How To Hold A Grudge

This episode, Sophie and Nic Aubury discuss the controversy surrounding Dominic Cummings's recent trip to Durham. Where does the grudge lie? Don't forget to rate and review the podcast, or share with a friend if you like what you hear. Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. the Daily Mail calls it 'fiendishly clever' and the Sunday Express dubbed Soph...

Sophie finds her guest very close to home this week. She and husband Dan Jones discuss how the Church of England has handled the lockdown so far. Don't forget to rate and review the podcast, or share with a friend if you like what you hear. Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. the Daily Mail calls it 'fiendishly clever' and the Sunday Express dubbed...

This week Sophie speaks to novelist Naomi Alderman about grudges against politicians and the government, and they discuss ways to disagree without having a grudgeworthy experience. Don't forget to rate and review the podcast, or share with a friend if you like what you hear. Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. the Daily Mail calls it 'fiendishly cl...

Sophie and Nic Aubury talk about the new lockdown rules - are they grudgeworthier than the old rules, or better? - and whether sorting it out (after an argument) is a helpful or harmful practice. Also in this episode: Nic discusses a still powerful grudge he's been holding for more than 30 years, and it's all about custard! Don't forget to rate and review the podcast, or share with a friend if you...

This week, Sophie welcomes back friend of the show Helen Acton to disuss the language surrounding illness, specifically Coronavirus. Don't forget to rate and review the podcast, or share with a friend if you like what you hear. Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. the Daily Mail calls it 'fiendishly clever' and the Sunday Express dubbed Sophie 'a li...

Sophie and podcast regular Nic Aubury disuss the strange new world of Coronavirus Lockdown curtain twitchers, rule breaking and police-themed grudges. Don't forget to rate and review the podcast, or share with a friend if you like what you hear. Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is out now in hardback, eBook and audiobook. the Daily Mail calls it 'fiendishly clever' and the Sunday Express d...

The How to Hold a Grudge podcast returns to provide fresh grudge-related chat to help keep you entertained during the time of social distancing. In this episode Sophie and call up bestselling author and award-winning games writer Naomi Alderman to talk about two polar opposite approaches to dealing with living in lockdown, and what motivates people to loudly endorse either approach on social media...

The How to Hold a Grudge podcast returns to provide fresh grudge-related chat to help keep you entertained during the time of social distancing. In this episode Sophie and psychotherapist Helen Acton pick up where they left off in episode 2 and deep dive into the subjects of negativity, anger and aggression and their place in the periodic table of grudges. Don't forget to rate and review the podca...

The How to Hold a Grudge podcast returns to provide fresh grudge-related chat to help keep you entertained during the time of social distancing. In this episode Sophie and grudge poet laureate Nic Aubury return to their favourite source of grudges - schools! Pupils across the UK face the prospect of no exams and a grade based on their estimated performance, but is this fair, and is it grudgeworthy...

In the second episode of the week Sophie is joined by How to Hold a Grudge regular psycotherapist Helen Acton, to discuss new additions to the periodic table of grudges that have come about as a result of the current crisis and the on-going lockdown in the UK. Don't forget to rate and review the podcast, or share with a friend if you like what you hear. Sophie's latest novel HAVEN'T THEY GROWN is...

The How to Hold a Grudge podcast returns to provide fresh grudge-related chat to help keep you entertained during the time of social distancing. In this first episode Sophie and Grudge Poet Laureate Nic Aubury talk about cancellations - highly topical, but are they always a bad thing? Don't forget to rate and review the podcast, or share with a friend if you like what you hear. Sophie's latest nov...

Sophie is joined by psychotherapist and fellow Agatha Christie superfan Helen Acton to discuss grudges — valid/reasonable and invalid/unreasonable — in the novels of Agatha Christie, the Queen of Crime. Also in this episode: the beauty of three-layered puzzle solutions, the Insufficient Poirot Content grudge some fans have about novels like Cat Among the Pigeons and After the Funeral, and Sophie r...

