Honesty On The Table

If you are not competitive in life, you are bound to fail. Simple. The moment you do not feel you should have to compete for anything worth having, you will fail because that is not reality. Whether you are dating, seeking better career opportunities, or finding ways to empower and nurture your emotional and personal wellbeing, just know that you are not alone. You will be challenged to be better,...

It is necessary to prioritize self care because without it, you are bound to fail. Rather, success is always achieved when optimal self preservation is applied. From hygiene, manscaping, therapy, and more, the Gentlemen of HOTT pulled no punches in telling how they keep their mind, bodies, and spirits aligned. It is a episode full of self care gems and laughs.

When you know your worth, you do not compromise. Further, you do not apologize for knowing your worth. Rather, communicate fluidly with the people you are in relationships with (intimate, familial, professional) who you are, your principles & rationale, and how you both can align your intentions and actions for a mutual benefit. The goal within a relationship is establish how you all can be th...

There is tension in the culture in regards to there being a lack of accountability. Whether it is among Black Women, Black Men, the System, whomever or whatever, there has been a call for people to step up and take responsibility for their actions; however, that cannot and will not happen if people lack emotional intelligence. If they do not understand and seek to master that, they will not take a...

You are dating, getting to know someone, but you do not want to be pressed or come off as too aggressive or thirsty? Be consistently inconsistent. It is important to establish a healthy balance of engagement and wonder throughout the duration of your relationships to keep yourself and the person as honest and committed as possible, to determine whether it is something you both want. Plus, when peo...

Now that we have reviewed the stages of dating leading to a fruitful relationship in the season premiere, let's go back to the first stage then build, dating. When you are dating, you are getting to know someone to gauge their attractiveness, competence, and healthiness beyond the surface. How do we achieve that? We do so with the CCU: Consistency, Communication, & Understanding. If you don't...

We apologize for the 9 month lag, but we had to birth something new. We made a slight pivot with our content focus to discuss Lifestyle, Relationships, and Self Improvement, so we begin this first episode of Season III discussing, clarifying one of the biggest topics we all struggle with at times, relationships. What are the stages leading to a fulfilling relationship? What is dating? What is cour...

The Season Recap is here! In Episode 18, we will discuss all that we left off the table throughout the season, notably our Top 5s! As brothers of Honesty On The Table, we thank you for sticking beside us. We know we have a lot to build upon and even more to learn from these past two seasons. We are not satisfied yet grateful for the journey traveled thus far. We will see you in May!

'Comin' from where I'm from' is the Season II Finale that pays homage to all of the lessons we learned in the last thirty years of life and what we hope to accomplish in the next thirty. With the whole world of opportunity in front of us, we had to reflect and understand where we came from to appreciate where we are going. We hope you enjoyed this season as much as we enjoyed you. Stay tuned for t...

As a podcast and brand, one of our goals were to implement community service and engagement into the fold. As an episode or an off the record practice, we wanted to connect with young Black men who may need our guidance, as much as we seek understanding and wisdom from them, to learn how we can best fortify a community of innovators, leaders, and upstanding Black men. Thus, we visited Booker T. Wa...

Black Progress...and Regress. We're in 2023 and there's a lot to be thankful for. We have made it to another year, another opportunity of continuance but we cannot proceed in our evolution without admitting the faults, flaws, and bad habits that could stunt it. As "The Accountability Podcast" and as Black Men, let's have the conversation. Are we, as a Black community, as fulfilled, progressive, co...

Self preservation is key. This is a statement we have to embody to able to exemplify our best selves, no matter how much we are challenged or things that are not in alignment with what we expect. Maintaining our peace, understanding, and mental health are paramount. According to the CDC, 'Mental Health' is someone's social, psychological, and emotional wellbeing. So, when we refer to mental health...

