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What if God wasn’t a judge-y asshole siting behind a desk, waiting to see if you passed or failed a test?  What if he wasn’t grading you?  What if he wasn’t a cosmic kill joy out to get you if you messed up or got questions “wrong?”  How would that feel for you?  How would that change your relationship?  In this episode, I’m breaking down: How I went from my very conservative Christian belief of “...

We’ve all been there.  Put on the spot to discuss something hard. Maybe it’s someone asking you how you’re doing after a death. Maybe it’s the friendly person from church asking how work is going after you’ve just been wrongfully terminated. Maybe it's the neighbor noticing they haven't seen your husband "home" in a while and you know it's because he moved out and you're...

We’ve all been there. Put on the spot to discuss something hard. Maybe it’s someone asking you how you’re doing after a death. Maybe it’s the friendly person from church asking how work is going after you’ve just been wrongfully terminated. Maybe it's the neighbor noticing they haven't seen your husband "home" in a while and you know it's because he moved out and you're g...

In this episode I’m sharing the story about how my mom saved my leadership career before it was barely off the ground. I was 90ish days into my first management role and on the verge of throwing in the towel. Thankfully, before I could do anything nuts like put in my notice or find an easier role... she did exactly what a great mom does: Listened + Pushed my ass to get back in the game.  Tune in t...

So can we just stop saying, “Everything happens for a reason?” Asking for a friend — jk. That friend is me. And I’m not asking — I’m saying, cut it out.  Unless of course it floods your body with an overwhelming sense of I’ve got this energy — there are better approaches.  In this episode of the podcast I share: Why I think this is an unsupportive sentiment.  An approach I’ve found to be more effe...

Have you ever felt like you were lying to yourself when you said your affirmation? If so, you aren't alone! I used to feel the same way. I'd profess something wonderful, like "Everything I want is on its way to me now," and wonder why despite desiring for that to feel true, I felt weak and silly instead. And yet other times, mantras worked like a charm -- lighting me up like fire...

In this epsiode I'm sharing: My thoughts on why self doubt isn't the problem you've been led to believe. How much peace and confidence I've found in REALLY understanding that my identity as a person and the intrusive thoughts that occur are two separate things. How I manifested a dream six figure job in 4 weeks. How he secret to resilience isn't becoming bullet proof, but learn...

After nearly 3 years of professional purgatory, I landed a dream leadership role in 4 weeks. Confession: I get a little cringy typing those words because it implies that more than a decade of prior actions hadn’t anchored/supported that outcome… which is generally why I don’t lead with that as a tagline. Anyhow... I love results that are quick, fast and in a hurry — who doesn't? I love to have...

In 2014 I left a toxic AF, high demand religious organization. I had been holding onto so much baggage that looked and felt like anger, resentment, bitterness, disappointment. And I spent years in emotional pain because of it. Last year, a therapeutic modality found its way to me and helped me clear it. Not cope with it or battle occasional bouts of big feelings like I had before — it was gone, di...

I spent 3 years in professional purgatory, holding my career in limbo, after discrimination and wrongful termination. When I finally decided to put myself back in the game, jump back into the deep end — it took less than 6 weeks to land my next leadership role. I’m sharing the most important and subtle shift between taking action and thinking about taking action, what I learned during that time an...

In this episode, I’m sharing: How failure acts as an immunity booster for you life. The pathway every "Good Girl" takes to becoming a Dangerous Woman  How despite not believing "everything happens for a reason" -- I still see so much value in struggle and figuring things out. And what it takes to become truly unstoppable. If you enjoy this episode, subscribe, leave a review, sh...

We're going back to church in this episode -- Ha! What I want more than anything is for you to believe in yourself again and feel powerful, confident and resilient as you chase your biggest, wildest dreams. My intention is that this episode is lighter fluid for your spark so a full on wild fire is started. In this episode, I’m sharing:  The time when a car crashed saved my life and woke me TF...

