I Am The Wife: From D-day to OK

Episode 28: P and I reflect on our episode with Richi last week and how it uncovered feelings I still need to process.

Episode 27: Today is a feature length episode! After saying it multiple times, P and I finally chat with the man who I credit with a huge amount of my healing. He was there in my hour of need and with his skills and knowledge helped me navigate the year after d-day. If you like what you hear, you can follow his work on Facebook http://www.fb.com/freedomrichi

Episode 26: This week P’s had some realisations of her own about her ex husband and I try to explain some realisations I had about the ups and downs of my emotions this week. It’s often hard to explain properly and I feel like I’m talking too fast!

Episode 25: After our episode last week where we discussed feelings towards the AP, we follow on this week by chatting about the thin line between anger and bitterness.

Episode 24: P fills me in on a new man that appeared in her life and, after some common comments and messages we re-visit the topic of the various feelings felt towards the affair partner.

Episode 23: I have been plagued with nightmares this week, so P and I talk about the permanent unwanted ailments of infidelity, how that makes us feel and how we deal with it.

Episode 22: P and I discuss how I faced my shame head on this week on Instagram and we answer a listener’s question about where we get our strength from.

Episode 21: Answering a listener’s email, P and I discuss the trauma of finding out things that the BS says about you to the AP. I also quiz P on when we can hear about her next date!

Episode 20: Since I spoke about why I stayed, I’ve realised I feel a lot of shame for my choice to stay. So, P and I talk about the different levels of shame felt because of infidelity, especially the way betrayed wives end up carrying the shame for other people’s actions.

Episode 19: P and I discuss our experiences with various different types of therapy from couples counselling, individual counselling and EMDR.

Episode 18: This week is quite a mish-mash of things as we get back on track. Our podcast recording was derailed last week due to upsetting issues in my life, which we discuss. P talks about her recent drop in mood which leads us onto how we deal with other people’s reactions.

Episode 17: Showing both sides of the story, it’s my turn to share more about why I stayed in my marriage and the struggles I had from making that decision.

Episode 16: We get asked a lot how we knew whether to leave or stay and when was the defining moment we decided, so today P talks about why she left her marriage.

Episode 15: P and I have missed talking every week and start by catching up on what’s been going on. This leads us on to the topic of trust and how what has happened to us has affected us. How do you ever trust again? Here's the link to the article we mention. It's one of the best on infidelity I've read. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/flirting-with-disaster-ho_b_3853755

Episode 14: After the comment on my blog last week accusing me of initiating contact with someone else's partner, which I suspect was connected to the OW, P and I discuss how I feel about it. I also explain the vicious and calculated antics my husband's other woman resorted to when the affair ended and how that effected me. We also talk about how you're perceived, as a wife, when you respond to th...

Episode 13......P has started a new contract this week and come across people who know about her situation and also know her ex-husband. This lead us to talk about how people react in these situations. We discuss the value of having people who fight your corner and invite a very special guest on, to talk about how she fought mine, and yes, sending poo in the post comes up again!

Episode 12: *Trigger Warning* As always, please be careful when listening. Today P and I discuss what we feel about forgiveness, what it means to us and whether we have forgiven our husbands’ actions.

Episode 11: A lot has been going on in our lives and P and I haven't spoken for two weeks due to her move, so we needed a good catch up. P reflects on her most recent D-day anniversary, while lending a listening ear to my very emotional week, revisiting how infidelity affected my childhood and then my marriage. *TRIGGER WARNING* Please be careful while listening.

Episode 10: *Trigger Warning*. Please be careful when listening. P is packing to move next week and finds some old diaries and I have an interaction with my dad that brings up issues around the ongoing repercussions of infidelity. We talk about our experiences of, and opinions on, limerence and affair fog and how they affect the cheating spouse.

Episode 9: This episode comes with a *TRIGGER WARNING* as we discuss the overwhelming feelings and urges we had towards the other woman and what we did about them. This could be difficult to hear if you are in the grips of emotional flooding or post-infidelity trauma. P has had to deal with lawyers and court processes this week, while I am re-building my life brick by brick with a new extension in...

Episode 8: I don't think you'll find too many triggers here, but as always, please be careful. In this episode, following how we're both feeling in our journeys right now, P and I discuss the stepping stones we have taken in order to re-discover ourselves and piece our lives back together, from the very small, to the much bigger.

Episode 7: *TRIGGER WARNING* Please be careful listening if you are struggling with post-infidelity trauma. I had an emotional breakthrough this week, while P has had a pretty stressful time with one thing and another. She also had some urges around contacting the other woman, so in response to that and some listener's questions, we finally address the topic of "the other woman". Did we conta...

Episode 6: *TRIGGER WARNING* Please be careful if you are struggling with post-infidelity trauma. I share a big milestone about something that has finally stopped happening and P had to face a realisation with her ex-husband this week. We had something else planned, but events happened before recording that changed our direction. We ended up discussing triggers, trauma (both emotional and physical...

Episode 5: *TRIGGER WARNING*: Please be aware, we discuss emotional flooding in detail, which could be difficult for anyone currently struggling with it or in the grips of post-infidelity trauma. In today's episode P surprises me with some news and in a bid to make wives realise they are not going crazy, we discuss what's it's like emotionally, in the immediate aftermath of discovery. If you're in...

Episode 4: This one is not so triggering, but please, as always, be careful when listening. Both P & I have had some setbacks in our recovery this week, with various repercussions of our husband's affairs cropping up. Plus, in this episode we discuss the immediate days after d-day and who we told, the friends who were there for us and how it felt doing "normal" when our whole life was anything but...