Igbo, Queer, and Unfiltered

A version of you that appears dependable, submissive, and easy to understand is what many people become attached to. In this episode, we look at what happens when your personal growth goes against what other people expect of you, whether those expectations come from family, religion, culture, or long-term relationships. Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversa...

What would your life look like if you stopped waiting for permission to be yourself? In this episode, I am getting into something deeply personal. The emotional cost of seeking approval from family, religion, culture, and society when your authentic life challenges everything you were raised to be. As a Gay Igbo Man I know exactly what it feels like to silently hope that one day the people you lov...

Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversations, fashion, and queer joy. Watch more videos: https://youtube.com/channel/UC9jWWJwF_KzrY14FR9DXO4A https://youtube.com/@igboqueerandunfilteredpod?si=0GZV68iNaWT5BumS Visit my website: www.myownkindofrunway.com Listen to my podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5EjOLr2ilFBqhaXkoTK72a Instagram: https://instagram.com/...

Can you forgive someone and still choose to walk away? In this episode, we are getting into one of the most misunderstood parts of healing. Forgiveness and reconciliation are not the same thing, and nobody talks about that enough. So many of us were taught that forgiving someone means going back. Rebuilding. Pretending it never happened. But what if the thing that hurt you have not changed? What i...

In this episode, we delve into a distressing reality that many queer individuals, particularly those from Africa, are familiar with: the experience of being accepted in private but denied in public. Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversations, fashion, and queer joy. Watch more videos: https://youtube.com/channel/UC9jWWJwF_KzrY14FR9DXO4A https://youtube.com/...

Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversations, fashion, and queer joy. Watch more videos: https://youtube.com/channel/UC9jWWJwF_KzrY14FR9DXO4A https://youtube.com/@igboqueerandunfilteredpod?si=0GZV68iNaWT5BumS Visit my website: www.myownkindofrunway.com Listen to my podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5EjOLr2ilFBqhaXkoTK72a Instagram: https://instagram.com/...

It is important to tell the truth in places where it wasn't meant to be told to truly heal. When you are trying to heal, it can be challenging to accept that the place where your pain happened is probably not the best place for you to grow. Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversations, fashion, and queer joy. Watch more videos: https://youtube.com/channel/UC9...

This episode looks at what it means to become the target of other people's fear, insecurity, discomfort, and unresolved beliefs. Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversations, fashion, and queer joy. Watch more videos: https://youtube.com/channel/UC9jWWJwF_KzrY14FR9DXO4A https://youtube.com/@igboqueerandunfilteredpod?si=0GZV68iNaWT5BumS Visit my website: www.m...

This episode breaks down the fear that many of us have not because we chose to, but because we were taught to. Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversations, fashion, and queer joy. Watch more videos: https://youtube.com/channel/UC9jWWJwF_KzrY14FR9DXO4A https://youtube.com/@igboqueerandunfilteredpod?si=0GZV68iNaWT5BumS Visit my website: www.myownkindofrunway.c...

In this episode, we explore the emotional, social, and cultural implications of being the one who speaks openly, particularly in environments that are influenced by religion, tradition, and hierarchy. Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversations, fashion, and queer joy. Watch more videos: https://youtube.com/channel/UC9jWWJwF_KzrY14FR9DXO4A https://youtube.co...

In this episode, I discuss the true meaning of defying expectations, particularly in African, cultural, and religious contexts where conformity is frequently required. Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversations, fashion, and queer joy. Watch more videos: https://youtube.com/channel/UC9jWWJwF_KzrY14FR9DXO4A https://youtube.com/@igboqueerandunfilteredpod?si=0...

This conversation looks at the difference between personal faith and religious institutions. It also looks at how religion has been used in the past to enforce obedience, control, and regulation, using things like fear of hell and shame to police sexuality, gender, and dissent. Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversations, fashion, and queer joy. Watch more v...

