Ignite Your RADIANCE

My mom would often say, "You can't win the lottery if you don't buy a ticket." Life offers many tickets, if only we are willing to receive. How do you define what the 'lottery' is? Each individual determines this. That's the magic! I'm living my best life based on what I want. What do you want? This episode is dedicated to my Mom. 

All the techniques, tools and resources won't matter if they are not implemented. Practice the concepts that resonate so that they become a natural part of your daily routine.  Start small and simple. Then add in another concept towards mastery. 

Healing is accepting you can't do it all. In fact, it was never your job to do it all. Too often our identity to enmeshed with 'saving others'. When we begin to understand who we are in pur authenticity, we can begin to untangle the unhealthy responsibilities we've taken on and release them.

Taking accountability......back to this! Yet, how can we move forward in our healing if we don't take accountability for our actions or emotions. Yes, we need to take back the pain, grief, and anger we attempted to discharge through numbing, running away, or fighting. Taking it back is only temporary. With the proper tools, the emotions can be properly processed to release allowing true heali...

A significant piece of transformative healing is community. Basic human needs include connection. Service to others can enhance those connections and strengthen community. When we serve from a resourced place (aka no self sacrifice), we often find meaning and purpose. 

Transformation doesn't happen overnight. Too often we see others in their radiance and believe it was easy for them to achieve. Granted, a small percentage of people were taught as children healthy coping strategies and had access to excellent resources that allowed them to navigate life's challenges from a healthier state. However, most people make a conscious choice for change. Whether...

Fight, Flight, Freeze, & Fawn.....and perhaps just F@*k off! The last one is my interpretation of "I'll show you!" Otherwise, combining the first four strategies into a determination to prove my worth.  Coping strategies develop when we don’t feel safe, seen or loved. They helped us survive our environment but sadly, they become patterns of behavior that can be obstacles to the...

Who are you? When you know and understand who you are at the core, it becomes easier to navigate the ups and downs of life.

Life is colorful, messy, and full of variety. Embrace it all! Each experience adds to the tapestry of our lives.

Life is hard! Life is messy! Life is freedom! Life is about choices! It's too easy to fall into patterns of indecisiveness and apathy, allowing our fears to limit us. What if it only required one step, just the next step? When we focus more on what we want and the simple steps to achieve it, our desires become obtainable.

Life doesn't always go as planned. In fact, it often hits the fan and creates a massive mess. When this happens, it's easy to think any progress made, is lost. It's not true! In fact, the tools and techniques gained as you ignite your radiance actually help give perspective, the ability to slow down, and then navigate life's messy circumstances in a more sustainable way. 

How we view life impacts how we live life. Our beliefs, experiences and stories contribute to our own prison or our freedom. How do you want to live life?

Body Image.....UGH! It's all I seem to think about. Am I thin enough, strong enough......enough is enough! I decided to love myself just as I am (warts, stretch marks, and rolling curves). Part of that journey was to do a semi nude photo shoot. I thought looking at the pictures would require courage, instead, courage was leaning into the vulnerability of emotions that emerged while doing the...

I believe some of pur best lessons come from stories, movie clips, and sound bytes.  This episode we explore the subtle lessons gained from the iconic Twilight Series. 

How often do you celebrate your wins? What if those wins are not losing your keys today? Yes, even the small wins need to be celebrated. Celebration is a firm of gratitude which cultivates love and compassion for ourselves. Those are the elements that keep our RADIANCE burning bright.

Running into burning buildings, I've got this!  Remaining calm during a cardiac arrest, just doing my job! Rescuing a coworker off a tall tower, all part of the training! We easily take for granted the incredible feats we do on a daily basis. Yet, it takes a toll on our nervous system, regardless of our training. Everyone, and I do mean everyone, needs support; to be witnessed in the incredib...

Life is hard! Life is overwhelming! And so, we find ways to DEAL.......we avoid, shutdown, numb, forget, disassociate, overeat, etc. Has that really worked for anyone? If anything, I believe it creates another layer of issues to be dealt with. So, let's expose the pain in a safe, gentle way that allows those events to be witnesses, held, and nurtured. Don't be afraid of the scary trench,...

Consent is necessary in every element of a secure healthy relationship as it builds trust and safety. The wheel of consent created by Betty Martin is an excellent guide to understand how we give and receive. 

Every great story, book, movie, and plot twist asks the question: what do we do now? It's the moment when the hero takes action to save the day. Choices change the outcome. If you don't like the path a particular choice led you, simply make another choice. It's really that easy.

Life happens! Living as a human being we are going to experience ups and down, disappointment, and unexpected events. So how does one manage these experiences? One option is to dwell in the negative, adapting a victimized attitude that nothing goes right, feeling stuck and overwhelmed. OR, one can own their emotions, accept what is, ask for support, and take the next step to problem solve.

Spiraling into blame and shame isn't helpful. Shame says "I AM bad". Blame projects our pain amd discomfort away from us. However, guilt (or radical responsibility) owns our actions, emotions whole separating us from the item; ie, "I DID something bad". It creates a pathway to make change an  create growth.

Our body is a reflection of who we are. What do our feet say about us? According to Louise Hay, feet represent our understanding of self, life, and others. When foot issues such as fungal infection, bunions, or cracked heels appear it may indicate that we are not grounded or trusting our own intuition.  Take time to love and care for your feet; they are carrying precious cargo. Book references: Yo...

"I'm bored" can be a logistical nightmare as a caregiver to children, but what if your nervous system is crying out with the same statement?  This statement may be an lean into practice more mindful rest after years of surviving chaos. It could be an invitation towards deeper healing when resistance comes up. Or, it could be a catalyst of creation. This episode gives some strategies...

Are you perfectly happy in this moment? What would it take to become satisfied with life exactly as it is? A practice of gratitude often expands the perception of the resources we already have, thus creating a sense of abundance. 

Remember the scene in Aladdin when he's on the magic carpet and offers his hand to Jasmine asking, "do you trust me?" What if your body is asking the same question, desiring to guide you "to a whole new world"?  Our bodies are magical, sensual beings of creation. Yet, we often disassociate from our bodies; convinced they only bring us pain and misery. That pain comes from...