its_that_girlpearls podcast

Have you ever looked around and felt like everyone else has their life figured out except you? Everyone seems to be getting promoted, landing jobs, buying homes, travelling, building businesses, getting brand deals, and reaching milestones while you’re still trying to figure out your next step. In this episode, we’re having a real conversation about the pressure of modern life, career struggles, f...

Welcome back to Episode 20 of its_that_girlpearls Podcast. It’s been a while. I took a step back from podcasting to focus on myself, my mental well-being, and the realities of life that don’t always make it onto social media. Sometimes life gets overwhelming. Sometimes you’re trying to balance your goals, your finances, your career, your relationships, your responsibilities, and your personal grow...

In this episode of itsthatgirlpearls podcast I’m talking about something many of us do without realizing it: auditioning for love. That pattern of over-explaining yourself, over-giving, and trying to “prove” your value to people who keep giving you the bare minimum. Whether it’s in friendships or relationships, auditioning for love can look like always being the one to check in, always being the o...

In this short reflection inspired by Campus Queen: The Desperation to Be Queen, I talk about the illusion of fame, the hunger for validation, and why peace will always be more valuable than popularity. If you’ve ever been taken for granted in friendships or relationships, this is your reminder: keep your love, but change your access. Real people earn your trust with consistency, respect, and patie...

Sometimes the hardest part of growing is realizing that not everyone can come with you. In this episode of its_that_girlpearlspodcast, we’re talking about outgrowing friendships and relationships — and how to do it without carrying unnecessary guilt. We’ve all had those connections that just… don’t feel the same anymore. The inside jokes stop landing, the conversations feel forced, and deep down,...

Getting ghosted hurts — but what if it’s actually a glow-up moment in disguise? 💅🏾 In this quick episode, we talk about how to turn ghosting into character development, stop blaming yourself, and come out even stronger (and hotter). Whether you’ve been ghosted once or 10 times (no judgment 😅), this is your sign to stop chasing, start glowing, and move on like the main character you are.

IN THIS EMPOWERING EPISODE, I DIVE DEEP INTO THE FEELING THAT SO MANY OF US QUIETLY CARRY BUT HARDLY EVER ADMIT — IMPOSTOR SYNDROME. THIS IS FOR THE ONES WHO HAVE EVER WALKED INTO A ROOM THEY PRAYED FOR AND STILL FELT UNWORTHY. FOR THE ONES WHO QUESTION THEIR SUCCESS, DOWNPLAY THEIR WINS, AND SECRETLY FEEL LIKE THEY’RE ONE STEP AWAY FROM BEING “FOUND OUT.” TOGETHER, WE UNPACK THE DIFFERENCE BETWEE...

IN THIS POWERFUL AND HEALING EPISODE, I UNPACK THE TRUTH ABOUT CREATIVITY AND THE DIFFERENT WAYS IT SHOWS UP THROUGH INTROVERSION AND EXTROVERSION. THIS IS A GENTLE YET BOLD REMINDER THAT YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE LOUD TO BE CREATIVE, AND YOU DO NOT NEED TO SHRINK YOUR ENERGY TO BE ACCEPTED. WHETHER YOU CREATE IN STILLNESS OR IN SOUND, IN CROWDS OR IN QUIET SPACES, YOUR ART IS VALID. YOUR VOICE IS ENO...

WE’VE BEEN TOLD THAT PASSION IS EVERYTHING — THAT IF YOU JUST LOVE IT ENOUGH, SUCCESS WILL FOLLOW. BUT HERE’S THE TRUTH: PASSION IS ONLY THE BEGINNING. IN THIS POWERFUL AND HONEST EPISODE, WE DIG DEEP INTO WHY PASSION ALONE IS NOT ENOUGH TO BUILD SOMETHING THAT LASTS. BECAUSE THERE WILL BE DAYS WHEN PASSION FADES, WHEN YOU DON’T FEEL MOTIVATED, WHEN YOU QUESTION EVERYTHING. AND IN THOSE MOMENTS, I...

THE STRUGGLE OF CREATING WHEN NOBODY IS WATCHING IS REAL — AND IT’S ONE THAT EVERY CREATOR, ARTIST, PODCASTER, OR DREAMER HAS FACED AT SOME POINT. IN THIS POWERFUL EPISODE, WE’RE TALKING ABOUT WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO SHOW UP EVERY DAY, POUR YOUR HEART INTO YOUR WORK, AND STILL FEEL INVISIBLE. NO VIEWS. NO LIKES. NO COMMENTS. NO “YOU’RE DOING AMAZING.” JUST YOU, YOUR DREAM, AND A WHOLE LOT OF SILENCE...

YOU DON’T NEED TO GO VIRAL TO BE VALUABLE. YOU DON’T NEED TO BE APPLAUDED TO BE ENOUGH. AND YOU DEFINITELY DON’T NEED TO PERFORM TO BE LOVED. IN THIS SOFT AND POWERFUL EPISODE, I’M REMINDING YOU TO CREATE FROM WHOLENESS — NOT FROM HUNGER. WHEN YOU CREATE LIKE YOU’RE ALREADY LOVED: 💛 YOU STOP SEEKING VALIDATION 💛 YOU STOP CREATING FOR CLAPS 💛 YOU START EXPRESSING FROM TRUTH — NOT PERFORMANCE THI...

YOU ARE NOT HERE TO BE EXHAUSTED. YOU ARE NOT HERE TO SURVIVE OFF PRESSURE. AND YOU ARE NOT MEANT TO PROVE YOUR WORTH THROUGH PAIN. IN THIS POWERFUL EPISODE, WE’RE TALKING ABOUT THE SILENT EXHAUSTION THAT CREEPS IN WHEN YOU’RE ALWAYS ON. WHEN YOU’RE ALWAYS “PERFORMING” PRODUCTIVITY. WHEN YOU’VE TIED YOUR VALUE TO HOW MUCH YOU PRODUCE. BUT HERE’S THE TRUTH: BURNOUT IS NOT A BADGE OF HONOR. IT IS NO...

