How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships

We’re challenging stereotypes and taking on a question you might just be asking if you’re on the hunt for representation: Do you need an asshole lawyer? Is that different than an aggressive attorney? Or assertive? Pete’s joined by Geneviève Torres, a family law attorney at NLG Family Law, to help break this down for you. The real key is that you get an effective attorney. Sometimes, the challenge...

Seth is still away so we’re going to be inviting various people from NLG Family Law to sit in with Pete and take on some other listener questions about divorce. In today’s episode, attorney Paul Phipps joins Pete to answer a few questions. The questions they take on today: I just want the quickest divorce possible and for my ex to just keep everything, why is this not a good idea? Don’t lawyers ju...

Seth is still away so we’re going to be inviting various people from NLG Family Law to sit in with Pete and take on some other questions about divorce. In today’s episode, attorney Sterling Lovelady joins Pete to talk about dealing with a problematic ex. The first subject they tackle is the challenging decision about whether to leave your alcoholic spouse or not when they’re in a time of need. Sho...

Meet Judge Wesley TibbalsMay it please the court! In this week’s classic rebroadcast, we’ve got a special guest today who knows a thing or two about the workings of divorce court, and that’s because he’s a judge! That’s right, we figured it was about time that we had an actual judge on to make sure we’re not just making stuff up. Judge Wesley Tibbals talks with Pete and Seth today about life behin...

Rhonda Noordyk is the host of the Divorce Conversations for Women Podcast and CEO of the Women’s Financial Wellness Center. In her work, she helps women ask tough questions so that they get the answers that they need to navigate the divorce process.  This week on the Toaster, Rhonda shares her insights on financial awareness in the marriage and why it is so important to a healthy communication pra...

Welcome to Summer! It's that time of year we love to celebrate by taking just a few weeks off to plan, rebuild, and get refreshed for a new season in the fall. So we have a few episodes from the archives to share with you this year that will be dropping in your feed over the coming weeks. First up, what was originally an episode about splitting the fall holidays comes today just in time for summer...

It’s time to end our seventh season and what better way than to answer some of your questions! We’ve had a wide variety come in and tackle a number of them in today’s episode. Here are some of the questions we look at. I never legally adopted my spouse’s kids from a previous marriage, but I love them like my own. Will I lose the right to see them? What happens if divorce is against my/my spouse’s...

But What Do the Kids Think? According to our guest today, divorce is a monster under kids beds. In her ongoing film project, Ellen Bruno is putting kids’ voices first, hearing how a group of young people view divorce over the long arch of their young lives. The 2013 film Split: The Early Years introduces us to 12 kids adapting to divorce in their families. This year, we catch up with those same ki...

You’re done with your divorce. That means you’re done with lawyers, right? Not necessarily! In today’s episode, Seth and Pete talk about a few cases in which you may need to talk to a lawyer again – if you want to appeal your divorce, and for post-divorce estate planning.  It’s a rare thing for judges to make mistakes when it comes to divorce cases, but it does happen. That’s when you’d want to ap...

The role of a parent coordinator is to assist co-parents in resolving disputes and making decisions related to their children, particularly in the context of a divorce or separation. Precisely what your parent coordinator does for you can vary depending on your jurisdiction and the terms of the court order or agreement calling for their participation in your parenting agreement. A few consideratio...

The vocational evaluation is a process used sparingly in divorce, but if you’ve been through one, you know how challenging it can be. It’s a process used in divorce cases to assess the earning potential of a spouse who is seeking spousal support (also known as alimony or maintenance) or to determine their ability to pay support. During a vocational evaluation, an expert will be hired to assess the...

Winning Your Divorce with the exExperts T.H. Irwin and Jessica KlingbaumTwo friends who ended up getting divorced at the same time, Jessica and T.H. were frustrated as they tried finding a single source for help with divorce. That pushed them to start up their new company exExperts. There, along with their own podcast Divorce Etc..., they give people going through divorce and people figuring out h...

