Inner Confidence Podcast

Apply to the Inner Confidence Community: https://www.innerconfidence.com/community Robbie's Texting Course: https://www.innerconfidence.com/texting ─────────────────────────── Most guys pick one, the apps or approaching and whichever one they pick, they end up stuck, because each one on its own is missing half of what you need. The apps are a texting gym. When a girl matches you, she's alr...

Ever seen a woman you wanted to talk to, felt your whole body lock up, and watched her walk away while you came up with reasons it wasn't the right moment? This episode is about why that happens and the only thing that actually fixes it. Most guys want to stop being nervous first and then go approach. That order has never worked for anybody. The nerves last until you're comfortable, and th...

If the apps have cost you confidence rather than dates, this one explains why. Scott McKay has coached men since 2005 and met his wife on Match.com twenty years ago, back when online dating actually worked. He's not anti-app , his point is that the feedback the apps gave you was never real data about you. Here's what happened. Around 2011, the correct advice was to swipe on everyone and so...

Have you ever read a dating book, felt fired up for a week, then noticed nothing actually changed? Or you've got a shelf full of self-help books and the same results you had three years ago. One of the guys in my community asked for an updated five-book list, so here are the five I'd hand a guy today — and why the order matters more than the list. He put it best: when he first met me, he w...

Have you ever felt like there's one thing about you that you can't change, your height, your race, your face, your age and that it's the reason none of this is working? My guest is JT Tran, the Asian Playboy. Former aerospace engineer, 5'4", and coaching men for over 20 years. When he moved to LA, eHarmony refunded his membership because they couldn't find him a single mat...

Most dating advice tells you to keep female friends at arm's length. Don't get too close, don't be too available, don't become her emotional support guy. Some of that is real, the friend zone exists. But that advice conflates two completely different things: orbiting a girl you're attracted to while doing her emotional labor, and actually having real female friends who are part...

I've got a client worth over $15 million who was seriously looking into leg lengthening surgery over one OnlyFans girl. My guest Dean Raymond's take: that's just a belief and once a guy holds a belief like that, his brain filters out every piece of evidence that says otherwise. Dean is 45, from a small village in the south of England, and was pushing 265 pounds at his heaviest. Natural...

Most guys who keep getting friend zoned think the problem is they're too nice. It's not. The problem is they're running the wrong business model - they're brokers. A broker makes himself useful, available, and helpful. He says yes to everything. And the moment she doesn't need what he's offering, he's gone. I break down the three forms of brokering that kill attraction,...

"Red pill cuck cope."That's the phrase my guest dropped halfway through this conversation and I haven't stopped thinking about it since. A girl doesn't write you back and you go looking for the reason why. And the reason you land on is always something you can't change. She only dates guys over six feet. There's no good women left in this city. It feels like analysis....

Most men are playing their dating lives like a lottery. They buy a ticket, they wait. And if it doesn't hit, they tell themselves the game is rigged. Smart men play it like poker. And the difference between those two things is the difference between a guy who's been stuck for years and a guy who's actually improving his results every single month. In this episode I break down the 4 con...

Every man is paying for his dating life right now. Most of them just don't know it. I hear this constantly from guys on the fence about investing real time and energy into getting good with women. "I can't afford it." "I don't know if it's worth it."I get the hesitation. But doing nothing isn't free. It just means you're paying a different way and you mi...

Have you ever been in a conversation with a girl you like, things were going okay, and then you just ran out of things to say? The words dried up and you're standing there in the mental panic spiral trying to come up with anything to keep it going. Meanwhile some other guy has an endless supply of stories and jokes and he's effortless with it. And you're thinking, how does he just have...

She was texting you every day, making plans, laughing at everything you sent. And then, nothing. One word replies. Something shifted and you have no idea what it was. Here's the problem. Almost everything men do at this exact moment makes every possible version of this situation worse. There are really only 2 reasons this actually happens, and one of them nobody wants to say out loud. In this...