Sophie is joined by award-winning, bestselling novelist Naomi Alderman for this special bonus episode. They discuss the popular misconceptions that give rise to that widespread phenomemon, the Misunderstanding-of-Loyalty Grudge, and what loyalty truly means in a grudge-holding context. Also in this episode: when couples separate and friends pick a grudge side, why it's always grudgeworthy to write...

Being judgemental is bad, we tend to think, but using our judgement is essential. So how do we distinguish between good judging and bad judging? Having a lower opinion of some people than others has to be okay, surely, even if one's aim and wish is to be all-forgiving and grudge-free. Sophie and Helen Acton discuss the ways in which our own ethics and opinions in relation to infidelity and meat-ea...

There's always room for a newcomer — a new grudge type — in the Periodic Table of Grudge Categories. After a new TV crime drama attracts hundreds of comments that strike fear into Sophie's heart, she tries to find a name for this emerging grudge in order to classify it accurately. Also in this episode, Sophie plays a newly invented grudge game, Judge That Grudge, with poet Nic Aubury and psychothe...

Sophie and Podcast Grudge-Poet Laureate Nic Aubury discuss those grudges that we might not need to hold if only we were better at creating and sticking to personal boundaries. If we're so busy people-pleasing that we allow ourselves to do things we hate in order to placate others, isn't that our fault rather than theirs? Also in this episode: what does American life coach Brooke Castillo have to s...

In a friendship, is it acceptable and necessary sometimes, or uncharitable and grudgeworthy, to say 'You did X and I didn't like it' or 'I'm angry with you because you said Y'? Sophie is joined by psychotherapist Helen Acton for much jolly disagreement on this subject. Why would Sophie never in a million years tell friends, family, acquaintances or anyone that they'd upset or annoyed her? And why...

Sophie is joined by this podcast's poet in residence Nic Aubury, who is also a Latin teacher at Oundle School. Together they discuss more shocking and frankly implausible (though entirely true) school-based grudge anecdotes, and whether all schools should be abolished for being too grudgeworthy. Also: when teachers lose their temper and yell and scream at pupils, or announce their intention to hum...

If you share a piece of life-changingly amazing good news with a close friend, lover, parent or sibling, and they respond simply with one yellow smiley face emoji and no words at all, is that innately grudgeworthy? Could and should they have done better? Is a diagnosis of envy any sort of mitigation? Or are you the one guilty of grudgeworthy behaviour in that scenario — for failing to take the hap...

Is it grudgeworthy if someone has a terrible spouse, even if they themselves are completely innocent? Why aren't more people alert to the grudgeworthiness of their romantic partners? Sophie is joined by this podcast's Grudge-Poet Laureate Nic Aubury to discuss what to do when you have a close friend whom you adore, yet you can't visit them at their house because it contains one of the grudgeworthi...

If someone has done or said something grudgeworthy, but it's the only grudgeworthy thing they've ever done, should we always let them off and treat is as a mere blip? Is it possible to sustain long friendships and relationships in which no grudgeworthy behaviour occurs? Should everyone get at least one 'get out of grudge free' card? And how relevant are patterns of behaviour and track record when...

Nic Aubrey is back to discuss grudges related to wills with Sophie - and how best to divide your money to avoid grudgeworthy feelings between siblings. This episode concludes the season, see you back for season 3 of How To Hold A Grudge!

Does the intention behind grudge-worthy behaviour change the nature of your grudge? This week Sophie welcomes back Ann Grey to discuss how we interpret other people's behaviour, why people would intend to cause pain, and why Sophie doesn't discuss her grudges with the grudgee.

In this solocast(!) Sophie looks at a variety of topics ranging from handy adjectives, how to identify a true grudge, and a behaviour that she believes to be grudgeworthy. Sophie's book HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE is out now in hardback, eBook and as an unabridged audiobook read by Sophie.

This week, Sophie is rejoined by Season 1 guest Ann Grey, a therapist, meditation teacher, and homeopath. Looking at grudges from a more psychological angle, Sophie and her guest discuss the effect of grudges on the mind, how empathy towards the grudges of others can be beneficial to everyone, and how a seemingly trivial grudge may actually be telling of deeper issues.