Healing with WORTH

We have a special episode for you today! Naomi and Janeen were invited to be on the amazing Choose To Be podcast with Choose Recovery Services' therapist Alana Gordon and Amie Woosley. Our hosts share a little bit more about their stories and how they came to be the hosts of the Healing with Worth podcast.  We discuss the importance of having support when you are going through betrayal trauma...

Another analogy to our series!  Here we are discussing the greenhouse analogy. This term, along with many others, comes from the director of Life Changing Services, Maurice Harker, who has studied psychology and human relationships for the last 25+ years. He often uses this term to help those women who are looking to repair their marriages, but it can also be applied to those who are needing...

Wishing you all a Happy Thanksgiving!  We know that the holidays can be a hard time of year when dealing with betrayal trauma, so we didn't want to leave you without a podcast and hopefully a little upliftment.  In this episode, we talk about the wonderful gifts healing from betrayal trauma brings into our lives. Those range from having the words to explain the struggles we deal with to...

Today, we are explaining the buffalo/cow analogy!  This analogy comes from Rory Vanden in his book "Take the Stairs". He indicates in his book that we all have storms in our lives. Rory grew up in the state of Colorado. Because of the topographical landscape, it's one of the only places in the world that has buffalo and cows. When storms start brewing, both of these animals react in different...

We are back with Jody Steurer and Jamee Adams for Part 2 of our discussion talking more about anger in social situations as well as church culture! Talking about anger, we feel that we cannot talk about boundaries along with it. One of the reasons we may feel anger is because of the expectations of other people that we might do things for. If we do feel anger, that may mean that we may need to set...

We are interviewing two sisters in this episode, Jody Steurer and Jamee Adams! These women are the creators of the Speak Up Sister podcast (link below). Grounded in the doctorine of the church of Jesus Christ, Jamee and Jody draw from His gospel and the latest scientific research to bring validation, education, tools and support to women all over the world. They're conversations are often geared t...

In this episode, we discuss the emotion of anger. We feel that there are a lot of misconceptions around anger, so we wanted to talk a little more in depth. To help us in this task, we are also pulling from Harriet Lerner's book "The Dance of Anger" to better help us explain from a therapist!  Harriet Lerner says, "Anger exists for a reason, and it always deserves our attention and respect."&n...

Pioneer Woman Mode, a term Maurice Harker, director of Life Changing Services, deemed for women who are struggling in the world of their spouses sexual misbehaviors. This term has been used throughout many of our podcasts, so we thought we'd dive a little deeper into explaining what really is "pioneer woman mode". "Pioneer Woman mode embodies the sacrifice that Mormon Utah Pioneer women made. Thes...

Are you feeling stuck in your betrayal trauma? Maybe don't understand why?  We have Tammy Gustafson back with us in this episode. She helps us go over the ways we might get stuck in our healing process from betrayal trauma. Below she lists the most common ways and a little insight into why: 1. Shame 2. Anger 3. Focusing on his emotions rather than hers 4. He's doing a lot of work, b...

What a great way to end our discussion on the ways betrayal trauma affects our relationship with God, priesthood leaders, and church culture! We do hope that you feel the spirit of healing as Kim Day gives us more insight into her personal story on this episode!  Kim opens up and talks about a personal experience she had when she first came into Worth as a participant. She had written a lette...

We have Worth therapist, Kim Day back with us talking about betrayal trauma and the way it affects our relationship with God, priesthood leaders, and church culture. In this episode, we dive a little deeper into the expectations we have around the church and possible ways of how to reconcile them.  First, starting off by praying to God if we should continue into marriage with a future sp...

Do we have expectations of what life was supposed to look like?  Especially when faith was such a core component and is such a core component of our identity. Here in this episode, Worth therapist, Kim Day talks about how this type of trauma really hits our identity in so many different ways. She lists at least 3 major reasons that our faith or our relationship with God or our emotions around...

