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Sometimes we are ready to be honest with ourselves and sometimes we aren’t. Here are some thoughts on gentleness with wherever we are, and the value of connecting with how we truly feel, whether or not we are ready to make a decision.

Questioning everything feels overwhelming, let’s do that though, just not all at once! There are some things we don’t see as a choice and what if we did? We might be able to recommit and reconnect with our deepest values and essence and rekindle great meaning. Or we might realize that we yearn for a change and then give ourselves permission to explore the possibilities. Your life is precious, let’...

In what areas of life are you decisive? When you know how you feel about something decisiveness can feel effortless, the challenge is often knowing how you feel. Here are some thoughts on decisiveness! Challenge the assumption that decisiveness is the best! My challenge to you is to practice a decision-making process that supports bringing your life into alignment with your values, and finding the...

When you are not able to make a decision, or "not yet" make a decision, do you label it "indecision"? Indecision has such a negative connotation and when we label ourselves or others that way it can serve to demean, invalidate and harm. There are many understandable reasons to not be ready to make a decision, I wonder what would happen if you gave yourself some compassion and curiosity around your...

What decisions of other people do you judge? There is a lot we can learn about ourselves in this question. Also, I think it is important to acknowledge that we make a lot of assumptions about the decisions other people make, or that they are decisions at all. Finally, when someone expresses their essential self to you, even in a glimmer, that is our invitation to encourage, acknowledge, get curiou...

The values we prioritize in one area of life can often be vastly different in other areas of life. Maybe you like thrill-seeking adventures in your personal life and at work you want something calm and steady, for example! Knowing what factors and values are important to us is incredibly grounding and confidence building in the decision making process. Send me an email for the exercise I discuss i...

How many decisions do we make in a day? Phew! In this episode I explore a few common daily areas of decisions (and stress!). What daily decisions cause you the most stress? How might you plan, prepare or make blanket decisions to minimize that stress? 

Part 3 of "good or bad decision" series on decision-making! Sometimes the impetus to making a decision is internal.. going after your dream job/home location etc., or leaving a dissatisfying relationship or job. In this episode I share a way of thinking about these states that miiiight provide you with greater ease and space around making (or not making!) a decision. Sending so much love to you.....

Part 2 of "good or bad decision" on decision-making! Sometimes the impetus to making a decision is external (fired, or offered a job) and sometimes the impetus is internal (dissatisfied with job or choose to go after dream job). Then there is timing, do you need to make a decision in a certain time-frame or are you the one that needs to decide that too?? In this episode I give an example of how on...

Are you a good at decision-making? There are many external factors effecting our decisions, and there are many choices under our control. We are constantly making decisions. What is the story you tell about your decisions / choices in life? Join me in exploring decision-making in an effort to help you build confidence as a decision-maker and to bring your life into greater alignment with your valu...

I realized that I wasn’t doing episodes when I was traveling and I wanted to! How do you relate to yourself when you realize you aren’t making choices in alignment with your values? How might you give yourself more compassion and curiosity to make incremental changes in the direction of your values/yearnings?

When we say "yes" to going for it, it may work out how we expected and it may be totally different. Let's listen to the invitation from nature to be with what is, and what is yearning to emerge. Be gentle with yourself. Sending you lots of love!

Ever feel like you are reliving your first day of school through young people you love? Ahhh! I’m feeling it all. Let’s have compassion for ourselves and acknowledge our experience, to create space, love, and distinction from for our loved ones’ experiences. Exhale!:)

Today I am appreciating my enthusiasm and questioning our assumption that interruptions are bad.. sometimes they are wonderful and inspiring and connect us to all. When do you notice your enthusiasm emerging? How might we celebrate our enthusiasms and allow them to weave through our lives? And.. more peanut sauce content! hehehe!

We have a question from Kevin about how to give a memorable presentation, and I get to share some of my experience teaching and working with hundreds of executives and teams in silicon valley. Hear my top questions for Kevin (and for you if you have a presentation) and what I love about building relationship with an audience. Wishing you well on your next presentation! Do you have a question? subm...

I did this episode while streaming to Instagram live.. the experiment continues. How might we create expansion and openness when we engage with clients and customers instead of trying to “capture” them? Plus more reflections on “festooning”!

Sharing insights and reflections on the experiment of this podcast and my encouragement to us moving forward. In addition to “what have I learned?” I share the curiosity and wonder I have for where this is going. Saying yes to the mystery and taking one step at a time, together, each in our own ways. Sending you love!

What is your relationship with anger? I got mad today and it made me think about my relationship with anger and how we might find a path forward that integrates feeling anger as a natural emotion and allowing righteous anger to fuel positive action in alignment with our values. Sending you lots of love!

I recently articulated a mental/emotional tool I have used in my life, to support myself through the lows of life and to celebrate the high points. There are many versions of you throughout this life, we will have ups and downs and we will experience a lot of change. I believe that there are many benevolent, loving and generous versions of you throughout your life. Allow them (you) to love and sup...

How do we want to be in the "space in between"? Have you ever given 2 weeks notice? How did those two weeks feel? Or broken up with someone and still lived with them for a bit? Other "space in between" times in life last longer. How might you give yourself permission to feel how you feel? Listen to what you want and need? Finally, how are these times beautiful or even rejuvenating? Sending you lot...

Do you walk away from a meeting or conversations saying “why did I say that”? Why didn’t I say this? I reflect a lot and at times it becomes rumination. Practicing living into your values is vulnerable. Mistakes and missteps are part of the learning. Thank you for your courage to take risks and serve your purpose.

in the spirit of coming into present time I updated all my names on social media today. What are the parts of your essential self that you love? What have you resisted? How can you make more space to be fully you? What needs to be brought into present time? Head to @hibetsybeez on IG to see photos for this episode, as well as an opportunity to send questions or comments about the podcast! I would...

Have you lived with roommates/housemates? What was the most valuable and formative part of that experience? I reflect on the many roommates I have lived with in my life and the special opportunity that type of relationship provides. An increasing number of adults in the US live with roommates. Let's celebrate and honor what is made possible in these arrangements and challenge the expectations we h...

how might we practice treating one another with greater empathy and humanity? how might we create opportunities for repair, healing and education with our friends, family and communities? I recently watched the documentary "15 minutes of shame" and it really got me thinking and my heart stirring. So much to think about and reflect on. Sending so much love to you!

This morning didn’t go as planned.. often this is the case. When and where in your life does it feel appropriate to try to influence or control an unexpected situation? When might it be helpful to “ride it out” and be with what is?