Ignite Your RADIANCE

Relationships need a firm foundation. Divine masculine offers protection that contributes to a safe container for the relationship. Divine feminine offers a nurturing presence. Protection and nurture are elemental for our growth and development. It only makes sense that these elements are essential for a secure healthy relationship. 

The most essential element of our life is CHOICE. Having free will is the foundation of our humanity, worth fighting for. It's also a significant element in any relationship. Choice creates freedom. Choice asks for consent, your agreement. Healthy, safe relationships allow for consideration of choice. Relationships become toxic when choice is taken away.  Choice asks for transparency and comm...

This week we launch the discussion of masculine and feminine. We all have both element within us. How we manifest these elements is what creates our unique design.  Simply stated, masculinity offers a safe anchor, while femininity offers flow, love, and creativity. How this shows up in each individual becomes as variable as the individual themselves. It's helpful to understand the mature and...

As we prepare to start discussing relationships, it's important to understand how we show up as an individual.  Radical accountability is a critical piece towards healthy relationships. Radical accountability asks to be mindful in how we represent ourselves. It asks that we own our mistakes......whew!.....that creates levels of vulnerability and discomfort. Radical accountability also asks th...

Our lives begin with our first breath and end with our last breath. Breath is an essential part of living.  There is the saying that says the difference between fear and excitement is BREATH. Breathing is automatic thanks to the brain stem. Yet HOW we breath can impact our energy, health, mood, and experiences.  Dr. Ginger Garner is a professional singer and pelvic floor physical therapist and has...

Setting boundaries is a critical skill towards self love and acceptance. Setting boundaries is about YOU. Boundaries are your guidelines you establish to feel safe. Understand, boundaries are not about controlling others (that falls into toxic expectations). Boundaries are not telling others what they can and can't do; rather boundaries establishes guidelines about your actions should your li...

Ever been told by mom or dad to "be good"? Parenting is tough and having well behaved children helps the challenge......wait.....it is not a child's responsibility to manage their parents emotions. Yes, children need guidance, teaching, and mentoring to learn how to navigate their world with love, kindness, and mindfulness, but not at the expense of losing their identity to being a...

Our bodies know what it needs to heal. Whether it is creating a fever to fight off an infection, shivering to warm up in the cold, or the intuitive guidance for emotional healing, the body knows. The body's wisdom understands what is ready to be seen, felt, and healed.  It doesn't offer more than we are ready for. Listen and validate the messages of the body. Understand the body "ta...

Your body is longing to be reunited with your mind and spirit.  Through our journey of life, we often choose to avoid discomfort and pain; albeit unconsciously. However, that decision also limits our ability to experience joy and pleasure. We've become cut off from ourselves, our bodies, and our hearts. The invitation is to be willing to periodically check in....."I'm I fully presen...

Does your belief system tell you that asking for help is weak? Do you often feel like you are a burden to others? It is easy to fall into these situations of believing we are perceived as weak if we ask for support. Sadly, our society promotes independence, individuality, and perfectionism which reinforce shame and doubt if help is sought after.  It's time to connect. It's time to lift o...

We often base who we are and what we deserve on how others treat use. We are born worthy, yet if our caretakers have a rough day or treat us unkindly, we take on the energy as if we deserved that. It's not true! We are already worthy of love, trust, and compassion. We deserve kindness, honesty, secure relationships, and safety. When we come to recognize our worth, then we have a greater disce...

Let's celebrate the 7th chakra, the crown chakra! This chakra is located on the top of the head or slightly above. The color is purple and it invites us to collaborate with our Divine Power. This chakra includes the mind which influence our thoughts, beliefs, and intentions. It is important to unpack the elements of who we are, the shadows and negative traits we would rather leave behind beca...

We will be introducing the sixth chakra, the third eye. This chakra invites us to expand our intuition and openness that allows us to see another in their real self.  One exercise to explore is "the greatness I see in you". This exercise has you work with a partner and eye gaze with one another for a designated time (30 seconds to a few minutes, longer when you are more comfortable). The...

