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Send us Fan Mail Ok we’ll ask it: can’t we figure out a way to collectively make this time of year less stressful?!  The holidays come with a lot of very heavy baggage, mostly revolving around navigating other people’s feelings. And if there’s one thing moms are great at, it’s putting the needs of others first! Let’s explore that, shall we? This week, Erin and Ruby are chatting about how to manage...

Send us Fan Mail Picture this: you grew up in a home that didn’t shame sexuality. You became an adult feeling confident in your sexuality and valued that in your partner. Now, you’re a parent. Your house feels like a nest of chaos + love, largely devoted to all your kids’ things because they’ve taken over (what feels like) every square inch of your space. Even your bedroom. So where do you and you...

Send us Fan Mail The conversations we have around here - in the therapy room, with our friends, or in our DMs - often end with “ok but how do I say this to my partner?”  So I Love My Baby, and…is going to look a little different this week! We asked Ruby’s husband, Jon, to join her and answer some of these musings from a dad’s perspective. This week, Jon is answering YOUR DMs about the difficulties...

Send us Fan Mail Body image obsession certainly doesn’t start in adulthood. But the liberties people take when they’re around someone who is pregnant (and, let’s be honest, after) to comment on, touch, or ask weird questions about their bodies is taken to a whooooolllllleeeee other level.  In this week’s episode, Ruby and Erin dive into the commentary surrounding pregnancy and body image - who it...

Send us Fan Mail Growing your family is exciting! A wild ride! A developmental milestone! A….competition…? For a lot of families, this is absolutely the case. Whether it’s with extended family or your immediate family, the decision and timeline of growing your own family can come with a whole lotta baggage.  This week, Erin and Ruby chat about the range of emotion felt when it comes to navigating...

Send us Fan Mail Intrusive thoughts after having a baby are so common…and can be so awful. They play a role in the postpartum experience for you and can be distressing for the people who love you. Is there anything to do about them?  Yes! In this week’s episode of I Love My Baby, and…Erin and Ruby chat about the ways in which intrusive thoughts can completely change the postpartum experience, and...

Send us Fan Mail Do you ever feel like you’re comfortable in your role as a mom, but then those little intrusive thoughts come in and tell you that other moms are doing it better? And because you’re tired, you start to believe those thoughts? Same. We’re going to be really intentional with those quotes here, you guys. Because early parenthood is full of a lot of feelings and thoughts of “failure.”...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome back, friends!! We took the summer off to drive around to 178 different camps, travel, and plan some awesome episodes. We’re SO happy to be back.  In this episode, Erin and Ruby continue to explore the concept of self-care as it relates to life after baby, and life in your relationship with your partner. We know it’s important to take care of ourselves - at ANY point in ou...

Send us Fan Mail Whether it’s something you’ve wanted your whole life or something that sorta just happened, the shift to motherhood and all that it entails can catch you by surprise. Suddenly, your life feels like it revolves around feeding, sleeping, enrichment activities, mom groups…the list goes on. So what happens to all of the things that made you YOU before becoming a mom? Can you find a wa...

Send us Fan Mail After having a baby, people generally (not always) fall into one of 2 categories: the “I cannot WAIT to get back to work!” category and the “I no longer give a f*&^% about my job!” category. And it’s not uncommon to think you’re going to be in one of those categories and then change course after having your baby! This week, Ruby and Erin are talking about the ways in which mot...

Send us Fan Mail Life changes instantly when you have a baby - the routines you know, the relationships you have, the sex you love.  Wait…what?!? How can that be??  If you’re one of the millions of women whose relationship with sex changed after having a baby, this episode is for YOU! From the social pressure to “bounce back,” to the way our culture doesn’t really encourage talking about sex and s...

Send us Fan Mail Postpartum partnership problems (say that 10 times fast): we know them, we hate them, we don’t know what to do about them. Your connection to your partner and the other important people in your world can suffer after having a baby, and while it’s totally common and normal, that doesn’t make it any less distressing.  On this week’s episode, Erin and Ruby tackle an unconventional (b...

