Heart Versus Head

If you've ever had one of those arguments that the Head partner couldn't move past... this episode explains part of the issue. When issues are discussed, Hearts will focus on the way everyone is feeling about the issue. They want to make it feel better so they can move past it. Heads are trying to identify the logical errors and so they don't get resolution from simply an apology. T...

Happy 4th of July... In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore ways that couples can bring the fireworks back into their relationship. Whether you've been together a long time and gotten a bit predictable - or you're in a new relationship and trying to add some zing - we've got a couple of simple things that can really make a big difference. #HeartVersusHead #relationshipFireworks...

Randy crashed out. He was angry and ready to give up and walk away from even doing this week's podcast. When Heads get maxed out, they can shut down and explode. Hearts get maxed out too - especially when the Head is being angry. In this episode, Randy and Beverly take you inside their moment of being maxed out. Jump in and see how these problems arise and how to defuse them. If you feel like...

In this episode, Randy and Beverly are sharing some quick and simple ways that you and your partner can recover some of that missing connection. Life is tough sometimes and all couples will experience disconnected moments. As connection fades, conflict rises. These are the suggestions that can turn the problem around so you both can get back to being awesome... together.  There are suggestions for...

If you've ever had a disagreement that ended up in the Head partner storming off in a huff before the Heart partner even gets to the "important" part of what they were trying to say, then this episode is for you. This episode is for every Heart who has a lot of words and every Head who is overwhelmed by those words at times. Randy and Beverly help both partners understand how Hearts...

Have you been having the same argument for a decade? Are you both so stuck in your unmovable position that neither is willing to change? Have you become stale mates? Or at least reached a stalemate? In this episode, Randy and Beverly unpack what Heart and Head are each doing to fuel the problem. Then they offer some things that each partner should consider doing differently to get through the stal...

What are you building in your relationship with your limited human energy? We all have a set amount of energy available to get through the day, the week, the life. Are you using too much energy on the negative aspects of the relationship? How do you begin to turn that around. In this episode of Heart Versus Head, Randy and Beverly talk about their new book Heart Versus Head: How to Communicate and...

Sometimes you need to step back to get your partner to step toward you. In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore how the Heart partner often ends up in Head mode when they're too busy pursuing the Head. The trick... is to step back into being a Heart, which creates room for the Head partner to dance a little too. #lifesadance #HeartVersusHead  Send us Fan Mail Heart Versus Head is a podcast...

How does forgiveness work for Hearts and Heads? Why is so dang hard for Heads to say "I'm sorry." And why does it feel like Hearts say "I'm sorry" ALL THE TIME. In this episode of the Heart Versus Head podcast, Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddock dive into apologizing and how to get to real forgiveness. #heartVersusHead #ithinkitsaboutforgiveness  Send us Fan Mail Hear...

At the core of how we each operate in our relationships is the guiding concept of Heart and Head. As people are learning about Heart and Head, they see some similarities between it and other relationship models. In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain how Heart and Head is different and, yet, intertwined to the concepts of feminine, masculine, Mars, Venus and even attachment styles. Understandi...

Judging. You know you're doing it. It's natural. It's the comparison nature of having a human brain. You compare yourself to others and that very human action comes with judgement. In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore a better way to judge a partner. Whether you're dating someone and wondering if they're a fit or you're married and trying to understand your part...

Are you frustrated by the amount of 'pushback' in your relationship? Does it seem like every little thing is analyzed and critiqued? Or does your partner constantly jump in with 'fixes' you didn't ask for? While all relationships experience these kinds of friction points, why are these differences important in building a strong relationship. (And please excuse Randy in thi...

In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain why Hearts and Heads need to "get a life!" Finding your individual interests and outside support networks can make a ton of difference in a relationship. Also in this episode, you'll meet the annoying rooster that lives outside the office (naming suggestions can be emailed to info@HeartAndHeadCoaching.com ). When we rely on solely our partn...

Randy's head is about to explode. In this episode, Randy has reached a level of exasperation with Heart clients who think their Head partners are just supposed to somehow know what the Heart needs. Dive deeper as we explore why most Hearts have an expectation that their partner just somehow magically knows the right thing to do.  Send us Fan Mail Heart Versus Head is a podcast about relations...

Do you and your partner have the same definition of love? Are you sure? We've found that the Heart partner and the Head partner see love in very different ways. Hearts are feeling it. Heads are managing it. Find out why that matters so much as Randy and Beverly talk about how love is defined.  Send us Fan Mail Heart Versus Head is a podcast about relationship styles and how those relationship...

In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain why Heart/Heart relationships and Head/Head relationships don't work like you think they might. Listen and consider how all relationships seek the balance of Heart and Head. The secret isn't finding someone who has a relationship style just like yours, it's about finding the person who can balance your style, create polarity, and slide the...

Why do we seem drawn to the bad relationships of the past? Have you ever been in a good relationship but felt like you were craving an old partner - even if the old relationship was horrible? Or maybe you keep dating the same kind of problem. What's wrong with us? What's wrong with our brains? Why do trauma bonds have such a strong draw. In this episode of Heart Versus Head, Randy and Be...

In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain why fighting deeper is so important, especially when it comes to those arguments that seem to repeat themselves for years on end. If you've been fighting about the same thing over and over and over and over and over... this episode will show you an easier way. It's time to really get under the hood and fix this relationship for good. Vroom! Vroo...

Humans generally know it. When we're in a disagreement, we're slinging hurt. So why is it so hard to slow down with our partner and see that they're hurting. In this episode of Heart Versus Head, Randy and Beverly explain how hurt disguises itself as anger, defensiveness, withdrawal and a whole bunch of other tricky emotions when hurt shows up in a relationship. When you learn to re...

In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain why the honeymoon phase can't last forever. And why trying to get it back is actually the wrong approach - relationally and scientifically. And they'll explain how you can learn to communicate in a way that helps you finally achieve something much better than the honeymoon phase - something you've always wanted.  Send us Fan Mail Heart Vers...

Is your relationship getting heated? Are you feeling more angry these days? In this episode of Heart Versus Head, Randy and Beverly dive into why anger shows up in relationships and how you can navigate the angry moments with more compassion.  Send us Fan Mail Heart Versus Head is a podcast about relationship styles and how those relationship styles influence communication in the most important re...

On the one year anniversary of the Heart Versus Head podcast, Randy and Beverly discuss how the podcast almost killed them, explain why they argued about the title of this episode, and finally tell the story of how they met. Plus, they've got some practical insight into how the small, often unnoticed things couples have in common can make a big difference in a relationship. #HeartVersusHead ...

What do you do that triggers your partner? What do you that causes them to blow up like a landmine? For Randy, it's criticism. For Beverly, it's looking over her shoulder. But how do you handle those things as a couple? How do you avoid the landmines to keep from triggering each other? Then, how do you defuse those things so you aren't always walking through a minefield? In this epi...

In this episode, Randy and Beverly help couples explore why we put so much pressure on our partners and ourselves when it comes to happiness. When it is someone's responsibility to make you happy... they're going to let you down. Not because they don't love you but because they're human too. How can couples break the cycle and find their happiness again?    Send us Fan Mail Hea...

In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore why relationships tend to experience less "fun" over time. Many couples talk about how things 'used to be' exciting and fun but now they're stuck in a world of sitting on the couch at the end of the day without the connection they used to share. Relationships will all experience a dip in the fun factor - for lots of reasons - and...