It's You. Oh F*ck. It's ME. In Session with a Psychotherapist.

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Chayse. Chayse works in an area that most people either judge, misunderstand, or avoid talking about altogether. He is an erotic massage practitioner who works with women and couples, but what interested me wasn't the work itself. It was what sits underneath it. Desire. Communication. Consent. Shame. Fantasy. Touch. The things most people desper...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Phil. Phil is a businessman, spiritual teacher, author, and podcaster. What interested me about this conversation was how difficult it became to separate where business ended and spirituality began. We live in a culture that often treats those things as opposites. One focused on money, success, ambition and growth. The other focused on meaning, prese...

Send us Fan Mail In this solo episode, I sit with a quote left by the previous guest, Matt Peale: For things to change, you have to change. For things to get better, you have to get better. What starts as a conversation about change quickly becomes something much more personal. I talk about recovery, Bali, Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, and the strange reality that some people complete...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Matt Peale. Matt is a sports performance coach, author, and someone who spends his life helping people understand the connection between movement, posture, pain, performance, and wellbeing. What surprised me about this conversation is how quickly it stopped being about fitness. We started talking about posture, movement, and physical health, but unde...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Rosemary Gattuso. Rosemary is a family mediator, counsellor, and author of It’s Not You. It’s Me. A Chronic Overthinker’s Guide to Self Reflection. The moment I saw the title of her book, I knew this conversation was going to head somewhere interesting. This episode sits inside conflict, accountability, overthinking, and the way relationships slowly...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Terraine. Terraine is a coach, podcaster, and someone who speaks openly about heartbreak, avoidance, family wounds, and the unconscious reasons we chase relationships in the first place. What I liked about this conversation is that it never stayed surface level for very long. We started talking about relationships, but underneath it was really about...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m on my own again. This one is different. I sit inside the groups I’m launching and why I think people are starving for spaces where they can stop performing and start being fucking honest. Not self improvement. Not life coaching. Not people pretending they’ve transcended being human. Just real people sitting in a room together finally realising: “Fuck. I do tha...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by David Hackett. It’s a fascinating conversation because while David speaks openly about control, codependency, loneliness, and emotional pressure inside his previous marriage, there are still moments where you can hear how easy it is for all of us to stay focused on what the other person did. Not from malice. Not from manipulation. Just from being hum...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Xanet. Xanet is a sex and intimacy coach who came into this work through lived experience. Twenty six years in a sexless marriage. Not theory. Not study. Real life. This conversation sits inside intimacy, vulnerability, and what actually happens in long term relationships when the surface level connection fades and people are left facing themselves....

Send us Fan Mail This episode, it’s just ME. No guest, no back and forth, no distraction. Just me sitting inside the question that was left and actually answering it instead of dodging it. When have I felt completely helpless and it turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me. I go back about eight years. On paper, everything was sorted. House, money, business, toys, family. The life...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by David Russell. David is my supervisor. Decades in the field. Academic, therapist, teacher. More lived experience than most and not hiding behind it. This conversation sits inside something deeper than most people want to go. We go straight into the question that was left. What does it mean when something is done out of love beyond good and evil. And...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Josh Shay. Josh is a coach who works with pornography addiction and the fallout that comes with it. Before that, he was what most people would call high functioning. Successful, visible, respected. All while hiding alcoholism and a porn addiction that was running his life underneath it. This conversation sits inside illusion, validation, and what it...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, it’s just me. No guest. No back and forth. Just me marking something that actually matters.  25 years clean and sober. This one is not about storytelling. It is more of a reflection. Not the polished version. The real one. I talk about what it actually means to be sober. The difference between being abstinent and actually doing the work. Because putting the drink...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Renee. We trained together, but she’s taken a very different path. Less structure, less rules, more creativity and depth. This conversation sits inside identity, realness, and what happens when you strip away who you think you are. Renee works with weaving as a therapeutic process. Not just the outcome, but the act itself. Sitting, creating, and allo...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, it’s just me. No guest, no buffer, no one to hide behind. Just me and the question that was left from the previous episode and where it took me. This one moves into inaction, collapse, and what it actually takes to change. Not as ideas, but as lived experience. The conversation comes straight out of Easter. Not the version most people focus on, not the story or th...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Sarah G. Sarah is a university student working full time, with a strong interest in self improvement, introspection, and understanding herself beyond surface level thinking. We sit inside intuition, overthinking, and inaction. Not as concepts. As lived experience. We talk about the split most of us are taught early on. Mind over body. Logic over feel...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Di Black. Di is a psychotherapist and someone who was also my therapist for a period of time. She brings depth, honesty, and a willingness to sit in uncomfortable spaces without needing to rush to answers. We sit inside fear, identity, and vulnerability. Not as concepts. As lived experience. We start with a question that hits hard. Share your most gu...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Tommy. Tommy is in recovery. He is also a businessman, a dog dad, and the founder of Takeoff Monkey, a construction estimating business he built after drinking himself out of everything and starting again from nothing. We sit inside recovery, accountability, and what happens when one person starts to wake up. Not as ideas. As lived experience. We tal...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode I am on my own. Last week Toni Will left the next guest a question. What have you changed your mind about lately? Usually my guests get hit with that question without warning. This time it landed on me. For most of my life I believed the problem in my relationships was the other person. The partner. The boss. The coworker. Different people. Same story. Even...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Toni Will. Toni is the General Manager of a men’s professional hockey team in Michigan. She is one of the few women in the world in that role. She is five and a half years sober, runs a coaching business helping high functioning professionals reduce or remove substances from their lives, hosts a podcast, and has a book coming out this year. We sit in...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Claire. Claire is a counsellor, a mother, a wife, and someone I studied with. She understands this work from the inside, not just professionally, but personally. We sit inside authenticity, over responsibility, and rejection. Not as concepts. As lived relationship dynamics. We talk about the illusion that therapy is about fixing other people and the...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m on my own. Solo episodes are different. Harder. There’s nowhere to hide when there’s no guest sitting across from you. This one sits inside resentment, projection, and accountability — not as theory, but as lived history. I speak about Pam, my former mother-in-law, and a period of my life where I was reactive, resentful, and convinced someone else was the prob...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by Amy. Amy had read It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME and reached out to sit in a conversation. It’s her first time on a podcast, and we don’t make a story out of that. We stay with what’s actually there. We sit inside judgment — not as a concept, but as a lived pattern that shows up automatically, often before it’s noticed. We talk about how judgment starts...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m joined by my partner, Sophie. We sit inside mirroring, masking, and perfectionism — not as ideas or frameworks, but as lived patterns playing out in real time. We talk about how mirroring starts early: fitting in, staying safe, learning how to belong. And how those same strategies quietly follow us into adult relationships, work, intimacy, and even the way we...

Send us Fan Mail This is the first episode, and I want to be clear from the start. This isn’t self-help. It’s not advice. And it’s definitely not about fixing yourself so you can be more tolerable in relationships. I’m introducing why this podcast exists, why I wrote It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME , and why I’m done with the performance of “doing the work” while nothing actually changes. I explain the...