How Are We 40?

In honor of July 4th, we're bringing you a revolutionary episode: a summit of UK–USA relations. We invited our resident Brit (and Taylor's fiancé), Martin, to dive into the biggest cultural differences between our two countries. Whether you're Team USA, Team UK, or just here for Martin's accent, prepare for some deeply unqualified geopolitical diplomacy. 🇺🇸💥🌭 OUR INSTAGRAM OUR TIKTOK OUR YOUTUBE...

This week, we tackle two stories that had us texting each other in all caps. First, we break down Maternal Instinct— Netflix’s latest jaw-dropping true-crime doc which somehow manages to get more unhinged every ten minutes. Then, we finally finished Strangers —and we have thoughts. We unpack the questions it raises about work, marriage, money, motherhood, identity, and the impossible calculus of m...

A very special VIP guest joins us this week to toast Whit’s favorite day of the year — Father’s Day. Ryan (Whit’s husband and Tay’s brother) joins us for a peek into Dad life with a rapid-fire round, stories from the front lines, and a lively discussion about whether parenting has actually gotten harder—or if millennials are simply opting in.  OUR INSTAGRAM OUR TIKTOK OUR YOUTUBE Hosted on Ac...

This week, we realize we're all just one confession away from being the weird one in the group. Taylor's engagement party guests learn about her deeply unsettling cereal habits, Whitney recounts her date night that goes spectacularly wrong, and the new season of Couple's Therapy delivers a revelation neither of us was prepared for: people pay other people to cuddle them. Let’s unpack it.  OUR...

This week, we're covering a lot of ground. We debrief Taylor's engagement party (including the moments that made her cry), unpack the Summer House reunion, and take a forensic-level look at the body language from Taylor and Martin's earliest dates. Plus: a spirited discussion about hand-holding, why the book Strangers has us in a heated debate about what we'd do if our husbands cheated. It's relat...

Because every summer starts with a vision board and ends with a sunburn—Taylor and Whit are back with Part 2 of their Summer Bucket Lists! Taylor recaps a whirlwind 48 hours in Paris, where she attempted to channel effortless French-girl energy and discovered that simply being in France does not, in fact, make you French. Meanwhile, Whit has her sights set on a major adult milestone: purchasing he...

This week, Tay + Whit unveil their extremely ambitious summer bucket lists — which somehow include foil boarding, camping, learning TikTok, and Tay possibly dissolving her face ahead of her wedding. It’s summer optimism season, baby. Delusion is back. OUR INSTAGRAM OUR TIKTOK OUR YOUTUBE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You guys. We made it!!!  This week, recap the absolutely deranged Season 1 finale of The Valley — and honestly? Emmy consideration for whoever edited this fever dream together. Jax opens his sports bar, outtfitted like a Rainforest Cafe, Zach finally snaps and Jesse suggests Michelle save their marriage through daily affirmations like she’s being held hostage in a self-help cult. Also discuss...

This week on How Are We Forty?, we recap Episode 11 of The Valley — aka “Darkside Danny,” which is rich considering Jax and Jesse are out here behaving like actual sleep paralysis demons while Danny’s greatest crime is…having feelings? The gang is somehow STILL in Big Bear (this trip has lasted longer than some wars), Janet throws the most aggressively Pinterest-2012 baby shower imaginable, Jesse...

This week, Whit + Julia compare notes about pandemic pregnancies, parenting chaotic kindergarteners, and a shared comic crush on the one and only Nathan Fiedler. They get into intrusive thoughts, the hypocrisy of the “hot mom," and why humor might be the only sane response to it all. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your resident Bravo expert (Tay’s Dad) is back for another recap of the greatest show on television—and this episode is a gift . The Big Bear babymoon has officially gone rogue with unresolved tension bubbling over. From Jax’s full-blown rage spiral to Jesse’s porch therapy session, it’s emotional chaos at altitude. OUR INSTAGRAM OUR TIKTOK OUR YOUTUBE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for mo...

Breaking news: Tay is engaged!!! This week, we get the full story—one that involved method-acting, a blackout-level shock response and undercover operatives.  Also discussed: how engagement bliss lasts exactly three days before you become a human spreadsheet, why wedding dresses take 4–6 months to make (???), and panic-googling wedding timelines. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for mor...

This week, Tay is joined by a very special guest—her dad—who comes in with the hot takes (and honestly? some extremely valid opinions). Together, they break down the cast’s trip to Big Bear, Janet’s covert mean girl antics, Jesse’s ayahuasca-induced ego trip (spoiler: his takeaway is… he’s perfect?), and Michelle being confronted about cheating rumors.  It’s messy, chaotic—and apparently now...

