Intimacy After Infidelity | Cut Contact, Rebuild Trust, Shed Shame, Avoid Divorce, Forgiveness for Adultery

ONE spot left to begin coaching in September! Let's connect HERE ! One of the biggest lessons I learned after confessing my affair and beginning my healing journey was that God wasn't interested in an agenda. He was not in a hurry for me to heal. He was after my heart, and He wanted me to slow down enough to hear Him.  So what did I do while 3 kids were in school and the baby was napping? I sat at...

ONE spot left for coaching in September! Let's connect HERE ! One thing I hear often is some rendition of "I really miss my affair partner, and what can I do about it?" First I'm here to tell you- it's a completely normal response. And the good news is, you don't have to stay stuck in that feeling! Let's chat today about how your feelings stem from your thoughts, and your thoughts come from an ide...

Looking for immediate coaching? Let's connect HERE ! When was the last time you "stopped to smell the roses"...or the dandelions? What's the big deal about these weeds anyway? And what's that got to do with healing from an affair?? Today, I open up my journal from the season after ending my affair, and I share a way that God spoke to my heart through a flower. I guarantee you'll never look at a da...

Looking for immediate coaching? Let's connect HERE ! The question that prompted today's episode came from real people with real stories. We live in a world with hurt. And unmet needs. And people who are willing to meet those voids - whether or not they should. But what do we do with the butterflies in our stomach? How do we handle the compliments that are truly flattering? Let's chat, sister! And...

Looking for immediate coaching? Let's connect ! I was an adult when I learned "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" was a lie! Words have the power to bring life or death. And that goes for the words you speak as well as the thoughts you think. So today, let's chat about how words can change your perception of a situation, your health and the health of those around yo...

Sister- I am THRILLED to be back with you! Summer was a time of great refreshment, and I'm excited to get back into routine and hanging out with you each week. In this episode, I wanted to break down what I mean when I say Intimacy After Infidelity. It's important to know because that's what I'll be talking about and coaching about! So come hang out with me in all the different ways! And remember,...

Friend, I am so grateful Jesus was a human just like us. That means I can study Scripture to see what He did, and I want to do that too! One thing Jesus did was have regular times of REST. He got alone. He prayed. He listened. He enjoyed God's presense, on purpose. I'm so excited to do that too. Stay tuned for future episodes of Intimacy After Infidelity- after this season of resting in God! As al...

What is it that you really want? Could you describe your ideal life and family in detail? If not, it's time to get serious about dreaming with God again! "Your body cannot go where your brain has never been." Today is all about coloring in the picture of your life and marriage. Begin to tell your brain what is safe and familiar and what YOU choose to pursue. No more letting old patterns control yo...

Do you cringe at words like boundaries or rules? I do! But when I reflected on that because I was looking for a new M.O., I realized, I need structure and support. Ahh, that feels better. Last episode we talked about a plant and how we can choose success in thriving instead of failure to thrive. Now, let's dig deeper into some practical applications of what that might look like for you!  Come shar...

Do you cringe at words like boundaries or rules? I do! But when I reflected on that because I was looking for a new M.O., I realized, I need structure and support. Ahh, that feels better. Today, let's dive into an example of a plant and how we can choose success in thriving instead of failure to thrive. Next week, we'll dig deeper into some practical applications of what that might look like for y...

Last episode, we talked about getting out of your head and taking back control of your mind and thoughts. Today, I think it's equally as important to talk about our bodies. God made our bodies and called them very good. But do you ever struggle with wanting to go back to your former way of living? The one that didn't honor your body how God intended? Join me as I walk through a few Scripture passa...

Do you ever catch yourself thinking or doing something you wish you could stop? Do you ever feel stuck in a rut like you can't get out of your head? I'm coming at you today with tons of practical tips on changing that! Let's work to rewire your brain so that you can create the habits and life you actually want. I'd love to hear what your next step is! And always remember: You are not alone! Commun...

