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How will you remember 2024? Here at How To! Headquarters, this will be the year when a bunch of very smart and insightful guests taught us how to flirt with confidence , be a mindful drinker , make bank at a yard sale , and cope with forever parenting . On this episode, co-hosts Carvell Wallace and Courtney Martin break down their favorite advice of the year and share some heart-warming updates fr...

Sandy is a former college athlete who knows how to exercise—at least, she used to. These days, she's feeling lost without a coach, a workout plan, or much free time. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Danielle Friedman , author of Let's Get Physical and a contributor to the New York Times Well section . Danielle explains how to embrace movement that you love, make it fit into yo...

André has known for years that they have to execute the estate when their parents pass. They feel wholly unprepared for the task, especially since their parents are reluctant to share any important information. On this episode of How To!: Carvell Wallace brings on M.P. Dunleavey , journalist, author of the Squished Substack, and contributor to Next Avenue where she covers aging, caregiving, and mo...

'Tis the season of gathering with friends and family. It's also a time where some of us yearn for a closer community, like this week's listener. Morgan is looking for a way to hang out with friends in a consistent, meaningful manner. On this episode of How To!, Priya Parker , author of The Art of Gathering , explains how to transform a lackluster hang-out where people just sit around drinking beer...

It's time for another Quick Fix! In our latest monthly exclusive for Slate Plus members , Carvell Wallace talks with How To! producer Sara McCrea about shopping for one of life's most important and overwhelming purchases: a mattress. Should Sara shop online or spend some quality time at one of the many (many!) brick-and-mortar mattress stores in town? (And does a green-tea mattress contain caffein...

Ezra is adrift in his early 20s. He craves a life of meaning, community, and love. But he's struggling to find those things in a world that seems increasingly uncertain and discouraging for young people. On this existential episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings in Andrew McPeak , author , podcast host , and vice president of Growing Leaders . He tackles Ezra's big questions and explains how G...

Contraception is a huge burden for women and people with uteruses to bear. What would it look like—on a personal, cultural, and medical level—if more men took on that responsibility? Today on How To!, a conversation about gender equity for reproductive care, from changes in sexual education to more accessible vasectomies to the development of new contraception methods. Carvell Wallace welcomes two...

Heather recently joined the board of her local library, a beloved institution from her childhood. While continuing to balance her day job, she is excited to be an active and engaged member of this community-led organization. But she's also grappling with time management and effective communication with her fellow board members. How can she express her ideas and opinions without overstepping bounda...

Katie is terrified of dying. As the youngest in a big family, she can't stop thinking about the fact that all her loved ones may die before she does. Katie is a comedy writer who knows how to get laughs, but her obsession with death is real, and getting in the way of living. In this episode of How To!, we bring on Rachel Menzies, a psychologist and researcher at the University of Sydney and author...

As the parent of five kids, Sadie is no stranger to feeling overwhelmed. Most of her kids have left the nest, but one adult daughter has severe autism and can't live or work on her own. Facing the end of school-based support services, Sadie has to figure out what comes next for her daughter—and for herself. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Sarah Wayland, the founder of Guiding...

Erica judges other people by default. Whether they are acquaintances, co-workers, or new arrivals in a club, her first impression is often negative. "I would like to learn how to quash that part of myself," she says, because those judgments might be ruling out potential friendships. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Dr. Terri Apter , psychologist and author of Passing Judgment:...

Quick Fix is How To!'s new monthly exclusive for Slate Plus members where we dive deeper into our latest episode. (Not a member? Here's how to join !) Today: Carvell Wallace continues his conversation with Growing Joy author and podcaster Maria Failla . They do a not-so-rapid-fire round of "plant superlatives" to help you select the plant that's right for you. Take the plant personality quiz that...

At a new job, Jenna was put in charge of some beautiful plants that are imbued with deep significance to their co-workers. But despite Jenna's best efforts, the plants aren't doing so hot. Can the browning leaves, flopping stems, and dry soil be nursed back to health before it's too late? On this episode, Carvell Wallace brings on Maria Failla , host of the Growing Joy podcast and author of Growin...