Have you ever put in real work - actual approaches, actual reps, real results and then wondered if this is just what it looks like forever? Or maybe you've got a solid social circle, you're around attractive women, and you're still going home alone most weekends. If either sounds familiar, there's a conversation we need to have about the 2 phases of this game. Most guys only ever figure out one. I...

Most guys are trying to solve their dating life as an individual problem. Better approaches. Better texts. Better profile. Better conversation. That stuff matters. But there's a ceiling on it that most guys hit and can't explain. Because the guys who actually live the life solved a completely different problem. They built an ecosystem. I just got back from Bogota, Colombia. Five days. Four nights....

Six feet. Six figures. Six pack. Only 1% of men in the US actually hit all three at the same time. So either 99% of men are completely undateable or something about this whole conversation is being seriously misunderstood. In this episode I break down what the 666 standard actually reveals, why social media made it louder but didn't create it, what women say they want versus what they actually res...

If you're in a situationship right now, you put yourself there. Not on purpose. Not because you're a bad guy. But somewhere along the way your actions started writing a contract you never meant to sign. In this episode I break down exactly why this keeps happening, the two completely different situations men find themselves in, and what to actually do about each one without losing leverage or look...

The men who built something. Got in shape. Went to therapy. Did the actual work. They're not complaining on Reddit. They're just quietly stepping back and deciding it's not worth it anymore. And here's the part nobody is talking about, they might be right. Or they might be making the worst mistake of their lives. In this episode I break down the two types of men stepping back from dating and why t...

Every few months, Leonardo DiCaprio gets photographed with another younger woman and the internet loses its mind. Women call him creepy. Men defend him like he's the last symbol of male freedom. Everyone makes the same jokes. But I don't think anyone is actually talking about Leo. I think they're talking about something much more uncomfortable: attraction, aging, power, freedom, status, validation...

Height matters. And if you're using it as your excuse, that's exactly why you're losing. But here's what nobody talks about: height matters far less outside of dating apps than men think. And apps happen to be the worst possible environment for shorter men to begin with. In this episode, I break down exactly where height gives men a real disadvantage, where it doesn't, and what...

Looksmaxxing is a lie. I sat down with Mark Sing, host of the Unapologetic Man Podcast with over 6 million downloads, to break down why men are obsessing over jaw surgery, followers, and aesthetics — when the real game is won entirely on the inside. In this conversation, we cover:→ Why perceived value beats actual looks every time→ How your "disadvantages" can become your biggest advantage→ The re...

Most men losing in dating aren't losing because of their height, their looks, or their luck. They're losing because of how they think. And Reddit is full of proof. I went through the most upvoted male dating posts on Reddit and broke down exactly what's going wrong in each one and what to do instead. We cover the texting spiral that kills attraction before it starts, why a checklist is...

Most men think money and status are enough. My client thought so too until he found himself divorced, successful on paper, and completely stuck in his dating life. I sat down with one of my clients, a Wall Street veteran, to break down how he went from scarcity to abundance by completely rethinking how he used his resources. We cover why status alone doesn't create attraction, the hunting vs f...

Links: The Dating Protocol: (link at bottom of the page) https://www.innerconfidence.com/ Book a call: ⁠ https://www.innerconfidence.com/community Timestamps: 00:00 Losing chemistry on a date 03:09 Date with a twist of insecurity 06:31 Embracing single life journey 10:47 Building a high-status social circle Connect w/ Robbie:  Instagram: ⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/ TikTok: ⁠⁠ ⁠htt...

Links: Book a call: ⁠ https://www.innerconfidence.com/community Timestamps: 00:00 Improving conversational charisma 05:19 The problem with fake authenticity 08:17 The impact of context and environment 11:31 Overcoming fear of approaching 15:31 Building social skills through practice 18:50 Building confidence through community 20:04 Building a high-status social circle Connect w/ Robbie:  Instagram...