Intimacy After Infidelity | Cut Contact, Rebuild Trust, Shed Shame, Avoid Divorce, Forgiveness for Adultery

NEW Community Group Coaching starting Monday October 20!  Reach out on Instagram for more information. You’re not crazy for still thinking about him, and you don’t have to stay stuck. In this episode I explain the neuroscience behind intrusive thoughts, help you name what you’re really missing, and teach practical, faith-filled tools to interrupt old loops and create new, healing associations. Thi...

💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina ! (and ask about the NEW GROUP forming!) If you’ve ever thought, “I should feel guiltier… I should regret this more…” this episode is for you. I share my personal story of how guilt once kept me chained to shame and how learning the difference between guilt and responsibility changed everything. You’ll learn: ✨ The difference between shame, guilt, and tru...

💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina ! (and ask about the NEW GROUP forming!) Have you ever asked yourself, “Will I ever feel fully loved again after what happened?” In this episode, I share my raw journey of what it felt like to stay in a marriage after betrayal: the fear, the constriction, the loneliness. I’ll also walk you through the turning point that shifted everything: discovering my w...

💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina ! Do you know for sure if you’re saved? Not if you’ve been religious, gone to church, or tried to be a good person, but if you have truly received salvation through Jesus Christ? In this episode, I share my personal story of coming to know Jesus, from a childhood prayer, to wrestling with doubt, to experiencing a whole new level of surrender after my affai...

💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina! After an affair, the word boundaries can feel heavy, like walls, restrictions, or even punishments. But what if boundaries weren’t about fear, but about love? In this episode, I unpack what boundaries really are (and what they’re not) and show you the three essential types of boundaries every woman needs after infidelity: ✨ Boundaries with the affair par...

💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina ! Have you ever felt invisible, discarded, or like no one understands what you’ve been through? In this episode, I share how the God, who saw Hagar in the wilderness, is the same God who sees, hears, and responds to you. He's El Roi, even in your wilderness. We’ll explore how being seen by God changes everything about how you live, love, and heal after an...

💌 Book a 1:1 Coaching Call with Kristina ! When people you love, even people in the church, don’t show up for you in your hardest seasons, the ache runs deep. In this episode, I share my own story of unmet expectations, quiet grief, and how Jesus became my true Good Samaritan: seeing me, stopping for me, and carrying me when others passed by. You’ll learn how to hold grief and gratitude together,...

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here You know he’s not good for you, so why do you still think about him? If you've ever found yourself craving attention, safety, or affection from someone who hurt you, this episode is for you.   In today’s conversation, I’m unpacking: - How I started to recognize addictive patterns and anxious attachment - What your cravings are really trying to tell you - Why your...

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here You cut off the relationship. You’re doing “the right things.” But the ache? It’s still there. Why do I still miss him? Will this longing ever go away? Yes, the ache is real. But it’s not about him—it’s about what you’re truly wired for: emotional intimacy, safety, and being seen. This episode is your gentle guide to reclaiming that connection… without outsourcin...

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here You cut contact. You deleted the number. You swore you’d never reach out again. So why does it still hurt? Why do you still miss him? I get it. No contact isn’t a quick fix. It’s like withdrawal. And healing is about way more than blocking someone. In this episode, I’m sharing: Why cutting contact can still leave you craving him What helped me actually move forwa...

 📞 Everyone talks about earning back trust from your spouse after an affair. But here’s the truth no one tells you: before anyone else can trust you again… you have to learn how to trust yourself. In this episode, I’m sharing why rebuilding self-trust is the root of true healing—and how to take small, safe steps toward integrity and alignment with who God made you to be. You’ll learn: ✅ Why obse...

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here What if your continued struggle isn’t a sign that you’ve failed… but a sign that you’re still becoming? In this honest and hope-filled episode, I share what it means to walk through the messy middle without shame. You’ll learn how to reconnect with your future self, care for your body and spirit, and return to your values without trying to “fix” yourself. This is...

