Intimate Interactions

Talking about flirting and creepiness with men can be challenging sometimes. I’ve heard folks literally say you can’t even flirt anymore because it could lead to negative consequences. Today, I’m going to chat about the difference between flirting and creepiness. Spoilers: it’s all about the dynamic between two people, not about what one person is communicating. Our guest today is Andre Lazarus, a...

Today I’m interviewing Roy Biancalana, a 62 year old white guy who was once a TV analyst from Florida. I know you’re probably not sure where this is going - usually when someone says man from Florida, you’re expecting to to be like a “man from Alberta” story but bigger, crazier, Americaner. In this case, I’m interviewing a Chicago-based relationship coach of 15 years who self-describes as having m...

Mahima is back to talk about daily practices and consistency. Many of us say we want to be disciplined, but she uses the word “blissiplined” in that discipline need not be an onerous task or strife. She’ll discuss the importance of a community and the culture they embody and model for you. We’ll touch on the importance of play in making daily practices compelling. Finally, content warning for the...

Psilocybin containing mushrooms are increasingly in research publications these days. In February 2022, Johns Hopkins published a follow up study suggesting the anti-depressant effects of psilocybin-assisted psychotherapy for those with Major Depressive Disorder may last at least a year for some patients, see show notes for the study. Today we’ll be talking with Susannah Rose Stokes about metamorp...

Today we’re talking with Andre Lazarus, an Intimacy and Sex coach with over 10 years of experience in non monogamy. His new project is the Open to More: How to Navigate Consensual Non-monogamy course at https://coming-closer.com/ . You can find him @comingcloserwithandre on social media. Now, let’s chat about intimate things we can do with our partners that don’t involve penetration. For those of...

Robin Beatch, the Sex Positive, Lifestyle Inclusive Talk Radio host from SPLIT Radio will join us today. You can follow Robin @sexwithrobin on instagram. Robin is a queer, non monogamous sex educator, coach, consultant, former stripper, former nurse, pro domme, and parent of two. Juniper, my only ever one night stand, is also back to add her positive, fun self to the mix. Never Have I Ever is a pa...

Mahima is back, the woman who grew up in apartheid Zimbabwe and now introduces herself as Europe’s number one self mastry expert. Today we’ll talk about her journey through love and intimacy from 26 where she meets a new man precipitating a spiritual awakening. We talk about dancing with shadow energy for your whole life and giving much less of a fuck since turning 21. Content warnings for body im...

Today we’re talking about sexual surrogacy: what is it, who does it, how does it work, and is it sex work. Andre Lazarus, a Surrogate Partner and Sacred Intimate himself with over 10 years of experience in non monogamy, joins us to give us the goods. His new project is the Open to More: How to Navigate Consensual Non-monogamy course at https://coming-closer.com/ . You can find him @comingcloserwit...

We’re back with At Least Twice Have I Ever with Melody Anne from Erotic Education with Melody Anne, and Ms. Sara Blaze, a woman of many identities from mom to conference organizer to dominatrix. Twice Have I Ever is a party game where we try to pick something we’ve done at least twice that the others have not done. Today, we’ll talk about being choked out during sex, recording porn, having group s...

Sacred Sexuality is a simple idea and sometimes a convoluted topic. Susannah Rose is back today to talk about how intimacy and relationships are shaped by our culture and origin story: monogamy, religion, military service, bdsm, and lots more. We’ll talk a bit about unicorn fostering, distinguish between bottoms and subs in bdsm, and talk about designing relationships. It’s going to be fun! https:...

I’m excited to introduce my guest today, Mahima. She grew up in apartheid zimbabwe, married a swiss man at 21, divorced at 22, and is focused on cultivating peace, connection to self, to soul, and to sexual expression. Content warning for abuse, racism, body image, weight loss, self loathing, and apartheid. If I had to sum Mahima up in two words, it would be “love yourself.” Let’s go to the sessio...

Robin Beatch, the Sex Positive, Lifestyle Inclusive Talk Radio host from SPLIT Radio will join us today. You can follow Robin @sexwithrobin on instagram. Robin is a queer, non monogamous sex educator, coach, consultant, former stripper, former nurse, pro domme, and parent of two. Juniper, my only ever one night stand, is also back to add her positive, fun self to the mix. Never Have I Ever is a pa...

