How to Glow: The Jewish Woman's Marriage Boost

Welcome to How to Glow!

Ever notice that the things that cause you the most stress are sometimes the exact thing you most wanted? Once upon a time we only dreamed of getting to know and understand our husbands better, have children, or land that exact job. And once we have them, it's so easy to forget and to allow those same things to overwhelm us and stress us out. It's such a simple re-frame, but it can feel life chang...

Ready for a tool that will make you feel like an undercover superhero? The Invisible Cape is THE magic trick to pull you out of the keeping-up-with-the-Cohens mentality. Because we ALL have our areas where we feel compelled to compete. This tool is one of my longtime listeners' and current clients' favorites--so I know you'll love it. And if you've heard it before, we can all use a refresh. Ready...

This week I'm sharing our family's news which is why I've been MIA so far this summer. I'm also beginning our summer series where we'll be bringing back some of our listeners' most favorite episodes. This week is The Dreaded Housework--how can we use coaching concepts to improve our relationship with our more mundane parts of life? This was originally a two-part episode--we are including both in t...

This week we kick off our July How to Glow Take-over with Ilana Kendal, author of Choosing Up. Enjoy this episode replay and don't miss registration in the coming days to get into the community for July. Register Here Enjoy

If you've been struggling to stay on track with a decision you made, this episode is for you. So often, we make decisions when what we should be making are goals.  What's the difference? A decision is one-and-done. A goal is a process. If you think you're making a decision but you really need a goal, you'll end up weakening your faith in yourself and creating a lot of extra frustration. If yo...

I'm so excited to have Yael Trusch, financial expert and Torah teacher, on this week to discuss our thoughts about money. How do we not get too wrapped up in money? What if our financial situation is keeping us from being happy? Can you be wealthy AND holy? What does that look like? I know you'll love this conversation--can't wait to hear your thoughts. AND Yael will be our guest coach inside of H...

If you've found yourself saying "yes" to too many things simply because it's so hard to say "no"... whether because you hate to disappoint others or you want to be nice or you just can't stand the awkward moment.. this week's podcast is for you. I want to show you what's on the other side of learning how to say no. What's on the other side is true giving. When you are willing and able to say "no"...

Today I want to talk to you about the idea of how we relate to one another's feelings and how that relates to the idea that our own thoughts create our feelings. Specifically, we're going to take this into our marriages: "I want to be happy" turns into "I need my husband to do xyz so I will be happy" "I want my husband to be happy" becomes "I'm responsible to do everything he says will make him ha...

Rachel Glasser kept seeing comments on the Frum Girl Problems Facebook group about mother-in-law dynamics that were directly addressed in the research she had done about this relationship, so she decided to share her findings. I saw her post and immediately invited her onto the podcast. I loved our conversation. Having gone through all the major studies about in-law relationships in the last sixty...

Has your brain felt noisy lately? I noticed a tendency to reach for a podcast or shiur when I had a lot on my mind and some housework that needed to get done. And when I paid attention, I found (probably not surprisingly) that once the podcast was over, my brain felt just as noisy as before. Sometimes more so. So I've adopted a check-in with myself: If my brain is noisy, what I need is silence. If...

I am so excited to bring you this interview with Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier, founder of TheShmuz.com and author of the new book, 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make. We dove into a really interesting discussion about how men and women communicate differently, how we perceive and give criticism differently, and how changing our approach can have a powerful impact on our marriages. Ref...

Sometimes it's not about coaching yourself, it's about acceptance. It's so easy to fall for the myth that we're supposed to always feel good. Ironically, thinking we're always supposed to feel good... feels terrible. It creates so much resistance. Today I'm sharing one of my "one of those days" days. And I know you have them, too. Here's how we can allow them, which actually allows us to tap into...

I love Purim + Thought Work! So many women struggle on Purim. It's normal-- but it's not necessary. Tune in to hear how you can make a thought-plan for Purim to make it a day more meaningful and enjoyable (yes even with the wildness, the mess, the over-sugared kids, and the vomiting husband)! Want to join us next month? We'd love to have you in our community! kaylalevin.com/coaching to get on the...

Pursuing happiness tends to make it even more elusive. Most of the women I know and work with know that sitting on the couch with bonbons when life is feeling a little unsatisfying is not going to do the trick. So in this ongoing conversation about self-care, I’m going to make another distinction that I think can help us. There are activities that make your life better.. and there’s rest. And both...

It's about to be one of the busiest seasons of the year and I want to give you a skill to get back a lot of your time. One of the main reasons we waste time is called buffering. Buffering is any time we engage in an activity and we lose out in the end--usually to avoid some negative emotion, whether that's loneliness, disconnection, boredom, anxiety... pick your poison :) Today I'll go over how to...

This week we are revisiting and going deeper on the whole idea of mashpia/mekabel AKA provider/receiver. What does this concept mean in the context of a Jewish marriage? What is the Jewish ideal for how a woman "receives"? What have we picked up from other cultures about what it means to be provided for, and what downsides does that bring? How can we strengthen ourselves without burning ourselves...

This week I'm offering you a tool to help you get more clear on what you want from your marriage.  So much of the time, we "hint" at what we want and really believe we've been clear. There are a few tools I teach to help you do a self-check of whether your communication was clear enough and what to do about the vulnerability we feel when we make a real, authentic request from our husband. Rea...

This episode is a long time coming! Many women struggle with feeling a REALLY strong negative reaction when their husband is sick--whether annoyance, judgement, resentment, frustration, even fear.  This. Is. Normal. Even very lovely, wonderful, nurturing women struggle with this. Today I'm going to help you with what to do about it.

HOT TOPIC today, ladies.  Whether this is relevant to you personally or not, I encourage you to listen for the tools I share in the context of this question. UPDATE: As of the posting of this episode, doors are open for How to Glow! GET IN TODAY for my best tools, live and written coaching, and the chance to hear other people get coached and grow from that! https://kaylalevin.com/coaching Thi...

This week I want to offer some really practical solutions for when life--or your marriage--is getting really hard. When you should NOT be trying to do thought work How to get past "cliche" forms of self care to something that would really be helpful for you The role our lower brain plays in our well-being and how to deal with your nervous system Clarify what your signs are that you're spiraling Ho...

"I had an idea for a podcast topic that I don't think you covered. It is actually relevant to current (Jewish) events lately. I want to know what to do when you or your spouse is having a crisis and is not dealing with it properly. Or if there is a crisis in the world that you or your spouse is taking very hard and not functioning as they normally do. If it is you, that is one thing but what do yo...

Not to be contrary, but this week we'll be talking about why you might need to take a BREAK from setting goals. This episode is for you if you have a goal that's been lingering for a while that you just can't seem to work up the motivation to achieve.  Listen to hear... Some "symptoms" that you are in need of a goals detox How tying your self worth to your accomplishments is actually making i...

We talk a lot on here about getting our needs met, because that's one of the main questions I get as a marriage coach. Today I want to share two tools that will help you get more of what you want--whether specifically in your marriage or in your life as a whole. Listen this week to learn: The main reason you aren't pursuing what you want Clear, doable strategies to help you clarify what you really...

When we say "marriage is hard" we mean to encourage. We mean to empathize, to validate, to normalize the struggles that can so often happen in marriage. But I want you to know that there's a major negative impact of saying this so unquestioningly.  Make sure you listen this week as I pull in thought work to understand why the phrase "marriage is hard" can be one of the biggest disservices we...