Honey, We Need to Chat

Ever find yourself saying, "That's not what I meant!" after a conversation spirals out of control? Or maybe your partner’s words always seem to come out wrong, sparking frustration instead of connection. In this practical episode of Honey, We Need to Chat , we're tackling how to overcome clumsy communication, decode mixed messages, and finally say what you mean, clearly and const...

Struggling with blunt comments, sarcastic jabs, or misunderstood intentions in your relationship? This episode of Honey, We Need to Chat cuts straight to practical tools and honest insights to decode hidden messages, manage emotional triggers, and navigate tough conversations effectively. Break negative patterns and reconnect with your partner. Perfect for couples ready for clear, constructive com...

In this eye-opening episode of Honey, We Need to Chat , Amy and Blair dive deep into the other side of the mental load conversation, exploring what it might feel like to be the partner on the receiving end, from real life stories. Are they really ignoring the invisible labour… or just overwhelmed in their own way? Featuring real Reddit stories and brutally honest forum comments, this episode unpac...

You finally brought up the mental load. You found the words. You mustered the courage. And then… nothing. Maybe they shut down. Maybe they pushed back. Maybe the conversation just fell flat. In this powerful follow-up to our original Mental Load episode, we unpack what happens when that invisible labour finally gets named, but the conversation doesn’t land. Whether you're met with defensivenes...

What’s the feeling you can’t even name, let alone share? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we’re diving deep into the emotional undercurrents that silently shape our reactions, create disconnection, and quietly erode intimacy. We explore the concept of unbearable feelings, those overwhelming emotions like shame, hyper-responsibility, fear of being too much or not enough, and how they mani...

Ever feel like you're speaking two different languages in your marriage? Or wonder why your partner shuts down when you bring something up? We sat down with Sam and Liv Ramsden (aka Mr. & Mrs. Silly Stories for Kids ) to explore what really goes on under the surface when we miss each other in conflict. This one’s packed with honest conversation, real-life tools, and the kind of grace that...

In this revealing episode, we dive into the powerful concept of unspoken contracts - the invisible rules and assumptions quietly shaping your relationship. From mental load to emotional shutdown, financial habits to intimacy dynamics, we’ll help you uncover the hidden systems that might be leaving you feeling stuck, resentful, or disconnected. Through relatable real-life examples, Amy and Blair sh...

Welcome to Honey, We Need to Chat, where we dig deep into the real struggles couples face , from silent resentment to those tricky conversations that can make or break a relationship . In this episode, we uncover the hidden habit of scorekeeping in relationships, what it is, why it happens, and how to stop it. Whether you’re feeling unseen, unheard, or just overwhelmed , we’ll share practical tool...

Ever wonder why you react the way you do in conflict, or why certain habits feel impossible to break? In this episode, Blair gets coached live by Amy using the “Six Core Human Needs” framework to explore what truly drives our behaviour in relationships. From control issues to chasing dopamine hits, we unpack how unmet needs shape our communication, emotions, and connection. Whether you’re craving...

Why do the smallest things trigger the biggest arguments? In this episode, we unpack the sneaky, subtle unmet needs that quietly shape our relationship dynamics, often without us realising it. From rejected dinners to phone use tensions and dead bedrooms, we explore real Reddit stories that show how core emotional needs go unspoken and how that misfires into conflict. You'll learn: What unmet need...

Feel like you and your partner keep missing each other emotionally? Do you shut down when things get tense or over-explain to get back on the same page? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat , we unpack how attachment styles shape the way couples communicate, fight, and try to reconnect. We break down the three main attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant) where they come from, and ho...

Money stress can quietly erode trust in a relationship, but it doesn't have to. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat , we sit down with our friends Phil and Kate Thompson to share real-life lessons about navigating finances as a team. From starting marriage with nothing to building a business and raising a family, they open up about what worked, what didn't, and what they wish more co...

The silent treatment might seem like a quiet moment to cool off—but we’ve seen how it can loudly erode trust, create emotional distance, and chip away at connection over time. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat , we’re diving into the real cost of the silent treatment in relationships. We talk about why people withdraw, what’s actually happening in your brain during emotional shutdown, and...

In this raw and honest episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we dive into one of the most misunderstood yet widespread relationship challenges, burnout. Whether you’re the one feeling physically, emotionally, or mentally drained, or you're supporting a partner through exhaustion, this episode will resonate deeply. We unpack what burnout actually looks like in a relationship, the cultural lies tha...

This powerful episode of Honey, We Need to Chat welcomes Andrew and Kayte Kitchen (creatives, therapists, and real-life warriors) into a vulnerable and deeply encouraging conversation. What makes this episode especially moving is that they didn’t wait until things were resolved to speak. Andrew and Kayte joined us while still walking through a hard season in their marriage and work life, a rare an...

This episode is a little different — we weren’t in the same place when we recorded. With Blair away for work, we decided to try something new: answering all our questions separately… without hearing each other’s responses first. 👀 What followed was fun, real, and surprisingly deep. We shared what it’s like being apart, how we stay connected in busy seasons, and what we appreciate (and miss) most...

In this milestone episode of Honey, We Need to Chat , we celebrate one year of their podcast by diving deep into a raw and real conversation about navigating relationships through the chaos of parenting . From real-life Reddit stories to our own experiences, we unpack: The parenting-relationship imbalance many couples face How to put your relationship first without neglecting your kids Miscommunic...

🎙️ Feeling frustrated that your partner "should know" how to love you? Think love languages are the answer — but still feel disconnected? In this powerful episode of Honey, We Need to Chat , we dive deep into how love languages are misunderstood, overused, and sometimes misused — and why understanding them properly could change your relationship forever . We unpack: 💡 The biggest miscon...

In this powerful episode of Honey, We Need to Chat , we sit down with bestselling authors Sheila and Keith Gregoire to discuss why traditional views on intimacy may be hurting your relationship more than helping. 🔥 What you'll learn in this episode: ✅ Why prioritising sex might be the wrong approach (and what to focus on instead) ✅ The five key ingredients to a healthy, fulfilling intimate...

What happens when you discover something unexpected on your partner’s phone ? We’re diving into Reddit relationship dramas , covering phone privacy, trust issues, and job loss struggles . We also explore compassion fatigue in relationships —how to support your partner without burning out. Plus, we discuss the role of open communication in overcoming tough times . 🎙️ Subscribe now for raw, real, an...

Join us for an extra Reddit Story all about not feeling appreciated!

We’ve talked about the mental load before, but what about the emotional load ? That invisible, often unspoken burden that one partner silently carries in a relationship? In today’s episode of Honey, We Need to Chat , we’re diving into real REDDIT STORIES that expose the struggles of feeling unappreciated, unsupported, and unseen at home. From partners who do all the planning and organising to thos...

Join us as we dive deep into Emotional Load in relationships.

You might be carrying a hidden weight in your relationship—and so might your partner. In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat , we dive into the invisible emotional load many people carry without realising it. From managing conflicts, anticipating needs, and diffusing tension to remembering birthdays and keeping the peace, emotional labor is often an unspoken burden that can impact intimacy, con...

Join us this week as we dive into our first ever Reality Check Corner of the HWNTC podcast. This wee we're chatting all about communication loops you may find yourself stuck in in your relationship.