Dealing With Divorce When You’re a Highly Sensitive PersonNearly 30% of us are highly sensitive people – or HSPs – and if you count yourself in that group, it makes divorce a materially different experience. Today on the show, we welcome Chris Lyon, a relationship author and facilitator. She is a coach, board certified hypnotist, certified in Applied Neuroscience and Brain Health and she’s been he...

Why Is It So Hard to Not Be an A-Hole Sometimes? Brian Ronalds is back, author behind the How Not to Be an A-Hole series! On today’s episode, Brian joins Seth and Pete to take a closer look at one of the key factors that play into the divorce scenario: one of the partners is an a-hole.  But sometimes, that a-hole is you. Why is it so hard to get past this? Brian is back to share what it takes to l...

Women are superior to men. Today on the show we're talking about gender. We hear a lot of he-said/she-said in the divorce process. But what's really going on between the men and women in relationships that are breaking apart?  What kinds of relationship troubles could we avoid if we took a little time to embrace our differences as men and women and learn more about one another? Dr. Ricky Arenson i...

Parenal Alienation: What’s Really in the Best Interest of the Kids? A listener wrote in, asking us to discuss in greater detail the concept of parental alienation. Many mainstream scientific groups say it’s not a legitimate diagnosis. What happens, though, when a lawyer brings it into a court case and the judge rules in favor of it? That’s what’s happening right now in Utah with the case of Brynle...

Forensic Accounting and Your DivorceToday we’re going hunting for your money. Tracy Coenen is the forensic accountant behind The Divorce Money Guide, a tool that helps you understand your money and uncover where money might be hiding your divorce. She’s here today to talk about what you can do to untangle the mess of marriage financials and figure out if you’re the victim of financial abuse. What...

When Co-Parenting Just Won’t Work “Divorce is not inherently bad for the child. Conflict is.”In today’s episode, Seth and Pete talk about the challenges of parenting when divorced parents just can’t make things work. It’s called Parallel Parenting. Is it okay for the kids? How does it work? And how do parents handle the challenges that come with it? What happens if your ex is alienating your child...

Common Misconceptions in Divorce? Yeah, There Are Just a Few...Last week, we read a note from a listener asking to clear up some common misconceptions in the world of divorce. Today, we’ve invited Sterling Lovelady, one of the attorneys from the offices of NLG, to join Seth and Pete in a conversation clearing up some of these many misconceptions. Some of the misconceptions they address in today’s...

The African American Perspective on DivorceMike Easterling, co-host of the Just Being Brothers podcast, joins Seth and Pete to talk about the black perspective on divorce, as well as gray divorce. How does being black change the divorce equation? What does church have to do with it? Education? And how about the ‘it’s cheaper to stay married’ decision? It’s a wide-ranging conversation that comes wi...

WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE AN IMPOSTORToday, we’re talking about impostor syndrome and your divorce. What does it mean to see yourself as an impostor? You’ll start to doubt your own abilities and decisions. You’ll struggle when it’s time to assert your own rights and needs. You’ll find you lack confidence in negotiating and making decisions. This week, attorney and fellow podcaster Lauren Abrams joins us...

When Your Hormone Levels May Be Impacting Your MarriageToday we’re talking about menopause. Sure, it’s a natural biological process and eventually, every woman goes through it. But the experience is unique for each, and how hormone levels impact your marriage might just accelerate you on the road toward divorce. Alison Bladh is a registered nutritional therapist and esthetician living in the wilds...

Do Dogs Need Visitation After a Divorce? Listener favorite Karis Nafte is back! In this episode, she’s talking to Seth and Pete about the challenges of sorting out visitation when it comes to the family pet. Some dogs can handle it, others cant. There’s also the factor of how much excitement the ex brings every time they visit. Are they playing ‘Disney Dad’ but with the dog? That can lead to stres...

Slaying the DRAGONDiane Dierks and Rick Voyles from the Co-Parenting Dilemmas podcast join Seth and Pete today to teach us how parents can reframe conflict. Diane is a licensed marriage and family therapist, as well as the executive director of the Center for Navigating Family Change, a non-profit that provides court-ordered parenting education and co-parenting services to the state of Georgia. Ri...