IDK MY BFF JUDE

This week, we’re talking about something that looks easy on the internet but feels hard in real life: how to be vulnerable without losing your peace. I get into what real authenticity actually is, why self-protection isn’t a flaw, how to tell the difference between hiding and listening to your body, and why discernment matters when you’re sharing your story. We talk Matthew 7:6, Brené Brown’s vuln...

Hosting sounds fun… until you’re knee-deep in oven timers, missing ice, and guests are already at your door. In part two of my How-To series, I’m breaking down what it really takes to host a party that feels effortless—and why the best ones are never about perfection. My best friend Gladys (a.k.a. the hostess with the mostest) joins me to talk guest lists, menus, prep chaos, and the secret art of...

There are hard things you choose—and then there are the ones that choose you. IDK, This Is Really Hard marks the start of our How-To Series, where we explore what it means to do the hard things we never actually asked to learn. In this first episode, I talk with my friend and holistic nutritionist Diana Tenbrink about walking through infertility, early menopause, and grief, and learning how to hol...

“I don’t know” used to feel like failure — like I was supposed to have an answer for everything. But somewhere between perfectionism and faith, I learned that not knowing can actually be the start of something good. In this solo episode of IDK My BFF Jude, I talk about learning to live in the gray, staying curious when clarity doesn’t come easy, and trusting God even when the plan doesn’t make sen...

Ever catch yourself asking, “IDK, are you mad at me?” Welcome to episode 8, where I get real about my lifelong relationship with people-pleasing. From saying yes before I even thought about it, to unpaid commitments I regretted, to buying a book called How to Say No back in 2008—I’ve lived the cycle. In this episode, I unpack how fear of rejection kept me agreeable, how faith and duty complicated...

Are you delulu... or just finally trusting yourself? This week, we're getting real about self-trust: how to build it, how to hear it, and how to stop outsourcing your gut to everyone else. If you've ever second-guessed a decision, spiraled after a bold move, or wondered whether you're intuitive or just impulsive — this one's for you. We’re talking intrusive thoughts, gym follow-thr...

Everyone swears they don’t gossip —but let’s be real, we all do. In this episode of IDK, My BFF Jude , we’re unpacking what gossip really means: is it just messy whispers, or can it actually be survival, connection, and even protection? I’m joined by my longtime friend Joss as we dive into: Why gossip shows up in every culture (yes, even in church). The difference between venting, storytelling, an...

In this episode of IDK My BFF Jude, I’m taking you to Chicago for three unforgettable true stories you won’t hear anywhere else. From a hilarious yet harrowing World War II family history about my aunt being “stuck in a tree,” to a spontaneous dance battle in Chinatown, to a late-night Red Line encounter with a mystery paper bag labeled “FREE EATS,” this episode is full of funny travel stories, sl...

This week’s episode wasn’t part of the plan. I was supposed to talk about gossip, but yesterday marked one year since my life blew up, and I couldn’t ignore that. So instead of tea, this is a heart-to-heart. A grief podcast episode about emotional healing, but not just the kind we talk about at funerals. This is about breakups, identity shifts, friendships that ended, and dreams that didn’t happen...

I built a life that looked good—on paper, at least. But behind the image was someone who had vanished from her own story. In this episode, I talk about what it means to stop disappearing, start choosing yourself, and reclaim the parts of you that were never meant to be sacrificed. We’re not talking about narcissism or main character syndrome. We’re talking about presence. About identity. About the...

Oldest Child Syndrome? Yeah… we’ve got it. Bad. In this episode, I’m joined by my longtime friend and fellow eldest sibling Michael as we spiral (with structure) through the highs, lows, and unspoken job description of being the oldest child. We talk birth order bias, pressure to perform, gender dynamics, and why being “the responsible one” is wildly overrated. There’s sibling shade, emotional rea...

What if you stopped performing and just lived ? A messy,honest start to a podcast about becoming—without having it all figured out. Hey, it’s me. And I honestly can’t believe I’m doing this. But here we are—mic on, spirit willing. Welcome to IDK, My BFF Jude , the podcast that feels like catching up with your favorite friend on a random Tuesday. In this first episode, I’m showing up mid-healing, p...

Welcome to IDK MY BFF JUDE—a podcast for the deep feelers, recovering perfectionists, and late-night overthinkers who are just trying to heal without losing their edge. In this teaser, I’m giving you a little taste of what’s to come: voice notes, unfiltered thoughts, and conversations that feel like your smartest, funniest friend just pulled you aside to say, “Okay, real talk…” This isn’t just a p...