Helping.Mom

Take-Away: We SUBMIT and SING to SEEING God.    Please read Ephesians 5:19-21:  19 Speak to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; 20 Give thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ; 21 Submit yourselves one to another in the fear of God. I like to say, Speak, See (God), and Serve.  Sha...

“It’s one thing for a man to live in his mother’s house; it’s another for his mother to live in his house.”  —Terry  There is much to hate about caregiving, maybe 93% of it?!? (jus kidn) 4 include: Emotionalism; Impact; Frustration, and: Feminization Share your thoughts, call or text Amy-Vet/caregiver Terry at 214 304 9822 

There are 3 phases, or stages, that care RECEIVERS go through: I dont need you--I got this I dont want you--you dont do anything right I demand you-why arent you?  (maybe a 4th: I cant have you)  

The greatest threat to caregivers is isolation Caregiving isolates us-- physically from family, friends & positive social relationships emotionally from care receiver spiritually from God--Is THIS all there is? WHAT is the point?  The 3 primary causes of isolation: Principles, ethics, morals, standards, expectations, spirituality Pain Plan-lessness leading to Panic Cures for Caregiving Isolati...

The path to isolation is marked by 3 steps: 1) pain begins journey—usually words as talebearer that go deep. Isolation seems safe. 2). you take counsel of self (echo chamber), where your perspective + ideas seem best because unchecked. 3) if/when you do emerge conflict ensues—hence wars (see James) with others, or further retreat. The isolation pattern is born, like every rap star spitting out lyr...

The Caregiver’s Christmas Song Each year at Christmas time a different hymn has special meaning to me. It’s lyrics, it’s melody, it's new singer or composition. This year is O Holy Night, for this is a caregiver’s hymn. I have streamed 75+ different singers & groups perform it this past week. It acurately captures 3 tenets of caregiving. But do you know it’s fascinating history? Have you read...

The Pretty Feet of Caregivers -- What the strangest verse in Bible about feet has to do with caregivers, today on helping.mom  WHAT kind of feet do you have? Egyptian, Greek, Roman, Peasant, or Asian? Look at pic on google, then compare.  NOW, are your feet beautiful as caregiver?  Text: the strangest verse in Bible speaks of pretty feet…  In NT we are told this about caregiver feet:  Hebrews 12:1...

Catholic dead-saint Anthony: Satan uses 3 things to trap us: regret for past; ingratitude for present, fear of future. I believe all three of these are at heart of bitterness, and describe perfectly modern American culture. What to do when your mother gives you the middle finger. Bitterness in Caregiving.   Malice is at the core of bitterness and 4 other destructive (Eph 4:32) behaviors.  Bitterne...

On this the worst Thanksgiving Day of my life, still, we give thanks as caregivers.  1) Thankfulness is not an emotion. It is based on value and promise. You are valuable because God made you, because Christ died for your sins, because the Holy Spirit inhabit you, and because God will receive you. Your value is connected to his promise. 2) Thankful does not mean I am happy because of all the thing...

Contact Helping. Mom (we don’t spam) There are 2 layers of caregiving, one masculine the other feminine. And we need both. Which are you?  The Book of Jude First, the book or letter of Jude. If you are tired of fake formal religion, what some call Christianity in Golden Slippers, read this incredible small book, by Jesus’ half-brother (brother of James). In this letter Jude challenges real from fa...

Contact Helping. Mom (we don’t spam) Who to hire to help you?  The difference between men and women is seen clearly when asking this question: what is the most important thing when hiring a helper for your mother?  The woman will say things like “she must be kind and generous and gracious and patient and loving and sweet and so forth." The man will respond "nonsense.  Here is what she really must...

Contact Helping. Mom (we don’t spam) Today we look at book by Messie Condo "Nobody Wants your [Stuff]". Please also listen to my own podcasts 32 and 33, for more info. Please also share your experiences, at info@helping.mom

Contact Helping. Mom (we don’t spam) 29 countries, 234 new cities now listening to helping.mom, including new friends below!    Mount Laurel, NJ Oakland, CA Helsinki, Finland  Kanasin, Yucatán  Rensselaer, IN (home of "Brian's Song"  movie, and Speaker of US House of Reps Charlie Halleck) West Lafayette, IN  My 6 goals of being caregiver for my mom:   Integrity--subjective, objective, character/co...