The How To! hosts love helping listeners find the answers they need. But sometimes a host needs help, too. On this episode, Courtney Martin and her brother, Chris, open up about how their father's dementia has led them to upend their own lives in order to become his caregivers. To help Courtney and Chris talk through what comes next, Carvell Wallace welcomes Dr. Allison Applebaum , whose book Stan...

Ari always dreamed of starting his own podcast. When he started interviewing fellow academics for the Taylor Swift class he's teaching, Ari suddenly had the perfect opportunity to turn those conversations into something called ¿What Are Taylor Swift Studies Anyways? Now he just needs to find an audience. On this meta episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Lauren Passell , founder of Tink Me...

Ben has two sons in the fourth grade. Like a lot of kids, they love YouTube videos, gaming, movies, and other online entertainment. Before his sons begin using social media, Ben wants to ensure they develop a good relationship with tech—and he's ready to recruit other families at their school to agree upon some rules of engagement. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings in Richard Cula...

Quick Fix is How To!'s new monthly exclusive for Slate Plus members where we dive deeper into our latest episode. (Not a member? Here's how to join !) Today: Courtney Martin continues her conversation with journalist (and former How To! host) Amanda Ripley about her newly revised book, The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes—and Why . They discuss a key component to emergency response:...

After a tree destroyed Tucker's roof during a tornado, he felt lucky to be alive—and underprepared for the next disaster his family might face. On this episode, Courtney Martin welcomes back author and former How To! host Amanda Ripley to discuss emergency preparedness and how regular citizens can react smarter during a devastating event. Amanda's newly updated book is The Unthinkable: Who Survive...

With takeout prices on the rise, Josh wants to sharpen his home-cooking chops so he can whip up delicious dinners for himself and his wife. But this empty nester doesn't want to spend all day in the kitchen. On this episode of How To!, co-host Courtney Martin consults award-winning chef, food writer, and New York Times Cooking pro Sohla El-Waylly for advice on meal prep, next-level seasoning, and...

Several months ago, Sarah told her best friend John she's in love with him—but he doesn't love her back. Now Sarah can't get John out of her head, especially because they still talk all the time. How can Sarah move on from John? On this episode of How To!, we bring on Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist and the author of Anatomy of Love , to help Sarah train her heart—and her brain—to fall o...

Kate's entire family loves to go on intense, day-long hikes. Kate does not. It's just one of many differences that makes her feel like a black sheep. But Kate desperately wants to be close to her family—without disregarding her own desires or compromising on parts of her life. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Dr. Lucy Blake , author of No Family Is Perfect: A Guide to Embracin...

Cooper feels like they're constantly falling behind on their to-do list. Life is busy and household chores are the last thing they want to do. Cooper tracks everything in a detailed spreadsheet—but that spreadsheet isn't going to take care of the dirty dishes in the sink. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Dale Aucoin of Clean & Queer , a professional organizing business based i...

When Elle started a new career as a therapist, she never imagined she would be the one in need of help. After just a few months, her position at a group practice became untenable amid a lack of support from colleagues. Now she's looking for a new job and wants to avoid a similar scenario. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace introduces Elle to leadership coach Rudhir Krishtel , who helps us...

How do you learn to tell the perfect joke? In this special edition of How To! , founding host Charles Duhigg joins Courtney and Carvell to mark five years of life-changing advice with a look back at our very first episode. It features a pastor from Oklahoma who wants to spice up his sermons. We introduce him to Gary Gulman , a New York standup comedian who makes jokes about his clinical depression...

Todd is looking for love, but he's unsure about disclosing something in dating profiles: his multiple sclerosis. With symptoms that are increasingly visible, Todd feels compelled to be upfront about his disability with potential dates—but he doesn't know when or how to discuss it. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Jessica Slice and Caroline Cupp , authors of Dateable: Swiping R...