Healing through Pain

Step one was showing up. Step two is being brave. If you're not feeling that yet, take a listen!

So many things can invite change into our stories! But, there is one launching point in anyone's narrative that will overhaul things in immeasurable ways. Take a quick listen. Share if this adds value!

A question of curiosity. When we start asking it, and stretching towards answering it, some pretty interesting things may start happening!

Is there rage showing up? Let's talk about how we get there. What's next?

It is a gritty episode but it walks through a therapy session where we acknowledge an assault and prepare to confront the perpetrator if the context arises.

There are some questions to consider as we decide what we are willing to tolerate. It is succinct, yet thought-provoking! Take a quick listen.

What if your discomfort and pain are not the priority? What if my discomfort and my pain are not the priority? What breakdowns are happening when we default to these postures of avoiding discomfort and pain?

It is a common question . . . "what about them?". The work comes in when we instead ask "what about me?". Our control is limited when it is externalized, but real change can happen when we begin to explore our roles, responsibilities, and opportunities.

Resolutions and overhauls can work. But usually, it takes just one gentle decision to change everything.

Learn your rhythms to lead into healthy intrapersonal and interpersonal wellness. Emotions aren't as mysterious as we tend to think. Let's track our reactions and prepare accordingly!

We all have our unique contributions to give. What might it cost when we expect others to conform to our preferences?

Often, when we experience rejection, we can assume it is saying something negative about us. What if it is just about incompatibility?

Something happened, and you adapted. Often, there were limited choices. Now that you are older and wiser, perhaps readapting is an option. Take a quick listen!

When we do extra for others - things that they can or should be doing themselves - it can seem loving, but perhaps it is actually not as loving as we might think. Take a quick listen.

There are many truths we need to settle into, and one is that living well invites pain into our stories. There is no way around it. Take a quick listen.

As we approach the holidays, some stories look different than what we might want. Palpable grief may be present. Let's talk about what it means to feel the feelings - and why it is the very thing we need to move forward in our stories.

If you choose to engage this challenge, this next year could seriously change the trajectory of your life and your relationships. It is for your good. It is for the good of others. Take a quick listen.

We use a case to track through disrupting unhelpful thought patterns that can have subpar results in relationships. He is not irresponsible. She is not a nag. Now we need to train our brains accordingly!

It is easy to get caught up in black and white thinking and figuring out solutions. However, wherever we land, there will be tradeoffs to make. Change is not always so simple.

We should be engaging in our civic duty this week, but what else should we be doing? Elections are a way to use our voice, but we could be using them in additional ways too! Engage. Act!

It is an important question to ask when we have the choice to engage discomfort and pain: will this step be for my good? If the answer is yes, perhaps stepping into discomfort and pain is the choice we should be making!

It is easy to overlook when things begin to break down. But, what is the cost? Take a quick listen about how diving in and examining some wreckage is for our good. Honesty about what is happening is the best way to move forward.

Why do we do the things we do? Are we living a life where the motives are oriented towards changing out of love? Or, are we depending on guilt, duty, or fear to get us to change. If it is the latter, let's take a look at that!

We will have to make apologies; we will get things wrong. But as life goes on, we should be changing, growing, and learning to do better. Not everyone loves that for us. We may have to make apologies, but not for changing.

There is immaturity afoot when we refuse to see the evil parts in others, and the evil parts in ourselves. Wellness and health includes understanding evil.