How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

If fear of rejection keeps you from taking romantic chances—sending that text or approaching an attractive stranger—Thais Gibson has a solution. Gibson has helped more than 70,000 people build thriving relationships, both through her book, “The New Attachment Theory,” and as founder of the Personal Development School. Gibson joins dating coach Connell Barrett to share practical exercises to help y...

You see an incredible woman you want to talk to, but you’re not sure what to say—and the pickup lines you’ve heard sound cheesy or creepy. On this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett gives you 11 natural, non-cringe opening lines you can say to any woman. Get ready to break the ice in charming, genuine ways, and start getting dates. HIRE CONNELL TO TEACH YOU HOW TO A...

If you’ve ever wondered, “What do I say? How do I flirt?” Tony’s story will resonate. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett talks with Tony, a divorced dad and software engineer who had some flirting breakthroughs that helped him win over Jennifer. If Tony can go from struggling to talk to women to finding his dream relationship, so can you! NOT SURE HOW TO FLI...

When you get good at flirting, you’ll be shocked by what you can achieve. Dating coach Connell Barrett sure was. Once a dateless introvert stuck in the friend zone, he never imagined his love life would include instant make-outs, fun flings, and beautiful women pursuing him. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell shares five brain-breaking flirting moments that shattered his dating...

Imagine never struggling to come up with a good online dating opener. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares seven proven, playful dating-app openers that you can use every day of the week! You’re about to learn what to message women, and how to keep the conversation flowing after they reply. NOT GETTING ENOUGH DATES? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL...

There’s one dating skill that will help you smash through almost any dating challenge, from rejection to ghosting to approach anxiety. The skill? Resilience. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett reveals why resilience is the least sexy but most powerful skill in dating—and how it can help you to finally find the one. Listen now. NOT SURE HOW TO FLIRT AND BANTE...

You can’t get great at flirting without making mistakes, as dating coach Connell Barrett learned the hard way. In this candid and hilarious episode, Connell shares 7 huge flirting mistakes he made—including the time a woman poured a pitcher of ice-water down his shirt. He also shares 7 lessons that helped him crack the code on male-female connection. NOT SURE HOW TO APPROACH BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? BOOK...

You texted, but she didn’t reply. So you assume you’re ghosted. Not so fast! Dating coach Connell Barrett says that one unanswered text isn’t ghosting. It’s just dating in 2026. On this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell breaks down why most “ghosting” isn’t actually ghosting—and he shares 22 funny, playful follow-up messages that get women writing you back and going on dates with you....

Most guys struggle on first dates by playing it too safe. Same dull questions, same dull answers, same text she sends the next day: “I didn’t feel a connection.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares a drastic, powerful solution. “Blow up” your next first date! Connell breaks down the three rules to take your dates from forgettable to explosively fun. He...

You want to meet women in the real world, but you you worry that it’s weird or socially creepy. In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett explains why now is the best time ever to meet women “in the wild.” He shares how he and his clients are proving it every day. Listen now so you can stop overthinking and start approaching women...

Nothing kills a date faster than running out of things to say—and the awkward silence that follows. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and author Connell Barrett breaks down 8 great first-date topics that lead to free-flowing, flirty conversations. You’ll learn how to keep conversations going, banter with charm, and get a lot more second dates. NOT SURE HOW TO FLIRT AND BAN...

You see a woman in the real world you want to meet—but you freeze, get stuck in your head, and have no clue what to say. On this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 31 flirty, funny things to say to break the ice with women. Listen now for 31 openers that are charming, playful and NEVER creepy. NOT SURE HOW TO APPROACH BEAUTI...

Do you want to meet women without sounding like some weird pickup artist? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares five pickup lines for men who hate pickup lines. You’ll hear how his client Taylor went from overthinking approaches to confidently meeting and dating Cassie—no cheesy pickup lines needed. And if Taylor can do it, so can...

If you feel you’re just not handsome enough to get a great girlfriend, this episode will change how you think. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett sits down with his client Shekar, who used to feel like he wasn’t handsome enough to date wonderful women. Then he flew to New York City for Connell’s Wingman Weekend approaching bootcamp. Now he can meet women, get numbers, flirt—and he...

Robbie was once so anxious around women he couldn’t even say hi to his crush, the cute cashier. And the idea of approaching women felt impossible. Then came one unforgettable Friday night. With dating coach and author Connell Barrett as his wingman, Robbie grabbed seven phone numbers and soon met his romantic partner. On this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell and Robbie unpack the aha...

Not knowing what to say or how to flirt on first dates can get any guy trapped in the dreaded friend zone. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 37 flirty things to say that spark chemistry and help her feel a real romantic connection—without using any manipulative pickup artist tactics. Listen now so you can confidently flirt and...

You see a woman you’d love to meet… and you freeze, overthinking the “perfect” line. And you’re left kicking yourself. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and best-selling author Connell Barrett helps his client Evan flirt so good that women can’t stop thinking about him! From bold openers to “wolfish” eye contact that women love, you’ll learn how to create instant sparks wi...

You want to date women in your social circle, but you don’t want to be “that creepy guy.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett helps his client A.J. navigate meeting women in social groups. You’ll learn how to read the room and know what to say, without crossing any lines. Listen now—your future girlfriend might be in your yoga class, wa...

If you struggle with what to say to women, this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend” is your flirting cheat sheet. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett gives you exact lines to use in 7 tricky dating situations. Plus, he shares his flirting philosophy (“Flirting is playing”) so you can stop freezing and start confidently attracting wonderful women. Episode Highlights: 02:25: What to...

You see quality women you’d love to meet—but anxiety gets in the way. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and author Connell Barrett lays out the 7 mileposts that take you from freezing up to confidently getting numbers and dates. Listen to learn why you’re stuck—and what it takes to meet attractive women in real life. Episode Highlights: 04:15: Milepost 1: Destroy Your Limi...

If you struggle with what to say and how to flirt, help has arrived. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett gives you 47 simple, actionable ways to spark attraction with women, without cheesy gimmicks. Learn how to be playful, authentic, and confident, so you’ll never run out of things to say—on dates, over text, or when approaching women....

Do you feel clueless about flirting, and worry that one wrong move might creep her out? On this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett breaks down 7 flirting mistakes that kill attraction, including one psychologists call the “Slime Effect” (11:12). You’ll also learn exactly what to say to confidently create chemistry. Listen now. DO YOU STRUGGLE...

Things seem to be going well—and then she says, “You’re nice, but I don’t feel a connection.” Friend zone. In this live coaching session of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes his client Matt to work through this exact issue. Connell breaks down how flirting actually works and shares a simple fix you can make so women start seeing you as more than just a friend. BOOK A...

There are 6 Levels of Flirting—and if you don’t get second dates, you’re likely stuck at a lower one. So what’s your flirting level? And how do you level up? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and author Connell Barrett brings the 6 Levels of Flirting to life through real-life stories. It’s time to stop overthinking, flirt with charm, and get a lot more second dates. Episod...

Being creepy is every man’s worst fear in dating. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares five moments when he accidentally creeped women out. Learn what went wrong, why it happened, and how to avoid these mistakes so you can flirt with confidence, authenticity and charm. Episode Highlights: 01:45: I Tried Being a Jerk… and Got Ice Water Dumped On Me 04:39...