Speak your truth. The throat chakra includes throat, tongue, ears, and neck. The color is blue and the element is sound or space.  Interestingly, the throat chakra is coordinated with the developmental stage of early adolescence as we learn to speak up for ourselves. The challenge is this stage can be confronted with lies both obvious and subtle from loved ones, authority figures, and peers. It ta...

"Your task is not to seek for love, but to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against love."--Rumi Love, we all desire to be loved. Yet, too often we feel as though we are constantly chasing it, leaving us feeling depleted, depressed and unwanted. What if love began within? What if there was a never ending, abundant supply of love? Would you be willing and...

This episode we introduce the third chakra, the solar plexus. Our discussion is guided by the book Chakra Rituals by Cristi Christensen. Ever hear the phrase, "I trust my gut"? Well, it's a reflection of the third chakra. This chakra is located at the diaphragm to the naval and yes, includes the gut. Common phrases like this are a wonderful reflection of how the body truly does guid...

Second chakra is the sacral chakra. This chakra holds our joy, bliss, pleasure, and sexuality. It is the source of our creativity and expression. This chakra is located above the pubic bone and below the belly button. It houses genitals, large intestine, kidneys, and bladder. The color correlated with this chakra is orange. Our growth and development impacts how we express ourselves through this c...

A common core wound is believing there is something inherently wrong with who we are. This pattern unconsciously offers a protection justifying why we don't have what we want because we are broken somehow, aka, we don't deserve what we want because we aren't worthy or deserving. We are born worthy and deserving of loving nurturing care. Sadly, not all circumstances provide a secure...

We understand the growth and development of children and the importance of their support through those stages. Yet somehow we get thrown into the deep end once we become grown ups. Midlife crisis may actually be a hallmark for further growth and development. Brene Brown suggests that navigating who we are and filtering through the challenges of life to rediscover our authenticity IS the developmen...

You are safe. Safety has many elements to consider. Safety goes well beyond a roof over your head. It includes physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual, and financial well-being. Our attempt to "shake it off" and move on tends to minimize the impact of not being safe in our experiences. Unmet needs become wounds. Those wounds imprint in our bodes and become chronic illness, depressio...

Is there really a difference between intention and expectation? This is a common question with clients and often a challenging concept to separate. Expectation is based on outcome; how it should exactly look. These outcomes become the external validation of who we are. If I lose 15 pounds; THEN I'll be pretty. If I finally get my master's degree; THEN I'll be smart enough. If I keep...

I am often asked what IS sexual intimacy? There is much confusion about sex. Despite the explosion of information and access to sexual content on social media and the internet, there is less understanding on what true intimacy is and how it can beautifully impact our lives. True intimacy heals our hearts. True intimacy offers safety to deeply surrender into another. True intimacy magnifies our gif...

ABC of somatic healing creates some simple tools for change.  A is for Awareness. Awareness is the first step to healing. All too often in current society, we have become cut off from our body and drop into unconscious patterns. Start here. Simply pay attention to what is happening; when you feel a big emotion, pause and assess what sensations are you experiencing in your body. Listen to how you s...

Fun fact about me is that I have wrestled alligators! Yes, the big boys with teeth. It started as a dare from a friend, that became a motto for deep inner work. Wrestling a gator demands your full attention, support from a trained guide, and leaning into a fear that something could go wrong yet trusting the training and resources to accomplish the task. Psycho somatic healing can feel quite simila...

The privilege of being me is that I have had many experiences, trainings and invitations to places many others are not able to be a part of.  Being a Family Nurse Practitioner allowed me to train with psychologists, physical therapists, orthopedics, physicians, naturopaths, nurses, and non-traditional healing modalities. Being in healthcare for the past 35 years has taught me valuable skills of as...