How Married Are You?

Happy Holidays, y’all! As the year comes to a close, we’re taking a short break from our regularly scheduled podcast episodes to rest, reset, and be present. As a little holiday gift, we’re sharing a conversation from the Patreon vault that you may have missed. If you enjoy conversations like this, join us on Patreon for weekly bonus discussions after every podcast . In this vault conversation, Gl...

This episode centers on one big listener question: Did I romanticize my husband — and overlook red flags while dating? A newly married listener from South Africa writes in just three months after the wedding, struggling with harsh words during conflict, old wounds resurfacing, and the fear that she may have confused spiritual compatibility with true emotional safety. We unpack what “gentleness” sh...

This episode dives into one major listener question: Are we unequally yoked? A 31-year-old Christian single mom writes in, deeply in love and preparing for engagement — but scared that her Protestant faith and her partner’s Eastern Orthodox roots might create cracks later. We unpack theology vs. lifestyle, how beliefs show up in everyday routines, and what unity actually looks like when two people...

This episode centers on two powerful listener emails — one from a man afraid his insecurity is destroying a healthy relationship, and another from a woman untangling herself from a four-year situationship filled with hidden children, heartbreak, miscarriages, and blurred co-parenting lines. We talk honestly about trust, emotional safety, soul-ties, red flags, and why some relationships can’t be pr...

In this episode, we read an email from a listener who loves her boyfriend but doesn’t feel like his first choice. We talk insecurity vs. truth, attraction, healing from past relationships, and how to discern if you’re being chosen or just convenient. Plus, Chocolate Baby Storytime with a family rap session, camping trip confessions, and updates on Premarital Advantage, Father Yourself First, and t...

We’re talking to a solo mom who wrote in real honest: should she try again with her son’s dad? We unpack trust after hurt, how healing changes what you want, and why “for the baby” is not a dating strategy. We keep it tender, tell the truth, and give some practical next steps. Plus, Chocolate Baby Storytime, cleanse life, and Lily the dog leaving sticky-note reminders like a tiny furry manager. Th...

She wrote in heartbroken: six months in, different faith practices, sex after planning to wait, and an “I love you” he stopped saying. Then her dad talked to the boyfriend who admitted he didn’t plan to marry her and wanted to “see what else is out there.” We respond with care and clarity: nothing was wasted, learn the lesson, forgive, and choose wisely next time. We also talk sibling dynamics at...

📘 ORDER FATHER YOURSELF FIRST TODAY! A listener writes in about the woman he loves—smart, beautiful, and ready for marriage… except she believes a man should pay for everything while she saves her own money “for security.” She says a woman shouldn’t spend on an able-bodied man. He calls it an escape route. Now he’s wondering: is this financial boundary a red flag or just her way of protecting her...

PRE-ORDER FATHER YOURSELF FIRST TODAY! Father Meet- Up Zoom Link What do you do when you catch your husband on the Ring camera talking about another woman… and realize the fairytale you’ve built together might’ve never been real? 💔 This week’s listener letter, “Broken Pieces,” comes from a wife and mother of four who discovered her husband’s long-term emotional affair—one that started years ago a...

PRE-ORDER FATHER YOURSELF FIRST TODAY! What do you do when the man you love keeps hitting pause on the future you planned together? 💍 After six years—three long-distance, three living together—a listener’s boyfriend still hasn’t proposed or started premarital counseling. She feels more like a roommate than a partner, while he insists they’ve “gone backwards” and need to fix their foundation befor...

PRE-ORDER FATHER YOURSELF FIRST TODAY! What if your independence isn’t a strength—but a shield? 💔 A 28-year-old listener has never been in a romantic relationship, and she wonders if years of self-reliance have made her “too independent” to ever need (or want) marriage. With rejection scars, a deep love of solo life, and questions about purpose, partnership, and faith, she asks: Is marriage more...

PRE-ORDER FATHER YOURSELF FIRST TODAY: https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555 “Help Me Get My Husband Off the Couch” For the last five years, one wife has been going to bed alone—while her husband voluntarily sets up camp on the couch 🛋️. What started as late-night gaming turned into a full-blown routine, even when they lived in a studio apartment just three...

PRE-ORDER FATHER YOURSELF FIRST TODAY: https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555 "Am I going to be a lazy mom?” A 23-year-old listener is glowing with excitement about her first pregnancy 👶🏾—but beneath the joy, fear lingers. Raised tough, she worries she won’t be nurturing enough, won’t have the energy, won’t measure up. Her 25-year-old husband is stead...