This episode discusses a type of grief that isn't usually talked about. For many queer individuals, particularly those from African communities, this grief is both silent and profound. Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversations, fashion, and queer joy. Watch more videos: https://youtube.com/channel/UC9jWWJwF_KzrY14FR9DXO4A https://youtube.com/@igboqueerandu...

The problem is not your faith if you actively practice homophobia; it's your character. This conversation breaks down the difference between religion, morality, and character, and it questions the contradictions that happen when belief systems are used to justify harm. Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversations, fashion, and queer joy. Watch more videos: ht...

When parenting turns into control, shame, and fear, this episode confronts the hard truth of many queer African children, their first experience of rejection does not come from the outside world, it comes from home. What does it really mean to grow up gay in places that don't accept you? We elaborate on everything that is being used as a weapon of control to emotional and mental harm. Stay Connect...

As queer Africans navigating culture, family, and belonging, this discussion focuses on identity, control, and the unseen structures that influence our self-perception. Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversations, fashion, and queer joy. Watch more videos: https://youtube.com/channel/UC9jWWJwF_KzrY14FR9DXO4A https://youtube.com/@igboqueerandunfilteredpod?si=...

In this episode, we talk about how colonial laws, imported religious ideas, and rigid social structures have shaped how homophobia is defended today. We also talk about how culture is used as a weapon, the difference between heritage and control, and the real harm that happens when intolerance is presented as tradition. Culture is not cruelty; it is language, stories, music, community, and strengt...

As a gay African man, this is important to me. What's going on in Senegal and Uganda isn't random, it's not isolated, and it's not just about culture. It's a political strategy. When governments are pressured from problems such as economic hardship, unemployment, or corruption, moral panic can be a useful strategy. Fear takes over, laws get stricter, arrests happen, and queer people are made easy...

For far too long, hell has been used as a tool to silence, shame, and intimidate LGBTQIA+ individuals, particularly in religious settings. The idea that queer people are headed for eternal punishment is untrue; rather, it is a threat based on fear, control, and discomfort. Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversations, fashion, and queer joy. Watch more videos...

Many African homes see queerness as a battle that needs to be fought, repressed, prayed away, or put up with. But most queer Africans aren't really struggling with who they are; they're struggling with the fear, pressure, religious conditioning, and cultural consequences of being honest. Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversations, fashion, and queer joy. Wa...

In this episode, I speak directly to queer Africans who were brought up to pray through suffering, fast through trauma, and survive on their own. We explore the true nature of therapy, why it is stigmatized in many African homes. Asking for help is not a sign of rebellion but rather a duty to heal from the harm that homophobia, religion, familial pressure, and silence have caused us. Stay Connecte...

Home is where homophobia starts. It's not a coincidence that there is a lot of homophobia in African homes. It is taught, enforced, and protected by systems that are based on fear, control, religion, and silence. Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversations, fashion, and queer joy. Watch more videos: https://youtube.com/channel/UC9jWWJwF_KzrY14FR9DXO4A https:...

Being gay is viewed as an inexcusable sin in many African households, regardless of your financial difficulties, public failures, or disappointments. Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversations, fashion, and queer joy. Watch more videos: https://youtube.com/channel/UC9jWWJwF_KzrY14FR9DXO4A https://youtube.com/@igboqueerandunfilteredpod?si=0GZV68iNaWT5BumS Vi...

A big myth that is used to support homophobia in Africa is that being gay is "not African." This episode debunks that misconception. African spirituality has always had room for gay people, before colonial religion brought fear, shame, and strict gender rules. Stay Connected Welcome to myownkindofrunway, a place for unapologetic conversations, fashion, and queer joy. Watch more videos: https://you...

We are tired of being used as scapegoats by religious institutions that are founded on fear, control, and selective morality. We are tired of being told that we are sinful while pastors, churches, and religious leaders lead double lives without accountability. Religion has been transformed into a weapon against queer Africans, and we are no longer under the influence of this hypocrisy. African gay...