Today we’re talking about expectations around strength, support, and staying composed. Join myself and Andre Lazarus as we chat about open communication, masculinity, and non monogamy. Andre is an Intimacy and Sex coach, a Surrogate Partner, and a Sacred Intimate with over 10 years of experience in non monogamy. His new project is the Open to More: How to Navigate Consensual Non-monogamy course at...

Susannah Rose is with us today to chat about intimacy. An interesting twist today is that she’s completed combat tours in Afghanistan and I convinced her to talk a bit about the stresses she experienced while serving and the way intimacy functions in military hierarchy both between officers and among ranks. Content warnings: the 2012 Bastion Leatherneck attack comes up as well as some discussion o...

We’re back with Would You Rather. Our panel today is Melody Anne from Erotic Education with Melody Anne, and Ms. Sara Blaze, a woman of many identities from mom to conference organizer to dominatrix. Would You Rather is a party game where we ask the other players to choose between two highly desirable or two highly undesirable outcomes or sometimes just between two really different outcomes to get...

Today we talk about internalised judgement and internalised patriarchy. We talk about divorce and blame. We circle back to Yin and Yang and all things containing their opposites. True receiving is discussed as considering the whole person meaning you must also be receptive to yourself receiving. We talk about pain and pleasure in the context of Yin and Yang. Content warnings for trauma, crisis, ge...

Dr. Joli Hamilton is back yet again to share her wisdom. Today we’ll be talking about plastic psyches and healing attachment injury. She talks about why she studies jealousy how she does. We do a quick call in about sex vs gender language and talk about why she labels her research how she does. You can check out Dr. Hamilton’s TedX talk or visit https://jolihamilton.com for more.

We’re back with Never Have I Ever with Melody Anne from Erotic Education with Melody Anne, and Ms. Sara Blaze, a woman of many identities from mom to conference organizer to dominatrix. Never Have I Ever is a party game where we try to find things we haven’t done that the others have done. Today, we’ll ask about hook ups, sex while wearing a mask, and much more!

Alexandra Harbushka is back! After creating the Life with Herpes community to help anyone from suffering the way she did for any longer than absolutely necessary, she went on to create herpes wellness products and to offer 1-on-1 coaching for folks newly positive with herpes. Here we talk about meaningful steps for destigmatizing herpes infection such as how to prevent outbreaks. For more, check o...

What is self resourcing? Who has an easier time with compersion? Does your community moralize compersion or shame jealousy? Is it healthy to have banned emotions that you can’t talk about in your relationship? You probably know most of these answers, but what about strategies? Dr. Joli Hamilton suggests practising compersion and managing jealousy on smaller, easier situations and then working up t...

Robin Beatch, the Sex Positive, Lifestyle Inclusive Talk Radio host from SPLIT Radio will join us today. You can follow Robin @sexwithrobin on instagram. Robin is a queer, non monogamous sex educator, coach, consultant, former stripper, former nurse, pro domme, and parent of two. Juniper, my only ever one night stand, is also back to add her positive, fun self to the mix. Twice Have I Ever is a pa...

Asking for what you want is an art. Sometimes you’ve had sex a certain way so many times it doesn’t occur that you can ask for it any differently but you can always change your mind, and it’s never too late to introduce experimentation. Sometimes using strategies like saying “you know what would make this even better?” can help. Other times you can’t imagine how you would approach a person about s...

Yin and Yang teach us that all things contain some of their opposite, that things are rarely static and usually in flux. Today we’re going to talk about crisis as an opportunity to work on ourselves with Winnie Chan Wang. She discusses the ABCDE method she learned from her therapist focusing on responding to being outside the window of tolerance using awareness, breath, compassionate witnessing, d...

We’re back with Never Have I Ever with a new panel: Melody Anne from Erotic Education with Melody Anne, and Ms. Sara Blaze, a woman of many identities from mom to conference organizer to dominatrix. Never Have I Ever is a party game where we try to find things we haven’t done that the others have done. Today, we’ll ask about flashing strangers, masturbating in crowded spaces, and lots of other pro...

Alexandra Harbushka tested positive for genital herpes, leading her to create a community of like-minded people learning how to manage the condition and thriving together online. I believe stigma, disconnection, and loneliness are possibly the most devastating parts of many STIs for many people in the industrialised world where treatments are readily available and they can afford them. As a side n...