PRE-ORDER FATHER YOURSELF FIRST TODAY! A listener married young and in love; years later, pregnant with a toddler at home, she’s watching her husband drift from faith, hide the marriage online, and surround himself with bad influences. Birthdays and Mother’s Days go ignored, passwords are gone, and therapy suggests an ultimatum. Is she clinging to hope—or ignoring what she already knows? We talk:...

PRE-ORDER FATHER YOURSELF FIRST TODAY Is wanting vulnerability the same as being ready to hold it? A newlywed (90-something days in!) loves her husband but admits his past trauma makes openness slow. Then the Holy Spirit hits her with two checks: “Can you handle what he gives you?” and “Steward well what he gives you.” We unpack what “safe space” really costs: capacity, patience, and practice. 💛...

A brother wrote in after a three-year long-distance rollercoaster where tough talks turned into silence and her parents turned hostile. He prayed for an approval and called it a sign while every other sign said no. We laugh, we side-eye, and we keep it loving but honest. 😂🙏🏾 We talk: 🙅🏾‍♂️ Stop over-spiritualizing dating. God is not a vending machine or a green light on command. 🚫🏠 Racism i...

A 27-year-old listener in a three-year poly relationship wants simple guardrails—tell me when you’re out with someone else, if you’re spending the night, and shut it down if they try to edge me out. He resists, agrees begrudgingly, then doesn’t follow through. She’s financially stuck, sharing a cramped place he pays for, and wonders when it’s time to plan her exit. 🛡️💔 We talk: “You wrote us know...

Is God’s will bigger than girl code? ✝️ When a listener in her church circle and her friend’s ex catch real feelings, the trio dynamic—and a friendship—hangs in the balance. She’s prayed the feelings away, he confessed he wants to pursue her, and everyone’s watching to see whether wisdom or worry wins. 💔 We talk: “They didn’t guard their hearts.” Staying close after a breakup kept hope alive and...

What do you do when the man you want to be feels out of reach? 💍🇯🇲 Recorded in Montego Bay while Glen and Yvette celebrate 15 years 🎉, a listener writes in before his own 10-year anniversary: he’s lost motivation, avoids hard conversations, and feels inconsistent in faith and intimacy after weight gain. Without a positive male role model, he’s under a heavy cloud and asking how to lead his famil...

What do you owe a friend when romance enters the chat? 💔 A listener matched with a guy and told her girls how excited she was—only to learn weeks later that one of them secretly liked him, talked to him, and went on a date. The friend admitted it only after he ghosted her and showed zero remorse. Now the question is clear: where’s the line between shooting your shot and protecting the friendship?...

What happens when the "perfect boyfriend" suddenly explodes? 😳 A listener writes in about her kind, generous dream man—until he shouted, cursed, and loomed over her at 3 AM after she said she felt left out of his hobby-club mixer. Childhood memories of an angry step-dad came rushing back, and now she wonders: if rage shows up once, will it move in after I do? Glen and Yvette weigh safet...

Can a prophetic word outweigh chemistry that’s already lit the fuse? 🕯️ One listener writes in torn between a four‑year, on‑again‑off‑again love and the fear he’s missing the real woman God promised. Childhood trauma, church expectations, and a couple of busted boundaries all collide as he wonders: am I the problem—or am I over‑spiritualizing everything? We talk: 🗣️ Make a decision—then make it ri...

Can love survive emotional whiplash and a husband who leaves you on the curb? 😶‍🌫️ One listener kept chasing a woman who ping‑ponged between “just friends” and “let’s try again.” Another rushed into marriage for a missions trip—only to discover her new spouse measures quality time in bedroom minutes and once made her walk home after a joke. Both are wondering: Am I crazy for calling it quits—or c...

A 26‑year‑old listener feels sparks 🔥 with a 35‑year‑old pastor, but her dad and step‑mom insist, “He’s too old!” Now she’s weighing wisdom, faith ✝️, and a widening generation gap 🕰️. Can she trust her own maturity—and God’s timing—over her family’s fears? We talk: 🙏🏾 Why shared faith, values, and life vision matter more than the number on a birth certificate 🚩 How repeating “much younger” pa...

What do you do when you realize nobody’s coming to save you? 🧠💔📉 In this episode, we hear from a 24-year-old man who's been in a relationship for almost a decade—but feels like he’s barely shown up for any of it. He moved across the country to be with the love of his life. She’s held down the bills, the home, and the hope. And while he battles depression, anxiety, and a lack of discipline,...