How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships

What to do when your Toaster’s feeding you waffles? In this episode, Dr. Katie Nall, two-time TedX speaker, mathematician, and Accredited Master Trainer & Practitioner of the Emotional Freedom Technique, otherwise known as EFT, joins Seth and Pete to discuss a method that can help you while you’re going through your divorce learn to calm down and find your center again. The technique, also kno...

Today we’re talking about the value of time. Specifically, what is the value of taking time to understand yourself before taking action on your relationship? To help us work through a 90-day plan to clear the decks and take stock we welcome our friend Deborah Driggs back to the show. Her experience with divorce, trauma and recovery has fueled her across the career landscape and she understands wit...

If your ability to maintain your intimate relationship with your partner is one of the bumps on your road to divorce, then you need to keep listening because today we’re taking on one of the big ones: your sex life. Dr. Janet Williams is a specialist in obstetrics and gynecology and member of the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health. And, as the author behind Why Don't I Li...

If we know anything about divorce, it’s that if you’re not completely on the same page, you’re likely going to carry some blame baggage with you into your new, post-divorce life. The size of that baggage might just determine the pace at which you’re able to find peace for yourself along the way. That’s why we’re kicking off season seven of the podcast talking about forgiveness. You’ll be tempted t...

Co-Parenting in the Movies We’re ending the season with yet another podcast crossover episode. Once again, our producer Andy Nelson, who co-hosts The Next Reel Film Podcast with Pete, joins us for a movie list extravaganza. In this episode, everyone’s bringing three movies that feature co-parenting. Here’s a breakdown of what each person talks about: Andy:  Mr. Popper’s Penguins Definitely, Maybe...

‘Tis the Season... for Co-Parenting Conflict! No parent wants to deal with emergency motion handling orders or duty judges on the holidays, but it happens. Stress can be high and the holidays – any holiday – can become a ripe place to pick a fight. So how do you avoid conflict to make the holidays still a special time for the kids? The key is to do everything you can to avoid problems. Often, that...

Brian Ronalds is an actor turned writer/producer/director and is half of “The Ronalds Brothers." You can see Brian in the horror-comedy, Netherbeast Incorporated , directed by his brother, Dean, and in many other credits which do NOT include why he’s with us in the Toaster today. Brian joins us as author of a series of books designed to guide you through your marriage assuming that you don’t actua...

You're doing all the right things, all the things your team has told you to do: you’re facing the prospect of divorce head-on. But when the process gets hard, it’s even harder to keep your head held high. How do you keep your focus on a successful outcome when everything else in the divorce process feels so ugly? To help us through it all we welcome Elizabeth Ann Atkins. Elizabeth is America’s Boo...

Following up on last week’s conversation about dividing personal property, we realized that pets are considered property too. But you can’t actually split them, so what do you do? Turns out, that’s what the Pet Custody Expert is for. We invite Karis Nafte to the Toaster, a dog trainer and animal specialist who is also an internationally accredited family mediator who helps people figure out what F...

Meet Deborah Driggs Today we’re talking with Deborah Driggs. Her experience with divorce, trauma and recovery has fueled her across the career landscape — from model to actor to sales to motivational speaker. She joins Seth and Pete in the Toaster to share the story of divorces in her own life – first her parents’ and later her own – and to explore how she learned the power of taking risks, stayin...

When You’re With a Gaslighter Do you have reason to doubt what you hear from your spouse? Have they ever given you any reason to question your perception of your relationship? That’s called gaslighting, and it’s a form of manipulation and control that can have you questioning your own memories. Deborah Vinall is a Doctor of Psychology, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and a certified EMDR...

Roy Biancalana and His Relationship Bootcamp As if the divorce wasn’t hard enough, now it’s time to get back out into the dating world. But how do you know if you’re in good relationship shape? Luckily, Roy Biancalana from The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast dropped by to talk about learning how to figure out where you are mentally and getting back on track so you’re ready to date again. Roy has s...

Meet Your Paralegal In today’s episode, Seth invited Stacy Recinella, one of the paralegals from his firm, to join the show. The conversation allows Seth and Pete to discuss the role of the paralegal with the intention of giving you insight into what the paralegal will do for you, how they’re connected to your case, what sorts of things they take care of, and why your paralegal should be your new...