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here If you’ve just ended an affair—or maybe you’ve confessed and you’re still spinning in shame—you might be wondering: Where do I even start? I know what it feels like to be frozen in confusion. To believe you have to fix everything. To feel like you’re the problem. But healing isn’t about fixing your marriage first or spilling every tiny detail. Your first step is...

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here What if repentance wasn’t about shame, but about coming home? In this tender and truth-filled episode, I share what it means to return to God not with guilt, but with grace. Through my own story of wrestling with desire, honesty, and identity, you'll be invited to reframe repentance as a loving homecoming, not a spiritual punishment. Whether you're still in the a...

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here You thought things would get better after the confession. But now? You just feel stuck. In this episode, I speak directly to the woman still in the middle- maybe still in the affair, maybe just out of it, still wrestling with shame, spiraling thoughts, or disconnection from God and herself. You’ll hear my story of getting unstuck, the moment I finally found suppo...

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here After an affair, it’s easy to withdraw, thinking you're protecting yourself or others. But withdraw turned isolation keeps you stuck, while solitude creates space for healing. In this episode, we explore the subtle but powerful difference between the two. You’ll learn how to recognize when you're numbing or hiding, how to build healthy rhythms of solitude with Go...

Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here!   After betrayal, the shame can feel unbearable. You wonder, Who even am I now? In this episode, we explore the shock of your choices, the myth of the "good girl," and the invitation to rebuild your identity through the eyes of grace. You're not beyond redemption—and you're not alone. If you’re asking, “How could I have done t...

Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here!   You finally told the truth. You thought it would bring peace. But now you feel more confused, ashamed, or overwhelmed than ever. This episode is for the woman who confessed her affair and is now wondering what comes next. I’ll walk you through why confession is only the beginning, what real healing looks like, and how to reb...

Ready for your first step? Grab the Coming Home to Jesus Workshop here!   If you’ve been trying to fix your marriage, your emotions, or your image… and you're exhausted, this episode is for you. Healing doesn’t start when everyone else changes- it starts when you slow down enough to listen to you. In today’s honest conversation, I’ll share how I stopped overfunctioning, started trusting the Holy S...

 📞 Book a 1:1 call! Schedule here Sister, this episode has the MOST downloads of all time, so I know that it resonates with many of you!    Are you stuck in an affair and wondering how to get out? Who can I talk to, and where can I go where I won’t be judged or feel shame? Let me reassure you now- not everyone gets access to your heart and story!   Today I dive into the very FIRST step of finding...

New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com   Friend, if you follow my Instagram stories ( @kristinajoycoaching ) then you know I've begun working with a fitness coach. I've worked with personal trainers before, but in this season of life, it's hitting differently. Having walked through several years of a healing journey, I found so many similarities between the personal growth of...

New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com   Sister, today's episode is unique because I want you to think about sharing it with a friend. Is there something you wish your friend knew about your marriage or affair? Or is there something you want them to understand now that it's in your past? These are my top 8 things I wished my friends knew before, during, and after my infidelity...

New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com   Friend, I'm getting honest here and sharing a few of the lies I believed during and after my affair. In my healing journey, I've learned to 1) become aware of my thoughts and 2) repent of the lies I come into agreement with.  SHAME wants to keep you hiding. I'm here to help you expose what's in the dark so you can begin to walk in Truth...

New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com   Have you ever stopped to consider the thoughts and stories you let race through your brain all day? Can you answer the question, What are you thinking about your marriage? Or the affair? Or yourself? I want to challenge you to consider that your thoughts about a situation are not Truth. But you CAN pause and consider- are these thoughts...

New Devotional-Journal out NOW! www.kristinajoycoaching.com   One of the greatest pieces of advice I've been given on my journey is: Honesty is kindness. It took me a while to grow into that, but when I did, it radically changed things for me. It all starts with honesty. Yes, speaking truth instead of lies, but also speaking UP instead of hiding in fear and shame. Who do you need to be more honest...