We’re back with another round of Unqualified Advice from your favorite life coaches —aka two women with strong opinions and zero credentials. A packed advice episode featuring: unwanted fitness friendships, soft-launch drama and lying about your age. This is not professional advice, but it is correct. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s HAW40’s b-day!!! This week, we reflect on how this podcast started (as a coping mechanism, obviously), what we’ve learned after 12 months of oversharing, and why we’re still doing this. Plus, Whit recaps her Universal Studios trip and a dental meltdown that truly tests her will to live. Equal parts heartfelt and unhinged—just how we like it. OUR INSTAGRAM OUR TIKTOK OUR YOUTUBE Hosted on Acas...

Tay’s solo this week and she’s connecting the dots like CSI: Bravo. From secret texts to group chat removals, this episode is basically a masterclass in how to implode a friend group. Secrets are revealed (Tay believes in them!). We get into Jax’s chaos agent behavior, Janet’s villain arc, and the Big Bear trip that’s already cursed before it even starts. OUR INSTAGRAM OUR TIKTOK OUR YOUTUBE Hoste...

Whit chats with journalist and author Fortesa Latifi about her eye-opening book LIKE, FOLLOW, SUBSCRIBE : Influencer Kids and the Cost of a Childhood Online . From toddler TikTok stars to full-blown family vlog empires, they unpack the booming industry built on kids’ lives—and what it actually means to grow up with your most vulnerable moments living online forever. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/...

This episode has everything: Jax admitting he runs a full-blown gossip operation, Janet cosplaying as “above the drama” while stirring it nonstop, and Jesse’s chest making an aggressive, non-consensual appearance. We unpack all of it and why this entire group needs to be studied by a team of scientists. OUR INSTAGRAM OUR TIKTOK OUR YOUTUBE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more informatio...

This week, we talk all things Easter—and quickly realize how chaotic and unhinged this holiday really is. We unpack the lore, the candy, and the questions no one is asking. Plus: our quiet hatred of jelly beans, egg hunt glory, demonic Peeps and the discovery of long-forgotten eggs in Whit’s house. OUR INSTAGRAM OUR TIKTOK OUR YOUTUBE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We watched The Valley so you don’t have to—and this episode is EVERYTHING.  From Jesse’s ayahuasca “therapy” to Jax quietly detonating multiple marriages, we break down the rumor mill, the finances that are absolutely not adding up, and the dinner from hell that finally blows the Kristen/Michelle situation wide open. Plus: Luke’s off-the-grid pioneer lifestyle, a reptile reveal that changes e...

This week, we’re joined by writer Ej Dickson to talk about her phenomenal new book " One Bad Mother ." In it, she unpacks the myth of the “bad mom”—where it comes from, who it benefits, and why so many women feel like they’re failing at something no one defined in the first place. We get into mom guilt, perfectionism, identity spirals, and the systems that benefit from women constantly second-gues...

We watched The Valley so you don’t have to—and this episode is pure chaos. From Brittany’s blackout girls’ trip to Jesse and Michelle’s slow-motion divorce, the cracks are officially impossible to ignore. This week, we unpack the mystery of the “hot director,” Janet’s elite-level pot stirring, and the truly upsetting sight of Jesse wearing a fedora.  Plus: postpartum honesty, sex drought disc...

In part 2 of our breakdown of the NYT’s 35 Rules for Modern Dating, w e get into avoidant partners, meeting the parents timeline, moving in together, and why modern dating’s obsession with being “nonchalant” might be the thing ruining everyone’s love life.  OUR INSTAGRAM OUR TIKTOK OUR YOUTUBE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We watched the Valley so you don’t have to.  Chaos picks up exactly where the Capri-themed dinner fight left off — and somehow things only get messier. The group continues to pile onto Kristen, Janet keeps stirring the pot and Jax reveals he may not fully understand what a book is. We unpack the manipulation, the gaslighting, and all the unhinged drama.  OUR INSTAGRAM OUR TIKTOK OUR...

The New York Times just published “ 35 Rules for Modern Dating,” and we have thoughts. In Part 1, we break down the first half of the list — from therapy-culture oversharing to why texting has turned dating into a psychological strategy game, and the complicated timing of first-time sex .  At this point, modern dating is basically a social experiment happening in iMessage.  OUR INST...