High Strung with Kamie

I thought I was easygoing. Turns out I was just terrified of being difficult. In this episode, I explore the difference between being genuinely flexible and constantly editing yourself to keep other people comfortable. We’ll talk about people-pleasing, self-abandonment, group decision-making, unwanted candles, and why trying to be likable can sometimes prevent real closeness. Because people can on...

What happens when being “the responsible one” stops being a trait… and becomes your entire identity? In this episode, Kamie breaks down how being praised for being mature, helpful, and dependable at a young age can quietly turn into chronic overfunctioning in adulthood. From sibling caretaking to group project rage to feeling responsible for literally everything, we’re unpacking the psychology beh...

There is nothing quite like a bad relationship to humble you. After my “Garbage Bag Man” era ended, I didn’t think wow, I deserve better. I thought wow… clearly I cannot be trusted to pick people. So naturally, I moved an hour away for grad school. You know — for personal growth. And witness protection. In this episode, we talk about the identity crisis that hit when I realized I had never been si...

For a long time, I thought I was being a supportive partner. Looking back… I was the emotional coordinator, life organizer, conflict diffuser, and unpaid executive assistant in my relationships. In this episode, we’re talking about over-functioning in dating — the sneaky way you can end up managing a relationship instead of actually being in one. We get into: • Becoming the “project manager” of yo...

There was a moment in my life when I realized something very important: my boyfriend thought we were heading toward marriage… while I was in a grocery store parking lot trying to figure out how to break up with him. Same relationship. Completely different movies playing in our heads. In this episode, we continue the Garbage Bag Man saga and talk about what happens when you stay in a relationship l...

On this episode of High Strung with Kamie , we continue the Garbage Bag Man saga… and this is the one where my third date somehow ended at a strip club. But the wildest part isn’t that we went — it’s that I said yes when I didn’t even want to go. Fresh out of a breakup and in the middle of a full identity spiral, I convinced myself that being “spontaneous” was the solution to my problems. What I d...

Have you ever watched a friend move way too fast in a relationship and thought this is a terrible idea ? Yeah… this time it was me. In this episode, I’m telling the story of the time a man showed up at my apartment with garbage bags and somehow just… never left. What started as a new relationship quickly turned into a crash course in people-pleasing, weak boundaries, fear of rejection, and confusi...

Have you ever dated someone for who they could become instead of who they actually are? This episode is all about the “potential trap” — the relationship dynamic that feels romantic, loyal, and hopeful… but often leaves you stuck, exhausted, and waiting for a future that never quite arrives. We’re talking about: • Why dating potential feels so good at first • How culture romanticizes waiting and “...

So… he says he’s “bad at texting.” But why does it feel like you’re the one doing all the work? In this episode of High Strung with Kamie , we break down the classic, borderline-infuriating dynamic of someone who’s charming in person… but ghost-like over text. Is it really just “bad texting skills,” or is it a clear sign of priorities and emotional availability? We dive into: Why inconsistent atte...

He lives with her. He doesn’t pay rent. He hasn’t had a job in six months. And the moment she finally gets some money to pay off debt and replace her car… he suggests they should both get new cars. Now he’s calling her selfish — and she’s wondering if she’s the problem. In this first episode of High Strung with Kamie, we break down how relationship support slowly turns into entitlement, how provid...

If someone says they’re not ready for a relationship… but treats you like their partner, what does that actually mean? This week, Kamie breaks down the confusing dynamic of someone who gives attention, affection, and consistency—without commitment. We talk mixed signals, intermittent reinforcement, cognitive dissonance, and why situationships can feel so hard to walk away from. Is this patience… o...

What happens when a relationship ends… but the connection doesn’t? This week, Kamie breaks down the confusing space between breakup and moving on. Why do we keep talking to exes? Why does it feel comforting—and why can it make healing harder? We unpack emotional attachment, breakup “limbo,” and the illusion of moving on while staying emotionally connected. Are you healing… or just delaying the gri...