How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

If you struggle to talk to women or feel stuck in the friend zone, you need to hear Tony’s story. A shy, single dad and software engineer, Tony was dateless when he began working with Connell. By learning how to flirt with women and bring confidence to every date, Tony met his dream girlfriend, Jennifer. In this episode, he shares the exact shifts and flirting techniques that helped him succeed—so...

Do you worry you’re “too nice”? Tired of seeing women date jerks? It’s time to own being a nice guy! The truth is, women actually prefer kind men over “alpha males,” if you make 3 key moves. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares these tested tips. Plus—the powerful lesson he learned from a Maxim model. Nice guys can finish first with women, and this epis...

Dating apps feel rigged, and IRL approaches are just plain awkward, right? How are you supposed to find love today? In this encore episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” author Tim Molnar draws from his insightful new book, “Date Smarter,” to offer practical, research-backed dating strategies. A data-driven dating expert, Molnar shares what works both on the apps and in real life—including one move...

Why do “nice guys” get friend-zoned while jerks get the girl? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett smashes the “Nice Guy” myth, settles the debate over who should pay on a first date, and shares the time he flew cross-country to surprise a woman he’d never met—with an unexpected “gift.” You will laugh. You will cringe. Listen now! FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF 1-1 D...

Do you fear that approaching women might get you labeled a creep—or even socially shunned? Connell’s client Ajay once felt that way. Drowning in toxic Reddit advice, Ajay believed that women didn’t want to meet good guys like him. In this episode of ‘How to Get a Girlfriend,” he tells Connell how he went from feeling terrified to approach women to confidently meeting cool, cute girls. It turns out...

Do you see women you’d love to talk to in real life but you freeze up? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals how to flip the “Authenticity Switch” and go from anxiousness to confidently approaching women—without any cheesy pickup lines. Four powerful shifts will help you meet women in a charming way. Plus, Connell gives you 4 practical approach missions to start meeting women...

Robbie, 26, is a shy software engineer who had never approached a woman in a bar—until one Friday night when dating coach Connell Barrett taught him the Hero Approach. It’s a bold move you make to start a night that unlocks authentic confidence. Three hours later, Robbie had collected 5 phone numbers. “I’m in god mode,” he said at one point. In this episode, you’ll learn how to use the Hero Approa...

Struggling to get matches on Hinge, Bumble or Tinder? It’s not your looks, and it’s not the dating apps. It’s your profile. Small but costly mistakes make women swipe left. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares five proven “Match Magnet” fixes you can apply today—using the photos you already have. No photo shoot, no stress. Just ma...

Online dating is tough for most men. But when you’re a single dad, it’s hard to find the energy and motivation. In this live coaching session, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps his client Zach—a single dad re-entering the dating world—improve both his online dating profile and his mindset. Don’t miss Zach’s breakthrough moment (at the 42-minute mark) when he realizes the re...

More live coaching! Join dating coach and bestselling author (“Dating Sucks but You Don’t”) Connell Barrett as he helps his client Evan break through a big roadblock: getting ghosted after first dates. Connell reveals the 5 Flirting Escalators—the crucial steps Evan was missing. Get ready to stop hearing “I’m not feeling a connection” and start hearing “When are we going out again?” Listen now. DO...

Insecurities don’t have to crush your confidence and hurt your dating life. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett takes on a listener’s raw question about penis size and enlargement surgery. Plus, Connell shares the right (and wrong) way to use A.I. in your online-dating strategy. And he reveals the right way to text women between dates....

Do you want to confidently meet attractive women you see in bars, cafes or the gym… but you’re afraid you’ll seem creepy? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett has good news: Woman WANT you to approach—if you do it the right way. Your fear of approaching is about to end! Plus, Connell reveals exactly what to say to break the ice and what NOT to say. DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM...

Awkward silences, small talk that goes nowhere, the dreaded “I’m just not feeling” text. Bad dates suck! In this live-coaching episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps his client Matthew go from the nice, lonely guy who runs out of things to say to a magnetic flirt who women cannot resist. Discover the 3 flirting moves that Matthew is using to create playful, authentic ch...

