Hilda's Shoulder

Money can be a touchy subject for couples dating. Our culture vests the responsibility of spending on the man. As we become more modern, has this expectation changed? Do Naija boyfriends have financial expectations of their girlfriends? Listen to our banter and let me know what your views are.

It’s fiction to base the expectations of what you think will be a perfect spouse based on how well you synch or connect.

Introspection and assessment of all our relationships is key in order for us to reach our personal goals. Sometimes we may be the cause of the continuous downward spiral in our relationships or marriages. Sometimes we need professional help. Sometimes breaking up or getting seperated or divorced is the only way out.

Vicarious shame is hurled on the shoulders of single matured women, separated women and most especially Divorced Women in Nigeria. Living under toxic shame compromises our feeling of self worth and mental health. Living with shame doesn’t stop at us. If women do not take care, the shame will be inherited by our children. Naija Woman who is Divorced, your true wonderful self lies beneath. Be who yo...

The embers of a Narcissism keep burning the more you kow -tow and make yourself and almost invisible. They are most concerned about their own image and have little time to worry about you! Being with a narcissist is very emotionally trying. The Narcissist is a manipulator and can make you feel that you aren't giving enough or doing right by them. If you have become an echo, to repeat all that a na...

A report puts Nigeria's Paternity fraud at 30% - The worlds second highest rate. I discuss the matter and possible reasons for its occurrence.

In the last few days social and mass media has been agog with report of investigation of BBC into the matter of sexual assault by 2 lecturers in Nigeria and Ghana. It was an exposé! I have some things to say about the role that our culture and values play in condoning the matter of sexual assault generally and what we can do as a country to prevent and ameliorate it. let”s all act and say “No to a...

This podcast is inspired by #metoo. In Nigeria like many other parts of the world womens reaction to rape is often of shame. The shame is such an issue that many remain silent because society and custom make them feel they somehow had in a hand in it. When women maintain that siĺence,the society is worse of for it.

Naija Women are put into a strait jacket by culture and the media. Culture plays a tune that it expects the Naija woman to dance to whether she wants to or not or whether she is fit or not. Many women are in a living death of a Marriage because they fear the shame and ridicule society will mete out on them and their children-and so they stay on. Is the sacrifice worth it? Should the Naija Woman co...

Naija Women do a lot of things that their male counterparts do. There is a still a big divide between what a husband can do and what a wife can do. One of those things is for a wife to have a male or male friends. Our culture isn't too excited about that,whether the friendship is platonic or not. Technology has made it easy for women to have friends male or not, online without the consent or knowl...

The House Maid ,plays such a definitive role in many Nigerian homes. She has a multi - layered job description and many a time, she is the cause of many broken homes. This podcasts addresses the need for Naija Wives to re -jig the management of their homes. Naija Women claim back your honourable position!

It is not an exhaustive list but it is a hope that I have said something that will help you "fix something' in your life and attract that wonderful man!

The security of being a married woman often causes many married woman to feel they have "arrived" socially and that there is no need to stress themselves for the attention of their husbands. That's so wrong! Doing so leaves room for the other woman to take hold of your husband. With the internet,books, training and wise counsel hustle,chase and charm your man. Let his thoughts of you drive him cra...

Abuse is completely unacceptable Naija Women say No!

Abuse can be to body or mind. It is prevalent all over the world. Many a time when we look through cultural eyes, we are unable to decipher abuse, even when we are the ones experiencing it. Abuse is not an option! It is inhuman. When it is done where children it sets up a stage for the emergence of new abusers and new abused. let's fight abuse in Naija!

Culture ,religion in Naija stifles sexual expression and creativity. Women are the worse off. The Naija Man has his way of expressing himself sexually. Many women feel the need to keep suppressing what they really want sexually feom the men afraid to be seen as "useless or loose" The Naija woman must begin to live her sexual dream. opened a and honesty wirh your significant other is a long and sur...

Feelings of entitlement if not checked, May ruin a beautiful relationship or marriage. Couples should give each other space and give each other respect especially when it comes to the asset of the other.

I'm looking at Easter and a few things we can draw from lessons from, to better our happiness level. Happy Easter.

This a talk about the language of Love. How Naija people speak the language of Love!

I have a few tips for you to get out of the pain of heart break. You will come through and be just fine!

In Nigeria,it's socially frowned on for a woman to have remarried multiple times. Divorcees and widows try to "get it right" to avoid a divorce. I'm sharing with you, things that you and your Beau-to- be need to open about and discuss before you walk down the aisle again. listen! I hope this helps!

Why people cheat and how to identify a cheater.

It is a common subject of discussion that Nigerian like or love money and will do anything for it. It is also said that Nigerian women make demands from their men as if it is an entitlement. Is it so? Listen to what I have to say and draw your own conclusions.

Trust is a very big deal for couples because of their past relationships and what they have heard people do to others. Trust unfortunately cannot be bought with money and does not grow on trees. It is something that is deliberately worked at. Each party must be vulnerable to other if there is really trust. The more the vulnerability the more the Trust. Are there reasons for not trusting? Of course...