, where the...

Tiruvannamalai India Retreat - January 24, 2018 Evening   Cosmic love that calls you: higher than all of this world, most intimate and clean. This is how John concludes his response to this young man asking the fundamental question: What is Truth? Listen in to the rest of his answer.   Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your being, where the meaning of...

Edmonton, Canada Meeting - February 17, 2000   This is a question about sex and intimacy. The questioner feels she resists intimacy and doesn't understand why, when love-making is full of sweetness, she still seems to avoid it. John shows her how to look for what she trusts. Where there is trust, love moves.   Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your bei...

Copenhagen Denmark Retreat - June 6, 2010 When you awaken to what is deeper than your self, you find that your self isn't at the centre of everything, it's not the main focus. When you believe this awakening, you go through a profound shift, and your self begins to match your deeper levels. As you continue to awaken, your self turns into a deeper and a higher self. A beautiful and elaborate teachi...

Tiruvannamalai, India Retreat - January 31, 2018 Morning   We are all connected to others, and form bonds with them in our lives. What are these bonds for? Why are some bonds deeper than others, or carry more meaning for us? What is it that moves in a bond and what is the chemistry? All of this and more is discussed in this dialogue.   Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and i...

Tiruvannamalai, India Retreat - January 31, 2018 Morning   A woman is feeling a lack of love towards her husband, often being annoyed by his behaviour and feeling superior to him. John shows her how to find the touch of dearness, the real connectivity, where surface annoyances becomes terms of endearment.   Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your being,...

Byron Bay, Australia Event - March 2, 2014 Afternoon   Despite her awakenings, this questioner feels lonely and tired on her spiritual path and asks for help to find greater connection with the people around her. John explains how to do that, by completely being what you know in your heart.   Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your being, where the mean...

Byron Bay, Australia Event - March 2, 2014 Afternoon   Many of us love responding to and being in our hearts; and yet we find it challenging to sustain a love filled heart in in your daily life, in the midst of circumstances, in the midst of feelings and emotions in our selves. In this dialogue, John speaks of and explains how to sweep the self out of the heart, develop a deeper and a higher self,...

Totnes, United Kingdom Meeting - June 14, 2013 Afternoon A question about the self, how to be free of it, free of being selfish. How to stay in the peace that isn’t of the self, and what is the distinction between the heart and the self. Dialogues with John de Ruiter bring you into your heart, and into the depths of your being, where the meaning of life opens up in awareness. More information abou...

Findhorn, Scotland Retreat  - March 12, 2012 Morning How to be free of past hurts and conditioning? Is there a method that can help, a spiritual practice? Can meditation help? John explains why methods and spiritual practices ultimately don’t work. Spiritual practices can help bring you to the door of your being, but they can’t take you through the door. It is only a shift of orientation that can...