Imagine if Jesus showed up at your house today and sat down with you. What if He asked you, "Do you want to be healed? Do you want to get well?" How would you answer? Unfortunately, the only "right" answer is the honest one. But there is HOPE for healing and forgiveness in Jesus's name! And always remember: You are not alone! JOIN US for our weekly coffee chat- Ask me for the link! Community on Fa...

I had a mentor ask me a really great question: What do you think you need to do next? And my own answer really surprised me. I needed a plan in several areas of my life, because without a plan, I was less likely to get anything done. I realized this applied to exercise. To business. To time with God. And even to my marriage! So are you feeling stuck or overwhelmed? What do you need to do next? Lis...

For the first time ever, I'm giving you a sneak peek into a weekly coffee chat I hosted. You women bring so much experience and wisdom to the table, and I'm so grateful to be on this journey with you! We talked about: 1. When an affair affects your family relationships 2. What has helped you grow spiritually on your healing journey? 3. Having an experience of Christ's love- do we have to walk thro...

It's that time of year! Roses, hearts, love, teddy bears and chocolate, and- emotional overload. During the affair, holidays were always a disconnecting experience. I disconnected from God, disconnected from my husband, and disconnected from myself. Today, I choose different! Get ready for some mindset work AND practical application! It's time we commit to living in truth, communicating our desire...

Maybe you've heard the verse "There is no more condemnation" (Romans 8:1) or "Throw off your former way of life" (Ephesians 4:22), but for some reason, the past keeps popping up in your mind and blocking your vision. Even after I was on my healing journey, I still wrestled with everything pointing back to "the affair"! I want to share a sneak peak into a counseling session I had during that season...

You were created for connection. But somewhere along the line, your Enemy tried to steal it. He tried to disconnect you from others, from God, and even from yourself. But not today! Let's chat about what happens when the Enemy lies to you and why community is really that important. You are not alone! JOIN US for our coffee chat and Fervent book study by Priscilla Shirer! Tuesdays at 8:30 pm EST. A...

Jumping in today to a difficult question and answer- Is it okay if I still miss my affair partner? And the (short) answer is- yes! But then I would challenge you to dig in a bit deeper. -How are you giving yourself space to ride out the emotions like you ride out a snow storm? -What are you believing about the affair? About the partner? About yourself? About your marriage? -Have you ever written o...

Do you know you know you should be praying for yourself and your marriage, but you just can't drag your feet to your prayer closet anymore? Have you started to think that maybe your sin really is blocking your prayers from heaven? You are not alone! JOIN ME for our Fervent book study by Priscilla Shirer! Starting THIS Tuesday, January 9 at 8:30 pm EST. Just ask me for the link... Connect on Facebo...

Looking for accountability? Let's connect over HERE! You are not alone! Need access to a coach on demand? Email me at kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com and let's see how I can support you! Ever been part of an accountability group? What was your experience? I've had a few great ones, but I've also been part of a few that fed my shame and guilt. Join me today as I look at a few ideas of what account...

Happy 6 months Podcast Family! Today I take a few minutes to reflect on how I decided to share my story publically, a few things I've learned along the way, and some advice on whether or not you should go public as well.   Have you ever wished you had immediate access to a coach who gets it? Email me at kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com and let's see how I can best support you!   I pray you experie...

Want a coach who gets it in your back pocket? Email me at kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com and let's see how I can best support you! One of the first questions in my healing journey was around my identity: who am I now? And more importantly, who does God say I am? So often we look at what we DO for a job or what we accomplish. But what if my identity isn't about my actions? That's great news for t...

Want a coach who gets it in your back pocket? Email me at kristina@kristinajoycoaching.com and let's see how I can best support you! Sister, Do you resonate with this? Sometimes you don't need another 3 point sermon; you just need someone to sit and hold your heart. Today, I just want to sit and share some thoughts I've had while reading a life-changing book, Quenched. I pray that these thoughts c...

Let's be honest, healing is sort of like an onion. Just when you think it's going to be smooth sailing, then it's time to peel back another layer. Today, I share about a time I almost relapsed, but this time I had a plan. And I had wise counsel who almost made me cry on an airplane. So let's shed that shame and lean in to the hard and holy work of taking every thought captive. Check out the Facebo...