I’m on the phone!

⚠️ Content Note Content Note: This episode includes discussion of family dynamics, emotional harm, and experiences within a high-control religious environment. Listener discretion is advised. This is Part 2 of my story. And it’s the most personal I’ve shared so far. Christy wasn’t able to join me for this one, so it’s just me — walking through the parts of my story that are harder to say out loud....

This week is a little different. No big topic. No deep dive. No structured conversation. Just two friends catching up after life… really life’d. We talk about what the past week has looked like — the unexpected, the exhausting, and everything in between — and let the conversation go wherever it wanted to go. Sometimes healing doesn’t look like processing. Sometimes it looks like showing up, laughi...

⚠️ Content Warning Content Warning: This episode includes discussion of purity culture, sexual shame and coercion, and harmful teachings about desire. Listener discretion is advised. In Part 3 of our Purity Culture & Stolen Identity series, we talk about desire. What were we actually taught about it? Who was “allowed” to have it? And was it ever really about holiness… or control? We get into: • Wh...

⚠️ Content Warning Content Warning: This episode contains discussion of purity culture, predatory behavior within religious systems, and child sexual abuse. Listener discretion is advised, especially for survivors of abuse. This week we begin a new series exploring how purity culture shaped — and in many ways stole — our sexual identity. For those of us raised in high-control religious environment...

⚠️ Content Note (optional but wise) Discussion includes purity culture, religious trauma, sexual identity, and embodied healing as well as a story in a dentists chair that includes blood. Part 3 of our Love & Survival series takes us into identity. If I’m not the agreeable one… who am I? We talk about what surfaced when we stopped fawning. The emotions that felt almost impossible to access. The pu...

In this episode, we answer three deceptively simple questions: • What did “being loving” mean in your family or church? • What happened when you had needs? • What did conflict feel like in your body? And the answers take us somewhere deeper than doctrine. We talk about how love was defined as compliance. How having needs could feel dangerous. How conflict didn’t just feel uncomfortable… it felt th...

We set out to answer one question: How do I love others if I’ve lived my whole life in fawn mode? And two questions in… we realized how much survival had been masquerading as love. When you grow up learning that being agreeable keeps you safe, that managing other people’s emotions keeps the peace, that self-erasure is kindness… it takes time to untangle what love actually is. In this episode we ta...

Episode 20 flips the script. This time, Christy interviews me using our core five questions. The ones we ask every guest. The ones that always open doors we didn’t expect. We talk about the mess along the way. The moments where things stopped making sense. The boundaries that didn’t come naturally but became necessary. This episode isn’t a highlight reel. It’s an honest conversation about what it...

This week, we used our guest questions in a new way. Instead of starting with “when did the cracks appear,” we skipped ahead, because we’ve already lived that part out loud. What mattered here was what came after. We talk about: • the boundaries we didn’t know we were allowed to have • the red flag behaviors we no longer explain away • how discernment shows up in your body before your words catch...

In this episode, we talk about the moment we first noticed the cracks in the foundation. Not the dramatic blow-ups, but the quiet, creeping signs that something wasn’t right. We unpack what kept us staying longer than we should have, how toxic systems train you to doubt your instincts, and the red-flag behaviors we no longer negotiate or explain away. Leaving isn’t failure. Sometimes it’s the clea...

No heavy topics. No deep dives. Just us, a New Year’s Eve recording, holiday chaos, laughter, and letting ourselves enjoy the moment. Sometimes the most healing thing is simply being present. #PodcastEpisode #NewYearsEvePodcast #HolidayVibes #PodcastLife #FriendshipPodcast #EndOfYearReflections #CozyConversations #JustForFun #UnfilteredMoments Follow on Social Media ⬇️ Instagram → https://www.inst...

“Peace on Earth” sounds beautiful — until you read the fine print. ⚠️CW: This episode includes discussion of religious trauma, emotional abuse, family estrangement, divorce, and holiday-related triggers. Listener discretion advised. In this episode, we talk honestly about what the holidays can feel like after religious trauma, estrangement, abuse, and financial survival mode. We discuss: • Why Chr...

This episode includes discussion of spiritual abuse, emotional manipulation, domestic abuse, child endangerment, and references to sexual abuse within a religious context. Listener discretion is advised. ☕ Support the podcast on Ko-fi: 👉 ko-fi.com/imonthephonepodcast 📲 Follow us on social media: 👉 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imonthephonepodcastmoms?igsh=a2xreGk2NTJ4OXQz&utm_source=qr...