Who gets the church? “You can be forgiven of murder. You can be forgiven of infidelity. But divorce? It’s taboo. It’s like they avoid talking about it.” It’s a great conversation today! Seth and Pete chat with Josh & Kristy Groce – the team behind The Perfectly Blended Podcast – about the challenges that arise for you before, during, and after your divorce in your relationship with your church...

Navigating Custody BattlesWhen you hear the term ‘Custody Battle,’ you have a certain image in your mind. Courtroom fights, crying kids, the worst stereotypes we learn from movies and television. But what happens when you find yourself in a fight for the custody of your kids for real? This week on the show, we welcome Reneé Rodriguez, custody coach and founder of Best Foot Forward, a company with...

Karen McMahon and The 12 Step Divorce Recovery ProgramWhen you’re thinking about divorce or going through it, you can lose yourself in the negative energies swirling around you. Do you let the conflict eat away at you? Does fiction start becoming fact? Are you holding on too tightly to the things that annoy you? Karen McMahon brings her 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program to the Toaster today to talk...

Divorce for Same Sex Couples Is the Same as Any Other Divorce, Right? Marriage equality becoming the law of the land in 2015 ushered in a new era of rights finally uniting couples of the same sex behind the same set of protections as opposite sex couples. But with those rights to unite, came the equivalent rights to divorce. As our guest this week illuminates, the law is what it is, but there is a...

Lisa Zeiderman and Disagreements Between the ExesSpouses often have disagreements, but it’s more complicated when they get divorced. How do co-parents sort out plans when they disagree on things like getting your child vaccinated? Is there a standard position from the courts? Or do judges’ personal opinions come into play? And in the end, how much do you want to spend to make a decision like this?...

Why are you angry and how do you de-escalate? Divorce isn’t easy and emotions almost always run high. In today’s episode, Seth and Pete talk with Doug Noll, an expert peacemaker who co-founded Prison of Peace, an organization dedicated to training maximum security prison inmates how to be peacemakers and mediators in their prison communities. He had been a trial lawyer, so knows a thing or two abo...

It’s hard enough to recognize that you need to change your behaviors and then to do so. How are you supposed to do it when it relates to your divorce? Kurt is a sought-after behavioral scientist and recognized leader in human motivation and behavior change. For over 20 years, Kurt has worked with global companies to apply behavioral science principles to drive change in their organizations. Today,...

What do you do when your divorce involves a QDRO? Do you even know what that means or who to reach out to? Luckily, our guest on today’s episode has the inside scoop. Join Seth and Pete as they talk with Matt Lundy about QDROs and how to navigate the world of sorting out money in your various retirement accounts. Matt’s handled over 14,000 QDRO cases – you read that right – so he knows what he’s t...

Meet Sara HadgraftPete’s out with Covid this week so Seth’s flying solo, but it was an important conversation we wanted to get out to you. Seth talks with Sara Hadgraft from Sparrow Counseling. She’s a licensed marriage and family therapist and a licensed professional counselor who guides families through the pain and disappointment of divorce. It’s a difficult process, but it’s important to learn...

Meet Sabrina OssoSabrina Osso from Osso Safe is here to talk to Seth and Pete about violence in relationships, particularly when its part of the divorce process. What do you need to do to stay safe if you’re the one suffering the abuse? How should you talk to your lawyer about it? It’s a difficult thing to sort through but when you're in this situation, how do you figure out how to escape? But wer...

Meet Judge Wesley TibbalsMay it please the court! We’ve got a special guest today who knows a thing or two about the workings of divorce court, and that’s because he’s a judge! That’s right, we figured it was about time that we had an actual judge on to make sure we’re not just making stuff up. Judge Wesley Tibbals talks with Pete and Seth today about life behind the bench in divorce court. There’...

Meet Neale Godfrey When a relationship ends and you haven’t been the one taking care of the finances, figuring out how to move forward can be paralyzing. Luckily, it’s a learned skill and on today’s episode, Pete and Seth are joined by New York Times #1 Best-Selling author Neale Godfrey to discuss finances, kids, gray divorce and more. It’s important to understand your own finances and to learn ho...