Want to know what NOT to do on a date? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares five cringe-worthy dating disasters. From the investment banker whose cocaine dealer made a surprise appearance, to Connell’s double-decker bus ride straight to the Friend Zone, these cautionary tales will help you avoid becoming her next dating nightmare. Highlights—Err, Lowlights?—of this Episode: 0...

Have you ever deleted a dating app in frustration? Or stopped yourself from following up after being left “on read”? Quitting too soon only leads to settling—or staying single. The solution is resilience. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals how grit and tenacity can help you land more dates, build confidence, and find the relationship you want. Love or lone...

Approaching women as a shy, introverted guy can feel terrifying. But that shyness is actually your hidden advantage. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals 5 powerful shifts to help introverts confidently meet women in real life. You’ll also discover his go-to icebreaker that almost always works. BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNE...

If you struggle on the apps, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the big mistake that costs you matches and dates—and how to fix it. Plus, Connell shares his best Hinge prompt ever. Then he unveils the 3 must-have prompts every profile needs to FINALLY make online-dating work for you. Highlights of this Episode: 01:00: Online Dating is NOT Dating—Here’s What It Is 03:01: Th...

You know what sucks? (Besides every Kid Rock song.) When a woman you’re texting leaves you on read—and you have no idea why. In the finale of dating coach Connell Barrett’s “Textual Healing” series, you’ll learn the 5 hidden texting mistakes that turn women off. And you’ll get 5 advanced moves to become a texting ninja. Plus, Connell reads a message thread from his own phone to show you how to tex...

Ever wonder why you feel insecure around women? In a raw interview, thought leader and podcaster Frank Rich (“The Super Human Life”) joins dating coach Connell Barrett to reveal the hidden culprit that may be hurting your confidence: porn addiction. Rich opens up about his own battle, and explains how watching too much porn leads to objectifying women and kills dating motivation. He also shares hi...

Do women on the apps rarely reply to you? Dating coach Connell Barrett reveals his “Back to the Future” opener—the playful icebreaker that’s helped clients spark conversations, set up dates, and find girlfriends. He gives you the exact words to send so you can stop getting ghosted and start connecting. “This is the best opener I’ve come up with in my 20 years of studying online dating,” Connell sa...

Tired of getting ghosted? Do your texting conversations die faster than a fruit fly? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his 10 Texting Commandments—his tested rules to get women texting you back and saying yes to dates. Yea, thou SHALT obey these holy rules, and ye shall soon get ye some dates! The 10 Texting Commandments: 04:00...

Have you ever settled for a woman who wasn’t what you were looking for, but you felt she was the best you could do? Licensed therapist and author Jason VanRuler reveals how hidden childhood wounds quietly shape your dating choices—and how to finally heal and move forward. You’ll learn why men settle, how to escape a “shadow” love life, and get a plan to help you finally find the relationship you r...

You may not know it, but you are kinky… and so is your next date! That’s right—a whopping 95 percent of singles are kinky, according to certified sexologist Amanda Dames, who joins dating coach Connell Barrett in a juicy episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend.” Dames, host of the Kink Consultant Podcast, will teach you how to have hot, fun, shame-free sex, even if you’re sexually inexperienced. Episo...

Do you struggle with texting women? Do you feel like you’re always one boring message away from getting ghosted? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals his powerful new texting framework to make your messages magnetic: “Play, Play, Play, Pull the Trigger.” You’ll learn how to confidently flirt over text so you get a lot more dates. Plus, you’ll hear how one woman went from rej...

Are you unsure how to talk to women—on the apps or in real life? Tired of being seen as “just a friend”? Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett teaches you his secret weapon: Man-to-Woman Communication. You’re about to learn his turbo-charged flirting method. You’re about to know exactly what to say to spark real chemistry with women, from the dating apps to first dates to approaching...