Are there resources for teen girls and women struggling with pornography?  Statistics show that 30% of women struggle with pornography.  This is not a "male" problem and women need help too.   We sat down with Aneladee Milne, director of Daughters of Light and Women Warriors of Light part of Life Changing Services to learn more about these programs and how they help teen girls and w...

One more re-release for summer before new episodes come back next week! We hope you've enjoyed them.  There was so much more we felt we wanted to cover on the topic of sexual abuse that we are back with clinicians Alana Gordon and Kimberly Day. Kim and Alana explain that we may have received unhealthy ideas or messages growing up about sexuality from our families of origin, church culture, or...

Another re-release of some of our favorite episodes during this summer break with all of you. We will have new episodes for you in September!  We are back with clinicians Alana Gordon and Kimberly Day to discuss another aspect of abuse; Sexual Abuse.  Kim expresses that there is a difference between sexual impact caused by a spouse's addiction and unhealthy sexual behaviors versus sexual...

As we take a little summer break with all of you, we wanted to re-release some of our favorite episodes. We will have new episodes for you in September!  After our interview with Dr. Manning we wanted to further discuss the topic of creating safety through setting boundaries.   Living with a sex addict is risky behavior as they may be living a secret life unknown to us.   How do we...

As we take a little summer break we wanted to re-release some of our favorite episodes.  We will have new episodes for you in September! We had the pleasure of having licensed clinician Jeanne Vattuone coming and speaking to us on the topic of healthy sexuality.  Jeanne breaks us out of our comfort zone as she addresses sensitive topics: What does healthy sexuality look like in a relatio...

Come and meet Hali the Intake Coordinator--the voice on the other end of the phone. Hali started her path down this healing journey about 6 years ago when she found Life-Changing Services during a series of crises that happened in her marriage. She has trained under Maurice Harker and his team and worked in different capacities at Life Changing Services ever since. She is a Life Coach, a Betrayal...

In this last interview with author Noelle McBride she shares with us that we are meant to experience joy in this life, in every facet of our lives, through trials, heartache, and repentance.  When we are in the midst of trials, trauma and heartache, what can this mean for us and how can we access this joy?   We are so grateful for Noelle coming and taking the time to share her journey an...

Is joy possible when going through betrayal trauma, a separation, or divorce?  In this second interview with author Noelle McBride she shares with us how becoming a "ruthless editor of her life" helped her find joy going through divorce.  Often as latter-day saint women, we struggle with wondering where we belong in the great plan of happiness if our lives are looking very different from...

We had the privilege of interviewing Noelle McBride to discuss her new book Beauty for Ashes, Divorce and The Latter-day Saint Woman.  As she talks about her divorce you can hear some of the many internal struggles that Christian women go through, especially women of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, due to our understanding of the eternal nature of families and marriages. We are of...

After betrayal there are many internal struggles that a mother faces as she tries to meet her own emotional needs and then balance those with the needs of her children.  In the hard moments we "should ourselves" or in other words give ourselves guilt trips about all the things we think we should be doing.  That can be pretty common with women in general, but then you throw the mom guilt...

In this last episode of Hers, His and Our recovery we felt like this particular topic was a little out of our scope.  And then we realized there are benchmarks that both of us are looking for to know if he is ready to take the next step of couples recovery with us. And so we're going to share with you some of those benchmarks that we are looking for to know that our relationship is ready to go to...

Continuing our discussion on Mine, His, and Our Recovery, in this episode we talk about his recovery.  In the beginning of our own recovery journey, this was important for us to understand because we felt like we needed information and tools to be able to discern whether or not he was in recovery.  One important lesson we have learned is we cannot control or manage his recovery.   L...

On the podcast we talk about recovery all the time and we wanted to break it down and be more specific. Over the next 3 episodes we talk about what our recovery looks like as betrayed, what his recovery looks like as the betrayer or the addicted, and then what couple recovery looks like. These are three separate categories in this process that sometimes we want to lump all together under the umbre...