Alexandra Hayes Robinson

Hello Hayes

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Hello Hayes is an advice column podcast. Originally known for her advice column on TikTok, Hayes brings a clear, curious, and emotionally intelligent voice to long-form audio. Her work — featured in BuzzFeed, The New York Times , and CBS — explores the questions beneath the surface: Who am I, really? What gets in the way of that? And how do I keep showing up as someone I recognize? This isn’t about self-help shortcuts or expert advice. It’s about asking the right questions, honoring your process, and knowing you’re not alone in it. Whether you’re navigating a major life shift or craving more c...

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Alexandra Hayes Robinson

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Be Right Back After the Break! 31.03.2026 29:05

Hayes makes an announcement about her move, this podcast, and what the future holds. Plus, eight pieces of advice to lead you through your next chapter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"My Boyfriend's Friend Group is Fake!" 24.03.2026 23:38

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"I'm Jealous of My Friend For Marrying Rich" 17.03.2026 33:38

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“Is It Selfish That I Don’t Want This Baby (Yet)?” 10.03.2026 53:51

This week, I respond to a listener who’s unexpectedly pregnant and struggling with the emotional conflict that comes with her choice of what to do. We talk about timing, being a planner, loneliness, and the complexity of feeling two things at once. This isn’t a debate about abortion — it’s about her feelings. Thanks for listening! CBD Gummies I mentioned: https://go.shopmy.us/p-46648017 [code HELL...

"My Boyfriend Won't Stop Oversharing!" 03.03.2026 48:23

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“I Want My Ex to Leave Me Alone!” 24.02.2026 36:39

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"My Friend Wants to Be the Most Important!" 17.02.2026 46:42

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"Should I Go To My Sister's Wedding?" 10.02.2026 45:30

In this episode, a letter writer is torn between attending her sister’s wedding and staying true to the life she’s chosen. Hayes explores the fear of disappointing family, the grief that follows big personal change, and how to make decisions when every option carries a loss. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"My Boyfriend Left Me for His Best Friend" 03.02.2026 1:05:12

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“I Thought I’d Be Thriving By 30” 27.01.2026 1:00:34

In today’s episode, a 30‑year‑old listener feels lost in her dream job. Hayes talks about the identity crisis of turning 30, the grief of outgrowing old dreams, and what it really means when your unhealthy patterns come back. Send letters to hellohayesadvice@gmail.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"My Husband Won’t Talk About Having Kids" 20.01.2026 52:59

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"I Don't Know How to End This Friendship" 13.01.2026 41:37

Today’s letter asks: How do you break up with a friend when they’re going through something hard? This episode explores the guilt, the timing, and the emotional confusion of stepping back from a friendship that no longer feels healthy. We talk about: ⭐why leaving can feel morally wrong ⭐the difference between compassion and self‑abandonment ⭐when a slow fade helps… and when it doesn’t ⭐how to...

“My Boyfriend Said Something I Can’t Unhear” 06.01.2026 57:36

In the first episode of 2026, a listener writes in after her boyfriend (while blacked out at the bar) called her a name she can’t unhear. Now she’s stuck between the relationship she knows and the truth she’s afraid to look at. We talk about the role alcohol plays in conflict, what it means when someone insists they “didn’t mean it,” and the difference between not lying and not having the language...

"Can My Husband Be My Best Friend?" (Six Besties FAQ) 30.12.2025 45:12

A holiday rerun answering your most-asked Six Besties Theory questions. Can your partner be your best friend? Can you have more than one North Star? How do you know what kind of bestie you are to other people? This episode explores how friendship shifts over time, how to grieve those changes, and how to build a friendship ecosystem that actually supports you. I'll be back with new episodes on Tues...

"Why Am I Never the Priority?" 23.12.2025 1:05:24

A holiday rerun from a listener who feels like none of her friendships are truly reciprocal — and wonders what that pattern might be trying to tell her. I'll be back with new episodes on Tuesday, Jan 6! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"My Best Friend Doesn't Have My Back" 16.12.2025 38:45

Revisiting a listener favorite while we take a break for the holidays

“Has Our Friendship Drifted Beyond Repair? 09.12.2025 41:06

The letter writer wasn't invited on her best friend's birthday trip. Then she got the last-minute invite. Will going on the trip save the friendship? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"I’ve Never Had a Friend Group!" 02.12.2025 37:25

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“My In-Laws Ignore My Holiday Sadness” 25.11.2025 52:44

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“My Friends Expect More Than I Can Give!” 18.11.2025 45:31

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"Why Am I So Afraid to Move Back Home?" 11.11.2025 47:15

Where a letter writer questions her resistance to moving back to the city she's from. + updates on my personal moving journey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“My Friends Always Complain About Their Weight!” 04.11.2025 46:49

"...and I never seem to say the right thing in response." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"My Anxiety is Sabotaging My Dating Life" 28.10.2025 52:03

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“I Cheated on the Perfect Man. How Do I Move On?” 21.10.2025 42:58

"I am stuck with my own mistake and I'm afraid my relationship is tainted forever by my own flaws. How do I forgive myself?" Send your letter to hellohayesadvice@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"I Need My Parents to Comfort Me But They Won't" 14.10.2025 40:24

In this week's Hello Hayes, a letter writer is scared to tell her parents about her recent break-up with a partner of seven years. They were "attached" to him and were proud of her for being in such a "happy" and "successful" relationship. Let's advice! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices