I Don’t Want To Talk About This

This conversation comes with a trigger warning - we discuss one woman's experience in and around domestic violence. Please, if you feel you could be triggered, skip on. Every 30s, the police receive a call regarding Domestic violence in England and Wales. 25% of women will experience DV in their lifetime. DV can lead to depression, homelessness, and suicide. 41% of girls ages between 14-17 will ex...

I sat on this conversation for just over a year. I left it feeling a little uncomfortable and I wasn't sure why. Perhaps it was the vulnerability so clearly on display? Eventually I returned to this conversation and listened again and I wasn't uncomfortable this time, I was left feeling like people could be potentially screaming at their device telling her to value herself more, perhaps RU...

Seriously, I'll scream if I read one more dating profile that says 'looking for open communication'. Slight exaggeration but WHAT DOES THAT EVEN LOOK LIKE TO YOU? Can you even do the bit where you have to receive that communication and respond? OR are you stuck at the verbalising your own needs part? A different style of just me rambling my thoughts with a sprinkling of stories in ther...

If you’re not here for a quick unexpected ADHD and consistency rant, skip to minute 1:50. Otherwise, hi! I sat down with Stacey to talk about her journey through IVF and becoming a single mother. What actually happened is that we found her non-negotiable, her red line, her in or out subject (which I feel most of us like to think we have but don’t in fact act on). It’s a story of two parts with mot...

I was told I needed to talk to Laura because she's moving around the globe and still dating as she goes. Curiosity peaked! What's it like to date in other countries? How do you navigate different cultures? If you're always moving, how does dating even fit into that? The guys to date? It may surprise you 😏 But also, we explore attachment styles, from anxious avoidant to secure. Disclai...

I have a 'said too much' hangover and it lasted since part 1 dropped! However, I don't want to be a hypocrite where I'm asking people to open up to me and tell me their stories without ever giving something of me. Fran and I get into my past relationships then somehow it swings around to sex. And I wasn't very honest WITH ANY OF THEM! Why's it so hard to talk about! Anyway....

Who the fuck am I? I just thought if you listened to the conversations I'd given enough away to know who I am and where I come from. Apparently not! I sat down with my dear pal, Fran, so she could fire the questions at me this time. We talked for so long, I've made it a two parter...you're welcome. Spotlight is on me and I don't make it easy but I've genuinely tried open up in...

People have been asking me what I've learned from having these conversations so far. I learned a lot and been challenged a lot - the way I see things, my biases, my experiences or lack there of colouring my point of view. I have learned a lot, from mental health and how to approach someone who is struggling to communication. But don't get me wrong, communication might be key but it's n...

Do we really go into relationships thinking about how we'd feel and what we'd do if the other person got sick? Lou has been with her wife for over a decade and had to navigate changing health issues from Fibromyalgia to Functional Neurological Disorder while also going through the collective trauma of Covid-19. It's a lot. It got me thinking...how do you put your trust in the other per...

One of the biggest questions is - do you love yourself? Can you answer that honestly? Do you like the answer? Naomi chats to me about how she quit all dating sites back in 2016 and decided to be single for a while to work on herself. Don't get me wrong, this is no Eat, Pray, Love moment. Looking inwards can be hard and messy but Naomi found a whole lot more! She's now on a mission to help...

Egg was my very first conversation, a gay women going through divorce and starting to date again. A great conversation but the bomb she dropped at the end left me with so much more to ask! I asked her back for a part 2 and thankfully, she said yes. We get into her thoughts and feelings post-recording - there's some growth - as well as straying into if people are financially compatible. Do you...

Introducing a straight white guy from America that I somehow found myself relating to in a big way! Dustin has so many stories from childhood snake catcher to identifying as Asexual and Aromantic. However, how did he go from asexual to a relationship with a woman 4,000 miles away? How do you even begin to change how you see yourself after years of identifying in a certain way? Dustin and I also ta...

Introducing Ricky, a London geezer that actually has his emotional shit together. I knew Ricky 18 years ago and boy have we both evolved and grown in that time. Our conversation is all about mental health and the path that led Ricky to make the decisions he did and where he is now. What stood out for me is an incredibly powerful question...is there anything I can do? He talks through how his fianc...

How amazing is it that we can have long conversions with people on the other side of the world! Rin joins me in a conversation where we explore the value of a relationship and if it's worth upended your own space for it. Maybe something about Filipino crab (it will make sense, I promise). We also explore her moving from cis-het relationships into the heart of Sydney's queer community. I&#3...

We interrupt because there isn’t one. I have to be honest in that my dyslexia and ADHD have spiralled into Super Villain mode. It’s a tough place to be when it’s all on you. But, I’ll drop the next conversation next week, this I promise you. I’ve said it out loud so now I have to. It’s the first time I cry…I really didn’t see it coming! Until next week - questions, comments, feedback are always we...

I finally have my first male sitting down with me to talk about their version of love and relationships! Have I got biases going into this? Absolutely I do. Men are unfeeling, inconsiderate of others, infantile, well, the list could go on. Ash and I talk about growing up not able to express yourself, boundaries (are bullshit), and finding out 'oh shit, THAT'S love!'. Ultimately, what I...

Was this conversation a little chaotic? Yes, yes it was. Talking about love is uncomfortable enough but add sex on top? Yeah, I'm in a perpetual state of redness! I chat to Pip, who's open as hell and running on just one speed...TURBO! I loved it and it challenged me in new and unexpected way about relationship boundaries. Does it challenge you? Got questions, comments, or feedback? I'...

I've been excited for this conversation to drop! Taking a different path, I sit down with Rachel Murphy to discuss what it's like finding love after sobriety. Married and battling addiction, once she found sobriety, everything changed. What's it like showing up completely sober in a relationship? Does it change everything? Sex? Communication? Wants? Needs? The discovery of dating apps!...

Switching it up this week and turning the tables on myself. I sat down with my pal, Egg, and we got talking about my first EVER experience of speed dating! It's been a while and by while, I mean YEARS so why not jump in the deep end and date multiple people in a night? Got questions, comments, or feedback? I'm all ears, just be kind. https://lnk.bio/JojoWhat Music by Nicolas Bennahmias: Pi...

I'll be honest, I didn't know where my conversation with Nat would go. She opened up about her mum's cancer and how that affected her relationship with her boyfriend. How huge it was to allow someone in without fear of repercussions to her vulnerability. What struck me though, was not being able to articulate how love feels. Or did she describe it throughout our conversation without gi...

I can't contemplate a relationship that lasts much past a few months so how in the hell do you get to 14 years! Not only that, it's also the only relationship you've ever been in and subsequently decide to blow up. I talk to Mollie about the catalyst that leads her to being single, what happened after, and who was there after the dust settled. Not only do we talk about ending a marriag...

Will this episode piss you off? Asking yourself if you're happy while in a relationship is a pretty simple question but maybe it stirs something you don't want to address. Having a conversation with my pal, Fran, someone I have known for several years and she's been through some relationship shit since the pandemic kicked off. We talk about marriage, dating apps, and how her last big r...

I've known Egg since 2004 and we've gone on different journeys with similar outcomes. Recently going through a divorce, she's entered the world of dating apps which weren't around before she got married. She hasn't got time for multiple messages and the same boring questions! With this in mind, what's her take on love and relationships? Is she ready to give herself over 100% to someone new, has sh...

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