YOU DO NOT OWE ANYONE A BREAKDOWN OF YOUR BOUNDARIES. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO JUSTIFY YOUR GLOW-UP. YOU DO NOT NEED TO EXPLAIN YOUR SILENCE. IN THIS EPISODE, WE’RE TALKING ABOUT THE POWER OF CHOOSING MYSTERY OVER EXPLANATION. BECAUSE SOMETIMES, WALKING AWAY WITHOUT A SPEECH IS THE MOST POWERFUL THING YOU CAN DO. THIS IS YOUR REMINDER: YOU ARE NOT RUDE FOR SETTING BOUNDARIES. YOU ARE NOT COLD FOR MOVING...

SOMETIMES, THE HARDEST PART OF GROWING… IS LETTING GO OF THE VERSION OF YOU THAT YOU ONCE LOVED. THE GIRL YOU PLANNED TO BE. THE LIFE YOU WERE SURE YOU’D LIVE. THE DREAM THAT USED TO MAKE SENSE — UNTIL IT DIDN’T. IN THIS HEARTFELT AND GENTLY HONEST EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT WHAT IT REALLY MEANS TO OUTGROW WHO YOU THOUGHT YOU’D BECOME. BECAUSE GROWTH DOESN’T ALWAYS FEEL GLAMOROUS. SOMETIMES, IT FEELS...

ADULTHOOD ISN’T ALWAYS PRETTY — SOMETIMES IT’S LONELY, OVERWHELMING, AND SILENTLY HEAVY. IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT THE HIDDEN STRUGGLES OF BEING AN ADULT, FEELING LEFT BEHIND, AND DEALING WITH THE SADNESS THAT COMES FROM COMPARING YOUR LIFE TO OTHERS. IF YOU’VE EVER FELT LIKE YOU’RE NOT DOING ENOUGH WHILE EVERYONE ELSE SEEMS TO BE THRIVING, THIS CONVERSATION IS FOR YOU. WE DIVE INTO THOSE EMO...

TONIGHT WE’RE TALKING ABOUT SOMETHING THAT TOO MANY PEOPLE DO WITHOUT THINKING — OVERSHARING. THIS EPISODE DIVES INTO WHY OVERSHARING YOUR LIFE CAN BE DANGEROUS, HOW IT PUTS YOUR PEACE AT RISK, AND WHY SOME PEOPLE DON’T DESERVE ACCESS TO YOUR STORY. I’M BREAKING DOWN THE SIGNS THAT YOU’RE TELLING TOO MUCH, WHAT TO DO IF YOU’VE ALREADY OVERSHARED, AND HOW TO STOP GIVING PEOPLE INFORMATION THEY HAVE...

THIS IS A POWERFUL PART 2 TO YESTERDAY’S CONVERSATION ABOUT INSECURITIES — AND TODAY, WE’RE TAKING IT EVEN DEEPER. IN THIS EPISODE, I’M BREAKING DOWN HOW TO ACTUALLY TACKLE INSECURITY AND START OVERCOMING IT FOR GOOD. IF YOU’VE EVER FELT LIKE YOU’RE NOT GOOD ENOUGH, PRETTY ENOUGH, SMART ENOUGH, OR JUST NEVER ENOUGH — THIS IS FOR YOU. WE’LL TALK ABOUT WHERE INSECURITY REALLY COMES FROM, HOW TO STAR...

WE DON’T TALK ENOUGH ABOUT THE INSECURITIES WE CARRY IN SILENCE. THE ONES THAT SHOW UP WHEN WE SCROLL… WHEN WE LOOK IN THE MIRROR… WHEN WE WALK INTO ROOMS AND ASK OURSELVES, “AM I ENOUGH?” THIS EPISODE ISN’T ABOUT FIXING YOURSELF. IT’S ABOUT GETTING HONEST ABOUT THE QUIET THOUGHTS WE TRY TO HIDE. THE ONES THAT WHISPER: “YOU’RE NOT PRETTY ENOUGH.” “YOU’RE NOT SMART ENOUGH.” “YOU’RE NOT DOING ENOUGH...

Soft life is everywhere right now. The candles. The calm mornings. The peace. The boundaries. It’s a whole vibe — and honestly, I love it. But let’s be real… Working hard? That’s still part of the story. Success doesn’t just fall into your lap. You have to find what you’re good at, show up for it, and keep going — even when it’s exhausting. So here’s the tension: Can we actually live softly and st...

EVERYONE’S IN THEIR SOFT GIRL ERA… OR AT LEAST, THAT’S WHAT SOCIAL MEDIA SAYS. BUT WHAT DOES IT ACTUALLY LOOK LIKE TO LIVE A SOFT LIFE — WHEN YOU’RE HEALING, SETTING BOUNDARIES, AND TRYING TO PROTECT YOUR PEACE? — IN THIS EPISODE, I GET REAL ABOUT WHAT “SOFT GIRL SEASON” MEANS TO ME BEYOND THE AESTHETICS. IT’S NOT ALWAYS CANDLES AND CALM — SOMETIMES IT’S CRYING, DETACHING, RESTING, AND LEARNING TO...

This debut episode of its_that_girlpearls, I get real about life — the pain, the pressure, the purpose, and everything in between. I talk about how hard life can feel, especially when you’re trying to heal, grow, and stay confident through heartbreak, depression, and self-doubt. I also ask the big question: Who am I outside of life’s struggles? This is a reminder to every girl and guy out there —...