How to Live with Kare

you ever trip walking into a party, or send a text that doesn't get the response you wanted, and then replay that one tiny moment on a loop for the next four years? same. this week is about the audience you invented in your head, the one watching you way closer than any real person ever has. last week we talked about how fast we hand other people a verdict. this week we flip it: "i think everyone...

You decided who she was before she finished handing you your coffee. One short reply, one bad text, one look, and you've got a stranger's whole character written. He's a jerk, she's fake, he's lazy, she's cold. Case closed. The problem is you were never actually reading people. You were casting them. This week we get into the fundamental attribution error: the quiet, flattering habit of explaining...

It's 11pm and he still hasn't texted back. You've done the math. You know it hasn't actually been that long. And you're still holding your phone like it'll go off if you just believe hard enough. This week we get into the anxious-avoidant loop: the one who chases, the one who pulls away, why they keep finding each other, and why it never feels solvable from the inside. We trace where these pattern...

it's my birthday. which used to mean cake and now mostly means a performance review nobody scheduled. somewhere along the way birthdays stopped being a celebration and became a deadline, and i show up every year to audit myself against a list i don't even remember writing. this week i get into the "by now i should have" list, why almost all of us keep one, and where the social clock actually comes...

There's a voice in your head that gets loud the second you slow down, and she's brutal — but what if she's not actually wrong, just mean about it? This week I get into where your inner critic comes from, how to tell a coach worth listening to from a troll you need to block, and why the move was never to silence her but to translate her. Because "lazy" is usually just "scared" wearing a meaner face...

When something goes wrong, who do you text first, and is it because they'll help you see it clearly, or because you already know they'll take your side? This episode I get into venting culture and why we go looking for agreement instead of perspective, usually to protect a story we've already decided is true. The friends who never push back might be the ones keeping you stuck. 

You've started the same thing a dozen times and quit a dozen times, so by now you've decided the problem is you: you're lazy, you have no discipline. But what if it's not a discipline problem at all — it's a bar problem? This episode I get into why we set goals we have no real shot at keeping, how the ego is quietly running the whole thing, and what actually changes when you lower the bar instead...

We build the ego young, as armor against a world that didn't feel safe, and then we forget we're still wearing it into rooms that were never dangerous. In the first episode, I get into where that armor comes from, how it gets passed down through a family, and why the thing protecting you is so often the same thing hurting the people you love. This is the foundation for everything this show is abou...

Welcome to How to Live with Kare — a podcast about ego, self-awareness, and the slow, honest work of actually growing. Each week we dig into the stories we tell ourselves and why we tell them. First three episodes drop June 3rd.