I Missed Me

Forcing your entire identity into a single, neat little category is a fast track to feeling disconnected from who you actually are. Your personality was never meant to fit into one box. In this episode, we are breaking down society's obsession with limiting people and uncovering the freedom of realizing that you are the niche. We dive into why it’s completely okay to love things that seem enti...

We spend so much time overthinking every little detail of our lives, worrying about that text we sent, how we looked in a photo, or what people thought of our latest move, but the liberating truth is that nobody is thinking about you as much as you think they are. In this episode, we’re unpacking the profound freedom that comes with realizing people just don't care as much as your anxiety tell...

Let’s be honest: hiding behind the excuse of “not having enough time” or “waiting for the perfect edit” is a lot easier than admitting the real truth. You’re not actually struggling with your schedule; you’re just terrified of what happens when you finally let yourself be perceived. Putting your voice, your art, or your business out into the digital world feels like opening the front door and lett...

We often view productivity as a badge of honor, but really, the most productive thing you can do is listen to the signal that your body is finally reaching its limit In this episode, we’re getting honest about burnout, exhaustion, and the guilt that comes with needing to slow down. I’m opening up about my own recent experience with hitting a wall and why we need to stop labeling rest as "lazin...

We spend so much time scrolling through curated lives that we start to lose touch with what is actually real. But the most important shift we can make is learning to unlearn the "norms" social media has forced on us.  In this episode, we’re getting honest about social media's effect on self-perception and the toxic habits we’ve accidentally normalized. I’m sharing the specific self-rem...

It can feel incredibly isolating to have high standards in a world that tells you to "lower your expectations," but what if the problem isn't the size of your heart, it’s just the people you’re giving it to? In this episode, we’re getting honest about self-worth, healthy relationships, and the power of knowing your value. We’re breaking down the difference between being "difficult&...

It’s easy to feel like you’re failing when the motivation just isn't there, but the real breakthrough comes from learning to show up even when you feel "lazy." In this episode, we’re stripping away the pressure to be perfect and getting honest about what it looks like to stay consistent during a low-energy week. We’re moving past the "all or nothing" mindset and focusing on the...

We talk a lot about wanting to keep every connection forever... but what if the real shift happens when we stop treating "moving on" like a crime and start seeing it as a requirement for our own evolution? In this episode, we’re getting honest about the heavy, often silent transition of outgrowing friendships and navigating the constant identity shifts of your 20s. From the guilt that eats...

This episode is inspired by the viral Vogue article "Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?" Because I kind of agree, not because love is embarrassing, but because, like the article says, making your boyfriend the center of your life is not healthy.  We’re getting honest about identity, codependency, and the "cringe" of making a relationship your whole personality. From the ways w...

We spend so much energy making excuses for people that we stop listening to what our gut is actually telling us. It’s not about being quick to judge or cutting people off at the first sign of friction; it’s about learning to distinguish between a bad day and a pattern of behavior that doesn't respect your worth. In this episode, we’re getting honest about self-awareness, discernment, and the m...

We often talk about wanting to achieve more or reach that next milestone… but what if the real shift happens when we finally stop looking at everyone else’s clock and start trusting our own? In this episode, we’re getting honest about comparison, the pressure of "feeling behind," and how to reclaim your peace. From the toxic cycle of social media scrolling to the deep-seated fear that we a...

We often talk about wanting to change our lives… but what if the real shift happens when we finally let go of the person we used to be? In this episode, we’re getting honest about the grieving process of personal growth and why growth requires the end of your old self. From the discomfort of "losing yourself" to the beauty of rediscovery — this is a reminder that you aren't alone in fe...

Let’s be real for a second: the "perfect time" is a myth we tell ourselves so we don't have to start. If you’ve been sitting on an idea, a goal, or a version of yourself that you’re dying to meet, but you’re waiting for the stars to align... this episode is your sign to be honest with yourself. Today, we’re breaking down why we procrastinate, how perfectionism is actually just fear, an...

