Infertility Crossroads

Hayley is an amazing human who is not only donor conceived but is also a mom to donor conceived twins.  In today's episode, Hayley and I talk about her story of learning she was donor conceived, how her own experiences have shaped the way her and her wife approach parenting their children, and our shared thoughts on how, as recipient parents, we have to do our own work in navigating our feeli...

Today I'm sharing five of my favorite holiday hacks to help you get through the holidays.  This episode is a little more light hearted and is meant to give you practical tips and tricks for getting through the holidays.  If you want to do the emotional work, check out episode 10. Giving Thanks When It Feels Like There Is Nothing to Give Thanks For.   Connect with me on Instagram &nb...

This episode is part 2 of a two part series I recorded with my husband Michael.  If you haven't listened to part 1 yet, go back and listen to episode 11 first.  In today's episode, Michael and I pivot our conversation to our perspectives on choosing our donor, working through our grief around donor conception, the way we communicate in decision making, Michael's thoughts on us using anon...

Infertility from the male perspective is not talked about nearly as much as it should be.  In part 1 of a 2 part series with my husband, Michael Getman, we talk about his perspective of our path to becoming parents.  Michael talks about how he felt when we learned he had a low sperm count that would lead us to IUI, his thoughts on the infertility crossroad of going to IVF to how we navig...

Giving thanks when it feels like you have nothing to be thankful for can be really hard.   During the holidays, when we are "supposed to be thankful" can be especially challenging.  For me, as a kid, the holidays were magical.  As I got older, they got harder and harder.  And during infertility they were the absolute worst.  The holidays marked another year of trying. &nbs...

Infertility can be incredibly challenging on your relationships - especially your relationship with your partner.  Today I'm sharing six tips for building better connection with your partner during infertility.  Infertility is typically one of the first really hard things couples go through.  Up until now, it's probably been really good! And now, not only are you struggling to build...

Why has pregnancy and infant loss awareness month felt hard for me? Because I don't fit into what I perceived a loss had to be. I didn't have a miscarriage.  I didn't have an infant loss.  And I feel incredibly grateful that is the case.  But I did have loss along the way.  I had 7 unsuccessful cycles of treatment for infertility.  I had 3 IVF cycles that all resulted in e...

We used an anonymous donor.  I'd do it differently if I could. This topic is a very personal one for me.  Because the choice we made to use an anonymous egg donor is one that I felt guilty about for a long time.  It's something that impacts my children in ways I never thought about.   But I also think it is incredibly important to talk about it.  Talk about what I've learn...

One of the hardest things for me when I was on my journey to becoming a parent was finding people who were in the same situation as I was.  I wanted so deeply to connect with others who understood what I was going through. I found some infertility friends but when we decided to move onto donor eggs, finding people who understood the complexities of donor was even harder. This episode features...

Coming to terms with using a donor to build your family.  It's a BIG infertility crossroad and one that I think is really important to talk about.  Maybe you are just hearing about using a donor as an option.  Maybe you have known deep down that donor was going to be your path.   Maybe you even know that donor is your path because of a cancer diagnosis or other reason why you o...

Today I wanted to talk about a topic that is near and dear to my own story - low AMH and donor eggs.  AMH, or anti-mullerian hormone is a hormone that is made in the reproductive tissues and can give you pieces of information about the puzzle that is your infertility story.   I didn't know anything about AMH until I was well into my fertility journey.  On today's episode I talk abou...

I hear it all the time...I don't want to push away my friends and family but I don't want to share all the details of our infertility journey.  How do I keep things private but not push people away?  Infertility can be incredibly isolating.  It can be hard, especially if we are wanting to keep things private and not share with everyone how much we are struggling to have a baby. &nbs...

On this episode of Infertility Crossroads, I'm sharing with you five things I'd do differently if I had to start my fertility journey all over again.   Do you ever wish you had the opportunity to look back and change what you did?  It could be anything in life - maybe you'd study harder at school.  Maybe it would be taking up the flute instead of the clarinet (that is one of mine!)....

In today's episode I'm kicking off this podcast sharing with you my story of being infertile and told donor eggs were my only option at the age of 31.   I didn't believe I had infertility.  Even though we were trying to conceive, had formal diagnosis of low sperm count, low sperm motility, low AMH and diminished ovarian reserve and were seeing a reproductive endocrinologist.  I just...

Perhaps like me, you thought having a baby would be easy...yet here you are every day, week and month having to make big, scary, and radical decisions about what your future might look like.  I call it the Infertility Crossroads.   Whether you are just getting started on your fertility journey, have been trying for years, or are headed down an alternative path you are welcome here. Join...