Inner Bonding

Do you struggle with knowing when to communicate with your partner about a problem and when to disengage? Are you reactive in conflict with people who are important to you, and you often end up feeling angry and miserable? Discover the two choices you need to make to lovingly disengage in conflict and what the process of lovingly disengaging looks like. 

Caretaking is an addiction - giving to get something back rather than giving for the joy of it.  Is your addiction to caretaking stopping you from knowing yourself and knowing what you want? Learn the difference between caring, caregiving, and caretaking and discover the various ways you might be caretaking. 

Loving yourself does NOT mean sacrificing yourself! Giving yourself up is NOT the way to create a loving relationship. Learn how to love yourself and create a sense of safety regarding others’ passive-aggressive behavior, a partner’s withdrawal, a partner’s neediness, a person’s rage, and physical violence.  

Are you aware of how your energy affects others, and do you care about this? How often do you ignore your inner feeling experience of someone - instead, allowing your outer, behavioral experience to govern your choices? Like does attract like, so focus on keeping your frequency high and you will attract loving people and manifest your dreams! 

Crazymaking interactions lead to anger, frustration, confusion, and feelings of loneliness, heartache, and helplessness over the other person and over the interaction. Learn about what crazymaking is and what to do about it. Discover the only thing you CAN do! 

How often do you scare yourself with your false beliefs? Our wounded self is a survival mechanism, designed to keep us safe. But instead of keeping us safe, it creates fear due to our programmed thinking. But there is a way to feel safe! Discover what creates a true inner sense of safety. 

Healing from trauma and childhood abuse is possible, but it’s not about “getting there.” It’s about letting go of unconsciously re-traumatizing yourself and being in the ongoing process of evolving in love. Discover some powerful processes for dealing with abuse memories, and for connecting with your higher guidance, which is vital for healing from our wounds. 

We all want to be seen and heard accurately for who we really, and it’s heartbreaking when we are not seen or heard by the important people in our life. Learning to stay open to learning and lovingly manage this heartbreak, rather than trying to control the other person, is a major challenge in our relationships, as is even being aware of our intent. We often convince ourselves we are being loving...

Do you want to be in a relationship but have a fear of commitment? Are you afraid to commit to a relationship for fear of losing yourself or losing your partner? Most of us desire the deeply fulfilling experience of intimacy, yet many people have two fears in the way of intimacy. Are you ready to have the wonderful experience of emotional intimacy in your life? 

Do you believe that someone, other than you, has to give you compassion for you to manage your painful feelings? Do you have false beliefs getting in the way of self-compassion? Do you understand the difference between self-pity and self-compassion? Discover how to be compassionate with yourself, and how this choice moves you into your personal power and emotional freedom.

Do you know a healthy way of behaving when you are stuck and unable to communicate with someone? Is a lack of communication one of the complaints you have in your relationship? Many couples claim that their problems stem from a lack of communication. Discover which forms of communication work and lead to conflict resolution.

Are there odd or different things about you that you judge about yourself and try to hide from others? Discover some of the more common quirks and how to start accepting and embracing them.  

Addictive behavior is often an attempt to avoid the deeply painful feeling of loneliness, heartbreak and helplessness concerning others and outcomes. Unmanaged feelings of loneliness can get you off track and into addictive behavior. You can learn to move beyond addictions and stay open hearted and connected with yourself, others and spirit by being open to learning the vital lessons of loneliness...

What happens when you try to explain yourself to someone who is attacking and blaming you? Do you believe that explaining and defending will convince the other person to see things your way? Has this ever worked out well? Speaking with child-like sweetness is another common form of subtle control, as is blaming statements and turning things around on the other person. Discover some of your subtle...

Discover the vast difference between personal power and power over others. Discover how you can achieve the personal power to manifest your dreams and the power to stay centered in the face of fear. Do you have the common false belief that if you become personally empowered, you will end up alone? Discover that nothing could be further from the truth!

Full-bodied laughter is a wonderful way to relieve the stress of life, and that often underlies illness. When you do not allow yourself to express yourself with both laughter and tears, physical pain, due to stress and a lack of passion for life, may be the result. Are you able to belly laugh with your whole body?

Really listening to someone and caring about their feelings is a great gift, but it is important to understand when listening is appropriate and when it is not. Discover when it’s kind to yourself to listen to someone and when is it kind to yourself to walk away. And what about when you get trapped with an over-talker or you are the over-talker? 

Aloneness and loneliness are actually very different, yet people often confuse them. Have you ever been around people, yet felt both alone and lonely? Have you ever been alone, yet didn't feel lonely? Do you often crave solitude, or is being alone too lonely for you? There is an inherent reason for these differences. Discover the information loneliness might be giving you, and whether or not you n...

What are you most devoted to in your life? What lights you up and gets you moving every day? Perhaps you don’t know the answer to this and this podcast can be of help to you in discovering what your passionate purpose is - lights up your heart and soul.

Have you learned how to keep your heart open to your feelings and your guidance so that you can respond to challenging situations from your loving adult rather than from your ego wounded self - from love rather than from fear? This takes practice, but it’s what will create your sense of safety.

Are you brave enough to take the risk of staying true to yourself with your family and friends, even at the risk of being rejected by them, or do you cave out of your fear of rejection and of ending up alone?

Today we want to speak to the issue of being willing, or not, to work hard to get what you want. It seems that hard work is a challenge for many of today’s young people, and this is what Erika has often been encountering.

Knowing when you are being manipulated is a challenge for all of us. In this podcast, we share with you what we’ve learned about how to know when someone is being authentic or lying and manipulative. 

Do you advocate for yourself with the important people in your life, or are you allowing fear and a desire to control others to guide your actions? Are you aware of the stress you might be causing yourself due to not speaking up and advocating for yourself?

Many achieve wealth through competition, but are the emotional consequences worth it? And do you know that even more success can be achieved through the creativity that results from cooperation? Discover how to successfully manifest your dreams and have fun doing it!