I'm Not Gon Be Before You Long

I'm currently on a social media detox — and in this episode I'm talking about what led me there and what stepping away from the noise does for me. But this isn't just about social media. It's about taking inventory of whatever is quietly consuming our time, our energy, and our focus, and asking ourselves if it's actually serving us. Everybody's thief looks different. What's yours? Let's reclaim wh...

Since 2010 I've been showing up to concerts, comedy shows, and everything in between — sometimes with people, sometimes completely alone. And I wouldn't change a thing. In this episode I'm talking about what we give up waiting on somebody to go with us, why we do it, and what starts to happen when we finally just... show up for ourselves anyway. "You da birthday." Act accordingly. 🎂 Email: ingbby...

We've all been there — somebody does or says something, nobody addresses it directly, and suddenly the whole family is treating somebody differently based on a story that's been passed around so many times it barely resembles what actually happened. In this episode I'm talking about why we avoid hard conversations, what it costs us when we do, and what's actually possible on the other side of one....

We love a fresh start. A grand gesture. A Monday reset. But what if the thing that actually changes your life is a lot less dramatic than that? In this episode I'm talking about the power of consistency and what happens when you just keep showing up — even when it doesn't feel like anything is happening. From my Spanish journey to compound interest to the small daily choices that quietly shape who...

Senior year of college, four bedrooms, three roommates, and one unexpected note on the door. We were getting a new roommate — and she was not what any of us anticipated. I had thoughts. A lot of them. But how I see it now versus how I saw it then is vastly different.

In this episode, I’m unpacking what it looks like to live in survival mode even when life is “good.” From always expecting something to go wrong, to struggling to rest, to operating from scarcity no matter how much you have—I’m sharing how this mindset shows up in my everyday life and where it may have come from.

In this episode, we’re breaking down the art of apologizing—what it really takes and why some of us struggle with doing it. From intent versus impact to the psychology behind avoidance, I share insights, examples, and a simple framework to help you apologize effectively and thoughtfully. Email me at ingbbylpodcast@gmail.com

I’m turning 40 and talking about what that means to me. Discussing how two things can be true at once, nervous system awareness, embracing every version of ourselves, protecting our peace, and how awareness sometimes costs us proximity. I’m also honest about areas where I still struggle, things I'm proud of, and stuff I’m still figuring it out. Email topics, questions, and thoughts to ingbbylpodca...

I returned home from Manila on Valentine’s Day to a house that didn’t skip a beat. In this mini episode, my husband joins me as my first guest to talk about partnership, parenting, and the assumptions people make when mom is away. This conversation is about partnership, the kind that looks like stability, trust, and showing up.

Recap of my first day in the Philippines.

Celebrating Black History Month and reflecting on resilience, justice, and pride. Plus, a look at boundaries and navigating relationships.

This episode talks through something I’ve been reflecting on a lot lately: the difference between what drains me and what recharges me. The things that quietly overstimulate us. The environments, habits, and noise that chip away at our peace. And the small, often overlooked things that bring us back to ourselves.

We all face situations that frustrate, anger, or hurt us—but what if the real lesson isn’t just about what happened to us, but how we respond? In this episode, I explore how to move beyond anger, reflect on how we may be contributing to recurring challenges, and take ownership of our actions. From a conversation with my 11-year-old about accountability to examples we all experience as adults, we b...

Stuck at a job you hate because you don’t check all the boxes for the job you want? Shanita shares relatable stories and motivation that will hopefully get you off the sidelines and into the game — go chase the career and the life you’re meant to have.

In this first episode, Shanita talks about self-betrayal — the quiet ways we delay our own lives while waiting on permission, support, or approval that may never come. From missed opportunities to learning how to move solo, this conversation is about choosing action, trusting yourself, and realizing that time doesn’t wait just because you do.