Honey, We’re Not Okay!

The season one finale is finally here! We’ve officially made it through eleven episodes of deep dives, hard truths, and a whole lot of chaos. In this finale, we’re looking back at the journey of Honey, We're Not Okay —from navigating the messy world of queer dating to all of the unlearning we’ve done along the way. In this episode, we talk about: Season 1 Highlights: A recap of our favorite mo...

We’re opening the floor to your most intrusive questions—and we aren’t holding back. 🏳️‍🌈 This week, we’re stepping away from the scripts to answer the anonymous questions you sent us on Instagram. We’re getting into the parts of our experience that we usually only talk about in the group chat: from the cliquey nature of our community to the exhaustion of the "savior complex" in toxic r...

Is there only one way to love, or have we just been sold a dream that doesn’t fit? 🏡 This week on Honey, We’re Not Okay! , we’re putting monogamy and polyamory side-by-side to see where we actually land. We’re getting honest about the "Standard American Dream" of one partner and why that feels like a cage to some and a safety net to others. From Meccah's experience navigating multip...

Are you the one double-texting, or the one leaving them on read for three days? 📱 This week on Honey, We’re Not Okay! , Valerie and Meccah are diving into the world of attachment theory . We’re taking the attachment style quiz and getting honest about our results—from being "secure" at work to "preoccupied" in romance. We also discuss how coming out and dating women completely...

Welcome back to Honey, We're Not Okay with Valerie and Meccah. In case you were wondering, we’re still not okay. This week, we are having an honest conversation about the intersection of spirituality, manifestation, and the reality of day-to-day stress. We often hear about the "perfect" spiritual routine, but what happens when life gets overwhelming and those habits fall to the waysi...

Welcome back to Honey, We're Not Okay! Hosted by your fav two chaotic Black queers, Valerie and Meccah. Today's episode is all about our experiences handling conflict, jealousy, and discomfort with other women. We discuss: How socialization, individualism, and culture play a role in why conflict between women hits different Biphobia in the queer community The illusion of competition Cultivating a...

Welcome back to Honey, We're Not Okay with your two favorite chaotic Black queers, Valerie and Meccah! In case you were wondering, we’re still not okay. Today, we’re diving into a heavy but necessary topic: the "Relationship Audition." Have you ever felt like you were performing just to be liked? We explore why so many of us feel the need to "audition" for a spot in someone...

Are you dating by the "blueprint" or are you actually free? This week, Valerie and Meccah—your favorite chaotic Black queers—dive into the complex world of gender norms within the queer community . We’re deconstructing why so many queer relationships try to mimic heteronormative dynamics and why we need to trade "roles" for "balance." Valerie shares her experience of...

Are dating apps actually okay? This week, Valerie and Meccah—your favorite feral femmes—explore the current state of dating apps though a queer lens. We’re ranking everything from the "mature" vibes of Hinge to the "fine shit" we’re finding on the HER app lately. We discuss why the HER app has officially fixed its reputation to become a top contender and how Tinder managed to become a consistent p...

We’re putting the 'K' in Kinky (and the 'C' in Chaotic). This week on Honey, We’re Not Okay! , From debating the ethics of the BDSM test during Black History Month to Valerie’s "respectful gay panic" at a Korean spa, we’re covering it all. We talk about the art of Shibari, why "Strong Hands" are a requirement, and why aftercare is non-negotiable—because nobody w...

Welcome back to Honey, We’re Not Okay! With your favorite chaotic Black queers, Valerie and Meccah. In this episode, we’re diving deep into the messy, funny, and sometimes exhausting journey of coming out. Before we get into our own stories, we take a trip down memory lane to discuss our first same-sex crushes. From childhood flings with best friends to realizations sparked by the "Comfy Couc...

Welcome to the very first episode of Honey, We’re Not Okay! We’re kicking things off by pulling back the curtain on our lives as Black queer women navigating the desert heat of Arizona. This isn’t just a podcast; it’s a raw, authentic space where we spill the tea on our personal growth, spirituality, and—most importantly—our chaotic dating lives. In this episode, we’re diving into the deep end of...