Send us Fan Mail Listen. The mother-in-law (MIL) drama has become this funny,  stereotypically negative relationship according to pop culture. But it’s the reality for a LOT of people; it’s a deeply complex relationship! Boundaries are so necessary and can feel SO hard to enforce. This week, Erin and Ruby break down various components of the MIL relationship, validate the crap out of your feelings...

Send us Fan Mail Mom Brain: sometimes it means you’re unable to string together your thoughts, and other times it means you’re stringing together 900 thoughts at 2 o’clock in the morning! In this week’s episode, Erin and Ruby are chatting about Instagram parenting courses (as discussed in this Glamour article) and how to determine what’s right for YOU. And the most important question we ask is: is...

Send us Fan Mail The concept of the default parent is loaded with emotion - for good reason! Parenthood *is* loaded with emotion. There’s generally an association with this term and being the parent who “does it all.” But is there truly a one-size-fits-all definition to the term “default parent?” (Hint: there isn’t! We add our own meaning to things like this!)   In the first installment of this 2-...

Send us Fan Mail One of the most common things we hear both in our DMs and in the therapy room is that the pressure to “bounce back” to who you were before having feels like it’s hitting us from virtually every single corner of our lives. So we thought now might be a great time to re-visit this oldie-but-goodie episode from the vault. In this aptly titled episode, we dive into the pressures we fee...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever paid close attention to the ways people respond to something you share that is pregnancy or motherhood-related? If not, after listening to this episode, you’re gonna. Because when you’re telling someone about the anxiety you have while your newborn is sleeping, it’s important to note that upwards of 0 people have been helped by hearing something to the effect of “jus...

Send us Fan Mail We hear a lot about the “invisible load” of motherhood, and that’s almost always applied to stay-at-home moms. And what’s truly mind-blowing is that literally none of the work done by SAHMs is invisible!!! It’s constant! It’s ever-changing! You’re doing all the things everyone relies on! YOU. DON’T. STOP.  Whether you knew all along that you wanted to be a SAHM, or it was somethin...

Send us Fan Mail “Family planning” is kind of a weird term. It encompasses so many different aspects of, well, planning for your family. But is there really a clear definition? What if you’re the world’s worst planner?! What then?!?! For some, they have a very clear idea of what family planning looks like. For others, they thought they had a clear idea, but something happens along their journey in...

Send us Fan Mail Did you find out the gender of your baby? Did you keep it a secret or tell everyone? Did you start planning accordingly?  Ok, now we have a harder question for you: did you experience disappointment after you found out? This is a common experience among tons of new moms (and their partners), and just like everything else related to the postpartum experience, it’s layered, and requ...

Send us Fan Mail You know how when you have a baby, the little things suddenly feel really big and overpowering? What was once easy now feels insurmountable. What used to not faze you now makes you feel like you need to call in a lot of reinforcement.  As with most of the postpartum experience, this is all totally normal.  In this week’s episode, Ruby and Erin break down what it means to feel over...

Send us Fan Mail If we know that “comparison is the thief of joy,” why the f&^% can’t we stop doing it?! You're struggling to accept that you aren't the mom you thought you'd be, you're consumed with your feelings about that, but you can't stop watching strangers on the internet do motherhood perfectly.** Dare we call it…a sick obsession?  In this week’s episode, Erin...

Send us Fan Mail How many baby books have you read (or bought but left in your trunk)? How many instagram posts did you scroll through? How many conversations did you have with people in your village-before-they-were-your-village all about the changes that will happen in your life after having a baby? A dozen? A thousand? After having these conversations or reading these books or seeing these post...

Send us Fan Mail The holidays are (almost?) here! And, let’s be honest, those come with a *little* bit of stress sometimes, especially when you’re navigating postpartum and establishing boundaries with family members.  In this week’s episode of I Love My Baby, And…Erin and Ruby take on holiday stressors - from struggling with “bounce back” expectations to figuring out how to create new, meaningful...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome back to the Midnight Musings Minisodes! The Midnight Musings Minisodes are a little bite-sized peak into what goes on when Erin and Ruby stop recording and start going off the rails. Sometimes you’re up in the middle of the night hanging out with your tiny human when you’d rather be getting your beauty rest. So why not get some laughs and hang out with us, too?! In this we...