The FIVE Can Kill A Man! What the hell are The FIVE?! Fear. Insecurities. Vices. Ego. Men hesitate unpacking these four themes in thinking that it could demean their sense of value, self-esteem, and control in life yet, there is nothing more liberating, strengthening, and affirming than to express how fear, insecurities, vices, and ego takes shape in one's life. One of the keys of self-mastery is...

Black Fathers Are Irreplaceable. Regardless of where we were and stood in our young adult life with our fathers, we longed, valued, and cherished having a healthy, open, and restorative relationship with them. The humorous aspect of being someone's child is that no matter where we are in the world and where we stand with them, we still hope for them to be there in our corner. We still have to ackn...

"If I didn't have the music, I don't know where I would be". "I cannot live without music". "I love classic 80s, 90s R&B to Kings of Leon. There's no limits. If it is good, I'll rock with it". Music is the topic of discussion on this episode, if you can't already tell. The HOTT boys unpack the songs we all love to sing in the shower and the songs we sing while we cuddle the pillow, in a fetal...

It would have been foolish to close out our first season without a season recap episode. Thus, we reviewed the highs and lows of the season, covered topics that were left uncovered, and delved deeper into areas that, in some aspects, we wish could have investigated sooner, personally and as a collective. Nonetheless, this was a celebratory event. Bottles were popped, we came sharply dressed for th...

Who don’t love Black Women?! We certainly do! “It’s the essence of Black woman that I love. From the way you walk, talk, smell, act, everything!” “Black women are the cheat code. I wouldn’t be where I am today, literally, figuratively, personally, if it weren’t for a Black woman”. “At times of my deepest or lowest point, she always made sure I felt safe and was encouraged”. “I love the way Black w...

family. name. wealth. longevity. immorality. Legacy. What does legacy mean to you? Who are your "legacy influencers", those you admire and aspire to duplicate in principles and actions to cultivate your own legacy? What are some things you learned from your family history that influence your present, your future? What are generational positives you will keep? What are generational curses you will...

What is success? What does it mean to be successful? Is it in the milestones, the recognition, the financial gains, the assets? Everyone wants everlasting success but what is also housed in every success story are sacrifices, doubt, failure, and questions. Questions of whether success benefits those around them as well as themselves, whether success would have arrived sooner if chosen another path...

It was inevitable that this conversation arrived at our table. "What it means to be Black in America? Is it any easier, or more progressive, as a Black millennial today?" You tell us.

In Episode V, the gentlemen of HOTT unpack the power and influence of education in the United States. Among the minority and low income communities across the country, acquiring a formal education is generally marketed to be one of the most effective, legal tracks to generational wealth. However, is that true? Presently, in hopes of gratifying this “wealth theory”, students are registering for maj...

After the consensual engagements between the sheets of beds, couches, and Tulum BnBs, Life inevitably throws a situational curveball that physical intimacy brings--questions of commitment and if the sexual partner could be "The One". As tension mounts one ponders, "Where will this go?" "Outside of sex, how much do I care about this person?" "Do I like them? Even worse, am I fond of them enough to...

Following an identity, manhood conversation, it is only necessary and provocative to discuss one of the ways we use and embrace our manhood, through sex. Please be advised, we are NOT going to be explicit about positions, partner preferences, or body counts. We're going to go deeper than that. Despite this description being succinct, we assure you that the episode will satisfy and exceed expectati...

As we dive into the season, we acknowledge that marriage, or any lifetime commitment, is worthless without personal investment and mastering self-awareness. Thus, we must ask, "How did we become the man, woman, non-binary person we are today?" "Who, and under what circumstances, has assisted us in establishing this identity and are we more true to ourselves or to an ideal?" As black boys, our firs...

Prior to delivering this first entrée of social thought and brotherly banter to your listening and viewing tables, we provided samplers to some of our trusted people. A popular reaction would be, "What do you know about marriage and you’re not married?". Our reply was, “Why wait to experience and learn on the fly when you can be proactive? The preparation is just as important, if not more, than th...