Home Girls Unite

In this episode, Yasin and Kiran explore why so many eldest daughters find it easier to spend money, buy gifts, and provide for others than they do for themselves. From treating family and friends to luxury items, celebrating other people's milestones, and showing love through giving, many eldest daughters have mastered the art of caring for others, but struggle when it comes to receiving that...

In this week's episode, Yasin and Kiran unpack two eldest daughter confessions that will resonate with so many women navigating responsibility, family expectations, and healing. The first confession comes from an eldest daughter whose mother moved to another country, leaving her to raise and care for her younger siblings. Together, they explore the emotional impact of parentification, the weig...

This week, we explore financial and economic abuse through the lens of the eldest daughter experience. From being expected to financially support family members, sacrificing personal goals, managing household responsibilities, or carrying the economic burden of an entire family, many eldest daughters experience forms of financial control that are rarely discussed. We unpack what financial and econ...

This week, Kiran and Yasin explore two confessions. One story unpacks the emotional burden of constantly fixing parents’ problems while receiving little support in return. The second follows an eldest daughter beginning to prioritise her own happiness, set boundaries, and rediscover joy beyond responsibility. A conversation about parentification, emotional labour, healing, and learning to choose y...

This week, Yasin and Kiran discuss what it’s like visiting home after moving out as an eldest daughter — and the emotional shifts that come with creating distance, independence, and a new life. They also discuss life in NYC, missing home and creating new community and friendships. Lastly, they talk about some of the eldest daughter traits they are working to unlearn. You can watch this episode on...

This week, Yasin and Kiran respond to your eldest daughter's confessions, unpacking the emotional weight of boundaries, family expectations, and burnout. We hear from: An eldest daughter dating another eldest daughter, but noticing the difference in how their families respond to boundaries, where one is supported, and the other is labelled “moody” or “rude” An eldest daughter who is constantly...

In this weeks episode, Yasin and Kiran explore how immigration, birth order, and family expectations shape the opportunities available to eldest daughters. Kiran reflects on growing up as a second-generation daughter , where she had access to extracurricular activities and creative opportunities. Yasin shares her experience as a first-generation eldest daughter , where the focus was on academia, r...

In this week's episode, Yasin and Kiran respond to anonymous confession s about dating, marriage regret and family pressure. This episode explores the complex realities many eldest daughters face when it comes to love, duty, and autonomy, especially within cultural and family expectations You can watch this episode on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a RANT session ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ....

In this episode, Yasin and Kiran explore a rarely discussed but critical topic: how being an eldest daughter can increase vulnerability to exploitation, including human trafficking for sexual exploitation . Through reflection and research, they unpack how parentification, family pressure, and cultural expectations can shape eldest daughters into being highly responsible, self-sacrificing, and cond...

In this episode, Yasin and Kiran respond to confessions from eldest daughters — opening up to honest conversations about guilt, family pressure, and emotional responsibility. We hear from: An eldest daughter who feels guilty about moving away from her family An eldest daughter who feels stuck in the middle of her parents’ issues Many eldest daughters grow up being the mediator, the fixer, and the...

In this episode , we explore how being an eldest or parentified daughter shapes the way we show up in friendships, from always being the “strong one” to struggling with vulnerability, boundaries, and asking for support. Many eldest daughters grow up prioritising others, managing emotions, and taking on responsibility early. But in adulthood, this can make it harder to build balanced, reciprocal fr...

What do you do when your parents demand grandchildren, but they are the reason you don't want any? This week, we tackle the reality of eldest daughters who are burnt out from raising their own parents and siblings. We also explore a confession about the hidden stress of having a pet when you are already responsible for everyone else. You can watch this episode on ⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠ Book a RANT sessio...

Why do so many eldest daughters become high achievers, and why does it often lead to burnout? In this episode, Kiran and Yasin explore the unique pressure placed on eldest daughters and parentified daughters to succeed, be responsible, and hold their families together. Many eldest daughters grow up being the reliable one, the helper, the role model, the emotional support system. Over time, this re...

Are you the family ATM? 💸 This week, we go through some eldest daughter confessions. We discuss how to handle toxic family dynamics, especially when you are forced to take on financial responsibility for your parents. We share stories from listeners, including one who secretly worked for four years to save money to run away. We also provide a resource pack and database for eldest daughters who wa...

If you grew up feeling like the "third parent" in your house, this episode is for you. We sat down to talk about the heavy burden placed on eldest daughters—especially in immigrant families. We discuss why setting boundaries feels like a crime, why being called "selfish" should actually be a compliment , and how to finally stop throwing yourself under the bus just to keep the p...

This week, Kiran and Yasin look at some confessions from eldest daughters. They discuss the importance of standing up for yourself as an eldest daughter. How to deal with misogynistic parents and siblings, and also the importance of calling people out who mistreat you Book a RANT session ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Fin...

This week, Xenia and Yasin look at some confessions sent in by eldest daughters. Book a RANT session ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find us on  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ,  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  and  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us:  hello@homegirlsunite.com

Yasin and Kiran are back after a well-deserved hiatus! In this episode, they dive into the world of Desperate Housewives , unpacking the dynamic between Lynette and Tom and how it reflects the struggles of eldest daughters everywhere. From managing responsibilities to navigating relationships, they explore why eldest daughters often carry the emotional and mental load—both on screen and in real li...

This week, we’re joined by Ayushi to explore the highs and lows of moving back home after experiencing the freedom of university life. We delve into the challenges of navigating life under your parents’ roof again and share insights on maintaining healthy friendships, especially when the responsibilities of being an eldest daughter come into play. Book a RANT session ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ....

This week, Kiran and Yasin look at some confessions sent in by eldest daughters. Book a RANT session ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find us on  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ,  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  and  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us:  hello@homegirlsunite.com

In this episode, Yasin and Yasmin discuss resentment and how it manifests in different relationships—whether with siblings, friends, or even in the workplace. The discussion centres around how unresolved tensions, unspoken frustrations, and unfairness can build up over time, often leading to a deep-seated resentment. Book a RANT session ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Anonymously send your eldest daug...

This week, Kiran and Yasin look at some confessions sent in by eldest daughters. Book a RANT session ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find us on  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ,  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  and  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us:  hello@homegirlsunite.com

CONTENT WARNING: TALK OF SUICIDE This week, Zoha joined us to share her PhD journey, the challenges she faced, and the key realizations along the way. We also delved into family dynamics, including her brother's struggles with disability, mental health, and a suicide attempt. Lastly, we explored her experience of supporting her mum through therapy and being there for her sisters. Book a RANT s...

We're sorry we've been away. This week, Yasin and Kiran discuss Yasin's new role as a married eldest daughter. The girls also discuss how family can dismiss your needs and often fail to support you when needed. Finally, we discuss how our upbringing has impacted our emotions as eldest daughters. Book a RANT session ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Anonymously send your eldest daughter confe...

This week, Yasin and Kiran speak about their different life events and what this means for Home Girls in the future. Book a RANT session ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find us on  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ,  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  and  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email us:  hello@homegirlsunite.com