The episode I didn't intend to record. HA! So here's the deal-- I had notes ready to go about something else... but when God, Source, Universe (whatever semantic makes you feel as cozy as a cashmere throw) speaks -- we move in that direction. In this episode, I’m sharing thoughts on:  Claiming your version of the dream life and why your badassery is required -- especially when it's unc...

I managed more than 300 direct reports over a decade in F500 companies. What I learned about people was this: They inherently want to do a good job. So, if someone on your team isn’t meeting your expectations the first place to assess for what to change isn’t them — it’s your leadership. Before jumping into a performance management conversation stop and do this first. In this episode, I’m sharing:...

In this episode, I’m sharing:  Why I think powerlessness is the biggest crisis women are facing today.  Why waiting to feel confident cost me 400K and 3 years of time.  I dip my toe into how good girl conditioning leads to what I call “good wife syndrome”  How the victim, villain, savior construct can play out in marriage. How I had to break up with a victim narrative in order to exit from my marr...

Lemme guess… you have a goal, a dream, a desire. Something big you want for your life or career, but sometimes you just don’t feel as confident as you want to. You want to speak up more, get more visible, play a bigger game, but you don’t feel ready? So you read a book, listen to a podcast, maybe take a course and learn a new skill… all the while, never actually taking action that moves your dream...

In this ep, I unpack the story behind my unplanned hiatus and the podcast name change. Plus, how I'm finding freedom in giving myself permission to change my mind and how you can do the same. If you have ever found yourself in a glasshouse of old decisions, commitments or beliefs desperately hoping to break free... this episode is for you. If you're enjoying the podcast, subscribe, leave a...

In this ep, I share stories from a time in my life where I was sleeping on average 3 hours a day between work, marriage, more than full time school, church and all sorts of other commitments. I break down how I managed my energy during such a busy, challenging time, my thought process for prioritizing my most important relationships and the system I created that allowed me to do that…. That you ca...

In this ep, I share the initial mistake most people make when they go to set boundaries and how to remedy that. Plus, I unpack 5 different practices I have that result in me living happier, more energized and more at peace. If you enjoy this episode, subscribe, leave a review and share with a friend. Come say hello over on IG: HERE Book a single coaching session with me: HERE or DM me HERE for det...

In this ep, I’m sharing why you may have felt fear and resistance around setting boundaries or been worried about disappointing others — even though boundaries themselves are neutral! I unpack what happens with your emotions and the unconscious mind that can make setting and honoring new standards in my life, easier. And an easy to relate to story that brings it all together and let’s you see your...

In this ep, I’m sharing why I don’t believe in self-sabotage anymore, what I believe in instead and how raising the bar on self-compassion has been a game changer for me. If you’ve ever felt internal pressure to be hard on yourself so that you follow through or “live up to your potential” this episode is for you. If you enjoy this episode, subscribe, leave a review and share with a friend. Come sa...

In this ep, I share the valuable practice of exercising curiosity around your beliefs, how doing so can set you free and allow you to truly live your best life. If you enjoy this episode, subscribe, leave a review and share with a friend. Come say hello over on IG: HERE Book a single coaching session with me: HERE or DM me HERE for details on longer coaching containers. Download your Free Playbook...

Rants, riffs and ridiculousness… Ashley is off script. Sharing thoughts and things on entitlement, obligation, personal responsibility, who benefits when you are exhausted and how to raise the standards in your life. I make no apologies for the sass and spice. You’re welcome. If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe, leave a review and share with a friend. Come say hello over on IG: HERE Book a sing...

Welcome to the Sacred Defiance podcast.  In this first ep, I am unpacking the number one goal I have for this podcast, why I’m here, what I hope we will accomplish together and giving the deets on a story from my wedding that I’ve never shared publicly before. It was my “height” of self abandonment moment and catalyst for my own journey to unapologetic self-advocacy.  Send me a DM on Ins...