We talk a lot about wanting better friendships… but what if the real shift happens when we become the friend we’re looking for? In this episode, we’re getting honest about friendship, self-awareness, and personal responsibility. From communication and boundaries to presence, empathy, and emotional maturity — this is a reminder that the relationships we attract often reflect the way we show up. If...

What if the thing you’re most afraid of—being cringe, being judged, being misunderstood—is actually the key to your freedom? In this episode, we’re talking about why being cringe is being free and how letting go of other people’s opinions can completely change the way you show up in your life, your creativity, and your goals. From people-pleasing and overthinking to self-expression, confidence, an...

January comes with a lot of noise. Pressure to reinvent yourself overnight, to have it all figured out, to wake up as a brand-new person just because the calendar changed. But what if that pressure is fake? In this episode, we talk about the truth behind January expectations, why having a bumpy start to the year is completely okay, and how growth doesn’t need a specific date to begin. You don’t ne...

Welcome back to I Missed Me. This feels like the right way to start the year: slow, honest, and real If you’re new here, hi, I’m Mafe. And if you’ve been here since the beginning, thank you for still choosing to listen. This podcast started in 2022 as a safe space for self-love, healing, and growth… but behind the scenes, I’ve been growing too, sometimes beautifully, sometimes painfully. But what...

Sometimes letting go feels like failure, like you didn’t try hard enough, like you’re walking away from something you were supposed to hold on to. In this episode, we talk about the truth behind letting go — of people, of situations, of old versions of yourself. Not from anger, not from bitterness, but from a place of honesty, self-respect, and trust. This conversation is for anyone who’s holding...

In today’s episode, we dive into a truth most of us ignore: staying the same is actually harder than changing. We talk about why holding onto old versions of ourselves feels “safe,” even when they’re quietly breaking us, and why the pain of stagnancy is heavier than the fear of starting over. This episode is your reminder that discomfort doesn’t mean something is wrong; it often means you’re final...

In today’s episode, we talk about something so many of us avoid but eventually face: starting over. The endings we fear, the in-betweens that scare us, the unknown that makes us feel like everything is falling apart. But the truth is… starting over isn’t proof that you failed, it’s proof that you grew. It’s evidence that you were brave enough to choose yourself, even when it was uncomfortable. Beg...

In today’s episode, we dive into one of the most powerful shifts you can make in your life: appreciation. Appreciation as awareness, presence, softness, and self-respect. We talk about why what you appreciate, appreciates — and how noticing the small, quiet miracles around you completely rewires your mind, deepens your relationships, and brings you back home to yourself. This episode is a reminder...

Today’s episode dives deep into something we’ve all faced: heartbreak. But not the kind where you pretend you’re fine while still checking their stories at 2 AM. This one’s about actually getting over someone emotionally, mentally, spiritually. Because getting over someone isn’t about forgetting them — it’s about forgiving yourself, outgrowing who you were, and choosing peace over chaos. If your h...

We grow up believing love is something we find in another person that it’s something to search for, chase, or wait for. But love isn’t a destination or a single relationship. Love is everywhere. In this episode, we explore what it means to see love beyond romance — in friendships, in creativity, in kindness, in community, and within yourself. Love exists in every act of compassion, in the things t...

When life feels heavy, it’s easy to believe that what you’re going through is all there is. But every storm eventually passes, and every chapter no matter how painful leads to another. In this episode, we talk about shifting perspective, finding light in dark seasons, and remembering that your story is still unfolding. You are not your struggles, your fears, or your mistakes. You are the strength...

Have you ever felt selfish for wanting more? more love, peace, recognition, time? But what if it means we finally understand our worth? In this episode, we’re talking about what it truly means to deserve more. More time for yourself, more care, more opportunities, and more love — from others and from yourself. You’ll learn how to set boundaries, ask for what you need, and let go of guilt around wa...