Contact Helping. Mom (we don’t spam) Matthew 10:24-5  The disciple is not above his master, nor the servant above his lord. It is enough for the disciple that he be as his master, and the servant as his lord. So what does this mean? Who is He? What about Him are we to be like?  We cant be: Son of God, Saviour of World, Ruler of Heaven & Earth, Messiah, King, Judge, Creator....So how CAN we be...

Contact Helping. Mom (we don’t spam) The hardest thing to do in life is to remember God. He is gone like the morning dew in the desert of Yuma. He vanishes on way up, on way down, and in busy-ness in between. When is the last time you thought about God, for, say, more than 15-seconds straight?  What is is about caregiving that causes us to forget Him even more? Well, everything about caregiving ca...

Contact Helping. Mom (we don’t spam) Rejoice that God has given you this hard work, and He has qualified you for it.  Rejoice that His works are eternal, and your work is absorbed within His own.  Rejoice that crowns await you, fashioned by His hands to fit your head perfectly.  Rejoice your care receiver is alive, and you are here, responsible--serving.  Rejoice your kids see your example, and no...

Contact Helping. Mom (we don’t spam) Questions every caregiver asks vs ONE we should ask  How long is it going to last?  What is the impact of this upon me—my ____?  What changes do I need to make to ___?  Do we have enough money?  Can I do this? What if my CR ___falls, gets sick, vomits, loses mind, gets worse, becomes violent? Am I going to have to change her diapers? (Or other awful fear)  HOW...

My take as Army Vet/caregiver: Charlie Kirk was a Cultural Caregiver to our nation, strengthening minds & hearts through speech, reason, & debate. He is why we have the 1st Amendment in our Constitution. He was murdered for his faith in Jesus Christ, and for taking the “leaven” of faith serious in his life & work. Let us as caregivers to our own loved ones serve them today in peace and...

Contact Helping. Mom (we don’t spam) Matthew 8: 5-10 Elements of US Army (indeed, of all US Military) is same as our Caregiving: MISSION  RECON SITREP RISK  PLAN OPORD COMMS Hooah!  Send ideas to Info@helping.mom

Contact Helping. Mom (we don’t spam) Make sure you Listen to end on this podcast.  4 Mental Images of Sameness dominate our thinking: Groundhog Day Movie, Prison Cells, Chinese Water Torture, and Mouse Wheels. But let us examine these more closely.  Is it sameness we dislike so much, or something deeper?  Whatever it is, really, how can we combat it?  Please listen and share your thoughts today, a...

Contact Helping. Mom (we don’t spam) It’s interesting that Jesus tells us to pray. To work, yes. But to pray, why? He equates working and praying as synonymous, with no distinction to be drawn between them.  Like 2 wings on same plane. Yet we tend to gravitate toward one extreme or other.

Contact Helping. Mom (we don’t spam) This week I received a great compliment from a current customer, who said to me he hopes I keep doing what I am doing for others, so that when his kids get older I can help them too. This is nice to hear.  Tabitha was a caregiver through her acts of “good works” and Almsgiving. She was also a widow. What work(s) will survive your passing? What will you leave be...

Contact Helping. Mom (we don’t spam) Today I share such helpful advice from caregivers given to another caregiver who's son just passed from Sepsis, a horrible medical condition.  Share your own stories with me at Info@helping.mom Please pray for this dear, grieving mother.  

Contact Helping. Mom (we don’t spam) 7 Things you can do GREAT as caregiver that require NO talent,skill or experience.  1. Being present, I’m Here (posters of GIs on walls at Dachau)   2. Making Effort, doing something to help. The way people can do it for years is because it is so gradual. Same as serving a prison sentence. Or getting through school.  3. Having Positive Attitude, thinking on bri...

Contact Helping. Mom (we don’t spam) Do you have Feeding lips or Bleeding lips? Heart-Tongue Corridor of the Caregiver Proverbs 10:21: "The lips of the righteous feed many." I am a hypocrite! I promise you--I violate every thing I am going to share with you today. But I am reminded, that tho we stumble, we do not fall. Today several Verses on the Heart-Tongue relationship of Caregiver, with very l...