How to Be Him Podcast

Whether it's a girl, a business, or a dream — going after what you want takes courage. But how do you pursue boldly without crossing lines you'll regret? We’re joined by J.C. Shire and Sara Laine McNew to talk about what it looks like to take risks with integrity, how faith shapes the way you chase things, and why conviction and confidence aren't opposites.

Nobody's saying what they actually think — so we did. In this episode, Gabe Conte joins HTBH to talk about what Gen Z men are really looking for when it comes to relationships, sex, and commitment. Is marriage still the goal? Are hookups filling a void? And what does any of this have to do with faith? Unfiltered and real.

We pulled up, brought the snacks, and let the conversation breathe. This episode is less interview, more real life — a roundtable with guests you recognize, who are actually trying to live out Godly community. No perfect answers. Just honest conversation about what it looks like when faith gets lived out in a living room with people you trust.

Garth and Za get honest about the pressure to always hustle, always achieve, and always prove themselves. From chasing success to struggling with self-worth, the boys unpack the tension between working hard for what you want and not letting achievement define who you are. A real conversation about ambition, identity, and the pressure men face today.

Pride is subtle — and it’s powerful. Grant, Garth, and Za, break down the difference between natural and toxic pride, reflecting on past battles and current struggles with surrendering control and trusting God. This episode points back to what matters most: understanding the gospel and letting it reshape everything.

Garth and Za unpack the weight of shame and guilt, and how those struggles distort purpose when you’re searching for truth. There’s a difference between just carrying your past and actually living free with in who God says you are.

Manhood in 2026 is… confusing. So we talked about it. The boys dive into their own experiences navigating masculinity — the wins, the failures, the emotions, and the pressure. Centered around five biblical keys, this episode unpacks toxic masculinity, relationships, and what it actually means to step up as a Christian man.

Landon and the boys talk through the identity crisis in Gen-Z, and the personal battles that come with searching for truth. There's a difference between existing and living with purpose. Everything starts with who God says you are. 

The team talks about where culture is right now when it comes to pornography, how it’s affected their own lives, and the real, practical steps they take to fight it day to day. It’s wild how normal porn has become… so we talked about it.

What happens when two guys with totally different upbringings decide to create something rooted in truth? In this pilot episode, Garth and Za unpack who they are, what shaped them, and how “How To Be Him” was born. Culture says being “him” means one thing. The Bible says being like “Him” means another. Come along the journey of discovering truth.

"How To Be Him" hosts, Garth and Za share the vision and goal behind the podcast. No perfection, or pretending. Just two guys trying become more like Jesus Christ.  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtobehimpodcast/?hl=en