How to Momma Without Drama

As I was decorating for Christmas the song, Mary Did You Know came on.  I sat for a moment and pondered on the lyrics. Think about it, Mary knew that she was carrying the son of God but she did not know to what magnitude Jesus was going to change the world.  She said yes out of obedience to God and from her obedience came the greatest gift of all.  As moms, we too need to be obedien...

Today's episode is a thought provoker. I recently read an article titled the collapse of parenting. The crux of the article is that many today are  em powering children from a very young age by allowing them to make choices and being emotionally available at all times. The problem is the kids are actually overpowering their parents in the long run. Dr. Sax goes on to say that a functional fam...

Today’s podcast is from real-life experience as well as from the book the power of showing up by Daniel Segal and Tina Bryson. We all know that parenting isn’t easy but our greatest impact begins with showing up in our children’s lives with a quality of presence. We  touch on basic building blocks such as feeling safe, seen and soothed which will in turn create secure attachments. We need to...

Personal power and complacency cannot coexist. We are so focused and worried about what we can leave our kids financially for an inheritance but it’s not about what we can leave them it’s what we leave IN them that really counts. Philosophies and parenting styles come and go but true biblical values and virtues will always remain. We must be careful we are not choosing to excuse poor behavior. We...

We all have dreams and expectations for our children which is wonderful however we cannot superimpose our own dreams. Our children were created with a plan and a purpose and we need to step aside and allow them to step into their destiny. Let’s commit to helping  them dream big and allow  them to dream their own dreams and not live ours. You can find Nellie at AvodahFamilyCoaching.com A...

Are we raising givers or takers? Overindulgence cripples our children so we need to take a few minutes to assess whether we are doing this.  Although parents are well-intentioned, Too much of anything isn’t good.  Let’s raise children who are givers not takers and are a blessing to be with.  You can find Nellie at AvodahFamilyCoaching.com A Flying Arrow Production

One of my favorite child psychologists is Dr. James Dobson. The title of today’s podcast was pulled directly from his book the strong-willed  child part two. He states appeasement for a strong-willed child is an invitation to warfare. I expound on this during the podcast today and provide real-life scenarios of the truth of that saying. Our job is to prepare our children for the next stage in...

This episode is derived from mother Theresa providing a challenge to us all to first love our families in our own home, next love our neighbors, and then go into the world. The truth is small acts of kindness speak volumes to our own children who are watching us and to everybody around us. I believe God is challenging each of us to an active and sacrificial love in our parenting and daily lives. C...

Parenting fearlessly when you are afraid was birthed out of our own personal accident that happened with our daughter Hope. The reality is fear sneaks up on us as parents and we need to learn to parent fearlessly. The only way we can do that is by relying on God‘s promises and pulling from examples from the Bible like Jairus and how he pleaded with God to heal his daughter. I hope today stren...

Narrow the road is based off of proverbs 22:6 . The importance of following through helps our children learn the difference between good and poor behavior. We don’t want our children to think the world bends toward every one of their needs. Today we take a closer look at Proverbs  22:6 the promise verses the warning it provides us. As parents, we are called to narrow the road for our children...

Fruits of the same tree have different tastes is the best saying to apply today’s message. Have you ever wondered how you raise your children all the same way yet are so distinctly different? We are not only called to love our children unconditionally but also have to put our own mindsets and thoughts aside while parenting and embracing our children’s differences. I hope this message encourages yo...

There’s an old Chinese proverb that says parents who are afraid to put their foot down usually have children who step on their toes. This is an old saying but holds tremendous truth if you are constantly saying yes to your children’s wishes and desires and they are always wanting more than you are only fostering temporary satisfaction. I share a true story that I recently experienced with a child...

The benefits of hands-on learning are endless whether you are a homeschooling family or not. In this episode, we discuss the pros and cons of different learning styles. We also discuss how homeschooled children can move through educational materials in both traditional and non-traditional ways. We need to be prayerful each season to know what is best for our children. You can find Nellie at Avodah...

What is at the core? We need to ask ourselves this question as our children go through different phases. Our responsibility is to be responsive to their heart in order to build a strong core. Building connections is at the core of their being yet we live in a society that is so fast-paced and we need to re-examine if we’re spending enough time with our children. Let’s continue to build a strong fo...

As parents, we are instinctively protective however we have to be careful not to send a message that the world is an unsafe place for them to branch out into. The bottom line is over protection is a form of rejection as we are essentially saying you can’t do it yourself you need me. Each time we take the responsibility for our children we actually take it away from them. The reason is they have to...

We never know the impact we have as a parent, teachers, etc. when we’re in the midst of working with children. The question today is are people born great or do the challenges they face and overcome make them great?   I share a personal story about Micah's diagnosis of Tourette’s syndrome and the victories he encountered. I truly hope you’re encouraged and in turn challenge your children...

We all need to ask ourselves what are our conscious values. The three main areas we see our values are in money time and thoughts. This teaching goes hand-in-hand with the podcast you never really know. When we reset our priorities and commit to raising a person of value you never really do know how our decisions will impact our future generation. You can find Nellie at AvodahFamilyCoaching.com A...

This episode is a true story of two children, one from a home that experienced emotional neglect and the other from a home that displayed the power of a healthy connection with his mom. We need to commit to being a constant in our children’s lives. Your most significant impact begins right where you are, keep in mind every child needs to feel safe and secure. As parents, we need to provide them wi...

In this episode, Nellie talks about the importance of discipling your child.  What inspired her for this podcast is a well-known psychiatrist Dr.  Gabor Mate who has a YouTube video titled “How to Not Screw Up Your Children“.  Although I don’t agree with his teachings in regard to discipline this message is truly inspirational and I hope after listening you will decide to disciple y...

This inspiring episode stemmed from the story of how  Play-Doh was created. The company Kutol was about to go bankrupt when their biggest seller which was a wallpaper cleaner was about to be discontinued. One of the executive's sister-in-law discovered a new use  for the wallpaper compound in her classroom and brought this new idea to her brother in brother-in-law's attention. He changed...

Teachable moments… Our lives are filled with them however do we stop to take advantage of them? The teachable moment is an unplanned opportunity that arises and you do not plan for.  It is a fleeting opportunity that must be sensed by either the parent or caregiver and it’s an open door to provide insight where the child can benefit greatly from.  Children are curious by nature and we ne...

Building a home is an exciting adventure! In between the dreaming stage and the move-in date,  there are many challenges you face in the building process. It is the same when we are building our children’s lives. We have to carefully lay each brick  and weigh our decisions so the final product is a home, (our children’s lives ) built on a firm foundation. As parents, we need to build wit...