Hopeful Aromantic

Today we’re going through a non-exhaustive guide of questions you want to consider while getting to know people. You can also use these to re-evaluate any current relationships in your life to better understand who you choose to be with and how they do or don’t mesh with your values and preferences. Surface level: What's their vibe? How do they speak about themselves? How do they speak about o...

By now, AI has infiltrated just about every aspect of our lives to where it seems like there’s no escape. While CEO’s are threatening us to adopt or get left behind, our real human relationships are begging for us to log off, put the device away, and be here now. What’s the middle ground? And how can we shape what we want our futures to look like? In this episode, we explore: How depending on AI f...

What if discipline is just making a decision? What does it look like to move away from carceral, capitalist definitions of what it means to be disciplined toward a more neutral, self-led definition? In a world where we’re overtly and covertly told how to live, it’s more important than ever to be sovereign in how we move through our relationships. In this episode, we explore: Why traditional defini...

Settling is never worth it! To settle in relationships, career, business, or life usually comes from roots of scarcity and fear. Tapping into possibility and expanding your sense of trust and belief is what brings you into honest connections. In this episode, we explore: Common beliefs behind settling Why it’s not worth trying to make unaligned situations work Fear of settling Clarifying your desi...

When romance is prioritized over all other types of connection, we end up missing out on a lot. If you’re looking to cultivate real, authentic, connection, it starts with questioning the stories we’ve been sold about love and relationships so we can create space for possibility… including but not limited to, better friendships. In this episode, we explore: The power of authentic connection Romance...

Being able to connect with others means first connecting deeply with yourself, by yourself. Labels and identities aside, what does it look like to fully be with oneself? To live life where you are at the center of it? In this episode, we explore: Embracing periods of freedom and solitude Detachment Meeting your needs Life as a personal experiment Living in full presence Homework at 24:02 - Imagina...

This week we’re breaking down romantic tropes and myths vs. true intimacy using scenes from THE DRAMA (2026). Warning: there are light character development spoilers within, but the main plot twist will not be revealed, however feel free to bookmark this one and come back to it if you want to go into the movie totally blind. In this episode, we explore: Romance as performance Why intimacy can’t be...

Writer Carina Hsieh coined the term situationship in Cosmopolitan back in the 2010’s as “a hookup with emotional benefits”. It’s 2026 and it seems like since then, people have only grown more uncertain, more fearful, yet crave that emotional closeness more than ever. How did we get here, but more importantly, how do we move forward? In this episode, we explore: Romantic propaganda The myth of not...

When it comes to dating, all you have to do is find that one person, The One, and then all will be well. Right? What if I told you that was the easiest part? If all you do is work on becoming the version of you who can be in that relationship, it will all flow. This week we will get into the energetics and mechanics of finding someone who matches your freq. In this episode, we explore: Quantum lea...

Social skills are an art and not a science. While dating, friendship, and relationship building often feel confusing and overwhelming, the greatest tool we can rely on is our intuition. This week we unpack limiting ways of seeing relationships so we can turn inwards instead. In this episode, we explore: Questioning common relationship advice The limitations of reducing people to types How white su...

***My apologies! The file I uploaded got a little deep fried and I didn't have time to re-record it. Sorry for the audio quality this week. It’s my birthday week! I’m looking back on my last year of evolution and learning to finally chill out and let go of control. We dive into how I implement taoism and anticapitalism into personal growth and relationship building. In this episode, we explore...

What purpose and function does a crush serve if we remove it from dominant narratives of romance, attraction, and pursuit? How can we learn more about ourselves from crushing? And how can aromantic and asexual frameworks expand what it means to have a crush? In this episode, we explore: The creative process Crushes as a form of play Redefining crushes outside of dominant norms Imagination as a too...

Straight forward, no-nonsense, no-bullshit dating advice. In this episode, we explore: How overthinking in dating prevents us from presence How to filter out bad dating advice The importance of knowing yourself Understanding your values, wants, needs, and patterns The power of saying no How to not settle: being strict and brave Relationship energy leaks How committing to yourself sustains momentum...

Happily ever after is just a myth and fantasy. Our culture tells us that marriage will bring us lifelong happiness, fulfillment, and most of all, a deep sense of security… but does it really? The stories we’re sold about love, relationships, and romance teach us to put our sense of security outside of ourselves, when in reality it’s something that exists within. In this episode, we explore: Romanc...

So you want to overhaul your life? Look no further. We only want things because it’s possible to have them, otherwise we wouldn’t have the desire. Consider this your high level how-to guide on how to totally transform your reality. In this episode, we explore how to: Make a decision and commit to it Expand your sense of possibility Change your beliefs Notice your patterns and break them Take align...

Ghosting: we’ve all experienced it, and most of us have done it to others. In today’s hyper-connected world, the expectation to always be available and transparent over communication has complicated what it means to end things. How do we deal with silence? When might we be over-communicating? And how do we handle uncertainty with compassion? In this episode, we explore: Relationship endings "...

What do we do when we want to get closer to people but it just feels way too scary? All relationship building requires some degree of risk and uncertainty, and in order to navigate that, it requires us to befriend the fear we feel. In this episode, we explore: Friction-Maxxing: Embracing discomfort for growth Vulnerability and taking small risks of rejection How to process fear instead of avoiding...

We all know the phrase “if he wanted to, he would”, but how many times have we wanted to, and we didn’t? The reality is that our wants are shaped by the world we live in, and as much as we would like it to be, it’s never really all that simple. There are journal prompts at the end of the episode to help you get more clear on what you want. Enjoy! In this episode, we explore: Internet advice overlo...

Have you ever met someone in a relationship with someone they don’t fully accept? What’s going on there? How do we end up in these situations and what do we do if we’re in one right now? Acceptance in all forms is foundational for healthy relationships and as always, it all starts with ourselves. In this episode, we explore: The role of acceptance in relationships Dating projects and potential Und...

What does it mean to do something in a performative way? How is that different from being authentic? and how can we tell the difference? In this episode, we explore: The rise of performative behavior Understanding authenticity vs. performance The importance of discernment in relationships Intent vs. action Shifting internal beliefs for external change Book a free 30-minute coaching consult call ⁠h...

Even when it feels like the odds are stacked against us, we still have choice and agency. Practicing the ability to find and cultivate hope is an essential skill, especially in today’s turbulent world. In this episode, we explore: Survival states and how they limit our ability to see Capitalism as a force that restricts imagination Modern dating as a survival game Sustainable action and creation T...

In the beginning... there was nothing. And nothing is where everything is born. Welcome to the first episode of the Hopeful Aromantic podcast <3 In this episode, we explore: Redefining love and relationships Understanding emotional intimacy Aromantic and asexual identities as a paradigm Absence as a site of possibility Embracing space and stillness Surrender and letting go Books mentioned: Refu...