Healing through Pain

New seasons involve new patterns. As we shift from one to the next, grief and a felt sense of loss can show up - even when there is clarity!

Episode 303 - Carrying it Alone by Healing through Pain

Seismic shifts can take seismic amounts of time to work on repairing and healing. Can we give people that time without trying to expedite the process? Are we willing to weep with those who weep?

Anxiety can be managed! It is not about getting it to go away as much is it might need to be about getting it harnessed in the most helpful ways! Take a listen

The "no" is important. So too is developing what works for us and inviting others into negotiating terms of engagement. These are life skills that help support healthful relationships.

Episode 299 - Practice Like it Matters Becuase it Does by Healing through Pain

Let's practice saying no together. It is a complete explanation. We can get stronger at this with practice!

In any relationship there are two people, and there are two sets of responsibilities. Thinking through each person's responsibilities can help us decide where to set some boundaries.

In Part II of our boundaries series, we dive into dynamics and strategies that are important to observe when we are navigating relationships. Through Transactional Analysis, we look at the strategies people might use to coerce outcomes that they desire. Getting savvy about what we are seeing is imperative when we are deciding and enforcing boundaries

Part 1 of 5: Locus of control as a starting point for boundary setting. Take a listen to how we can begin to get clear on what our boundaries through values clarifications.

Listen for how these two elements help up develop clearer relational boundaries. It doesn't enforce a boundary - but it can help us language and add precision to what we are asking.

The struggle is where the growth happens. This beautiful metaphor helps illustrate how vital the growing pains are for us to become who we desire to be. Pairing committed action with struggle develops us in intentional ways.

In a companion episode to last week, how are we talking to ourselves when weak spots emerge? Whether it's failure or not-yet-developed skills, we can find pathways through . . . and trying again is an option.

When failure is a part of life, and we don't handle it well, it may cost us! Take a listen for encouragement around navigating failure.

When we take aim, the short term and the long term should be oriented in the same direction. Take a listen for the bidirectionality of goal setting.

Even when we are ready to make the change, the emotions will need to be experienced as we go.

Asking some questions about self and others can help propel a deeper understanding when relational ruptures happen.

Identity emerges with committed action over time! Also, please forgive the static and the cut/splice! I was able to salvage only some content with the audio file glitched!

Most gains we make are on the other side of sacrifice and on the other side of submission. Are we willing to let go to see what else might emerge?

It's true that we do not have to confront our pain, clean up our inner landscape, and work on healing. It is also true that there is a cost - and not just to ourselves.

I barely have words. These words only form questions. No answers. How have we arrived here?

As we engage intentional living, it takes a while to get each domain of life developed. If DOES take time. And each area of life is important. Let's explore this together!

Intentional living will always require sacrifice. Perhaps we aren't always clear what we are signing up for. Maybe that's the way it is supposed to be!

Establishing life priorities and creating plans that allow us to walk them out is a key piece of intentional and healthful living. What are the priorities?

It takes intentional effort to put things into helpful sequencing. When we take time to do it, though, it can push back against anxiety in significant ways!