In today’s episode, we analyze a sermon that starts with themes of sin and death… and then takes a disturbing turn. What begins as a familiar fundamentalist message quickly spirals into: ​ Public humiliation from the pulpit ​ Objectification of women (and, strangely, men too) ​ Mockery, shaming, and dehumanizing language ​ Emotional manipulation packaged as “biblical truth” ​ Classic markers of hi...

In Episode 14, we break down a story of religious conditioning, manipulation, and identity loss inside high-control church culture. Christy shares how a pastor’s wife “guided” her child’s music preferences—teaching him to hide his real feelings—and we dive into how patriarchy and purity culture shape kids from the start. 🎙️ Music, Manipulation, & Religious Conditioning Available on YouTube, Apple...

👉 If last week’s episode hit you hard, this is the follow-up you’ve been waiting for. This week, we’re responding to your voices. Episode 13 dives into the impact last week’s conversation had on our community — and a powerful listener letter that put so many of our experiences into words. We talk about what hit us the hardest, what surprised us, and how hearing your stories continues to shape thi...

What happens when a “holiness” sermon turns into a masterclass in manipulation? In this episode of I’m on the Phone, Sara and Christy break down a 1983 camp meeting sermon — a fiery display of shame, DARVO, and spiritual power plays aimed straight at a pastor’s wife. This one’s part analysis, part reaction, and 100% unmasking how control hides behind the pulpit. ⚠️ Content note: religious trauma,...

What happens after “the board meeting” ? When the shame, the fear, and the expectation to repent, obey, and submit don’t just end — they follow you into adulthood. In this week’s episode, I talk about how we were conditioned to respond when we were in the “hot seat,” what dating looked like under purity culture, and how those old reflexes still show up today — even when we know better. 🎧 Listen n...

Ever been part of a “holy hustle”? 👀 This week, we’re diving into the Phone-a-thon days, the unspoken rules of being a pastor’s wife, and one college experience that crossed every boundary of personal space. 😬 It’s honest, a little unhinged, and definitely positively wrong. Follow us: Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/imonthephonepodcastmoms?igsh=a2xreGk2NTJ4OXQz&utm_source=qr TikTok → https...

This week, we dive into the psychological thriller Frailty — and wow, did it hit close to home. The way it twists faith, fear, and obedience brought back memories of our own culty pasts. We talk about spiritual manipulation, religious trauma, and the eerily familiar tactics that made this film feel less like fiction and more like a mirror. Grab your coffee (or something stronger) and join us for a...

⚠️Content note: This episode includes discussion of cult dynamics, religious trauma, and LGBTQ+ topics. Please listen with care if those areas are sensitive for you. 🎙️What starts as a cozy book chat turns into a deep dive on beliefs, mindset shifts, culty brainwashing, and dating after deconstruction. We even touch on the movie Frailty — which we’ll be unpacking fully in next week’s episode 👀 Th...

🎙️ This week on I’m on the Phone! we’re keeping it cozy and conversational — chatting about: 🎃 More about the scary and Halloween movies that stuck with us 🧸 The toys from our childhood that defined an era ✨ And the meaning (or mystery) behind angel numbers It’s one of those laid-back, late-night-call episodes — equal parts nostalgia, laughter, and “wait… do you remember that?!” 💌 Contact us:...

🎙️ On this week’s episode of I’m on the Phone! we’re diving into: ✨ More Goodwill Christmas finds (the treasures keep coming!) 👗 Costumes that had us laughing and remembering 🎥 Scary movies — the ones we love and the ones that scarred us 🧙‍♀️ And… what do witches and Christmas have in common? (You’ll want to hear this part 👀) It’s another mix of laughter, nostalgia, and the random mom-life co...

🎙️ In this episode of I’m on the Phone! we get real about the moments that shape us — from the kid accidents that make moms lose it, to the ways superstition and cult conditioning creep into our daily lives. Sara shares her personal story about wearing makeup and how conditioning around something so small left a lasting impact. This one’s raw, honest, and a reminder that we’re all still unlearning...

🚨🚨TW: discussion of spiders, boundary violations in water, near drowning. 🚨🚨 🎙️ In this episode of I’m on the Phone! we cover it ALL — from our thoughts on Tyler Henry (yes, the Hollywood Medium 👀), to a hilariously honest discussion of some things we hate, to the outdoor adventures that moms can’t help but laugh (or cry) about. This podcast is all about those real-life, unfiltered conversati...